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Episode 5: Etiquette Has Entered the Chat

November 04, 2021 • Dela*Nique

In this episode, we talk about all things ETIQUETTE. Is there such a thing as etiquette in relationships, friendships or even on social media? We think so!

Meghan Trainor and her husband have a bathroom with two toilets sitting right next to each other! Do you use the bathroom in front of your partner? Do you inform your partner about large purchases before purchasing? Would you pay off your partners debt? Do you have to wish your partner happy birthday on social media? Is there ever a time where your friend comes over too much? Is there etiquette on how your friend dresses when your partner is around? What about if your friend walks around with the cheeks out in front of your boo?

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00:00:01:28 - 00:00:19:01
Unknown
*Music* All right. Hi, guys. Hey, people, Mic Check 1212. The girls are in the building. Did you miss us? I hope you did. But yes, we missed you.

00:00:20:26 - 00:00:37:10
Unknown
Yes. Yes, you miss. Well, go. Welcome back, everybody. Welcome. How are you guys doing? You guys been up till, yeah, really. Really. We've been good. I love your hair. Can I just say that Scary Spice? You know what?

00:00:37:11 - 00:00:54:11
Unknown
You know what? She looks amazing. I do look amazing. Honestly, she does. And I wow. When I came in, I'm like, Oh my god. Wow. I got the big pom poms and top of my head. My English accent isn't quite there like it was in you before I did live there, but now it's quite gone.

00:00:54:19 - 00:01:06:09
Unknown
You know what we got to watch? Go watch Spice World. I do have to watch Spice, so I got to spice up my life. To take a sick, sick, sick, sick. Oh my god. You know we. I. Yes.

00:01:06:15 - 00:01:22:05
Unknown
Spice Girl fanatics? Yes. Before we get into our times, I want to tell you about my gardener. Oh, she's just so cute. I just love him so much. I don't know how God dropped a beautiful gardener right in my lap.

00:01:22:05 - 00:01:36:17
Unknown
Right on. You're right in your backyard. Yeah. Not in my lap. Yes. Right in. You're right in your backyard. He's in my backyard. Sorry, I should have a get together. But yeah, I mean, he's just gorgeous, but he's super cute.

00:01:36:28 - 00:01:47:05
Unknown
I just look at him. I'd be like, So where are you on creeper mode? Like out the window? Kind of. I'm on creeper Moses. Oh my god, do this. You need to gardener that I've ever seen in my life.

00:01:47:17 - 00:01:59:20
Unknown
And he just be talking to me, be like, I know you do, too. And I forget everything that I have to do. I'm like, You know, you got to clean up the yeah, scrub. Yeah, yeah. Tripping up a little bit.

00:01:59:23 - 00:02:14:01
Unknown
No, I don't care that the lawn isn't cut. Well, just that I just went back. Make sure you come here, every girl here, you got to keep me updated with that one. You know, I don't know how there's nothing to update.

00:02:14:01 - 00:02:27:01
Unknown
You know, he comes every Wednesday. It's just super fine. This is so beautiful. You know what? Yeah, but you never know. You never know that. No, I ain't going down that route. You're not going down the road. You're going to stare from afar.

00:02:27:06 - 00:02:45:04
Unknown
Yes, with binoculars. Sometimes he's just super cute. Light is just beautiful. Oh, I love that, though. OK, no. Listen, you know, look, I need some eye candy. You've got it everywhere. I got a gardener. Cute. He's cute. Hey, hey, sit on my lap.

00:02:45:04 - 00:03:02:28
Unknown
Let me sit on your lap. Got another. Got in there. Let me see the good, though. If he ever hears this, you know, you know where I live. You know my backyard gave me. OK, well, OK, I've got to get how you live.

00:03:04:22 - 00:03:25:04
Unknown
Yes, but yes, folks. Let's get down to business. We don't talk about etiquette. You're right, etiquette, what etiquette, etiquette, etiquette and relationships, etiquette with family, etiquette with friends, kids, all all. Yes. OK. Yes. So we don't start out even animals if you think about it.

00:03:26:16 - 00:03:38:13
Unknown
We'll get there, we'll get there. Oh, I'm gonna throw that in there, ed animals. Yeah, because I imagine like somebody comes over, are they nice to your pet or do you not? Oh, so poor people's kids, you know, they let them just go and you know what I mean?

00:03:38:13 - 00:03:50:18
Unknown
And it's like, Yeah, it's not a very nice kitty cat or, Oh, OK, that makes sense. It's a thing. It could be a thing. OK, I get it. I get it. Yes. Yes. All right in there. Yes. So we'll start with etiquette in a relationship.

00:03:50:18 - 00:04:02:01
Unknown
Yes. You know, sometimes you know you in a relationship, it might be long term. You might be married or it might just be kind of short term thing. Just stating, Yeah, you know, you got certain things that you may or you may not do.

00:04:02:15 - 00:04:15:00
Unknown
Yeah, some things that stand out more than other things. And you know, Meghan, what's her name? Meghan Trainor Yeah, she there was an article that came out about her. Yes. And her and her boyfriend. Ah, is it fiancee?

00:04:15:00 - 00:04:35:15
Unknown
Yeah. Yeah, I don't think they're married yet. Uh-Huh. No. No, no. Yes. They have a toilet, two toilets next to each other. And we were like, Oh, maybe I don't. I don't. I personally would not be comfortable with having a toilet right next to my, you know what I mean?

00:04:35:15 - 00:04:46:19
Unknown
Like, what are we going to hold hands with? Like, what are you trying to do? Why does it need to be right next to, yeah, I need my space. Yeah, when I'm doing that. Talk about codependent. Like, Come on, you can't even do that because I know.

00:04:46:26 - 00:05:02:19
Unknown
I know. So in the relationship, yeah, that's the etiquette when you're using the bathroom. Stay away. Let me get. Let me do what I need to do to stay away. Right. 50 feet. I'm saying like, it's up to me to suck up any 50 feet.

00:05:03:09 - 00:05:14:11
Unknown
I don't think give me the morning. And it's true because we don't want it and I don't want you next to the door, OK? I don't want, let alone on a toilet. Let no, no. I I wonder whose idea that was.

00:05:14:11 - 00:05:37:10
Unknown
So does it matter what you're doing if you do number one or number five? What? Yeah, I don't know. It depends on what you eat. Oh, yeah. So listen, OK, either way. Either way, so it doesn't matter, you know?

00:05:37:16 - 00:05:51:01
Unknown
one no bite. No, I'm not rolling with that. And you know what? To have that, that's a custom job. That means that they were told a can't hold somebody like, Hey, we need another toilet being right next to each other because that's not normal.

00:05:51:02 - 00:06:02:06
Unknown
No, in the house did not come like, no, I did not. They added, No, I need my space. Do you need your phone? I'll be using my phone. Yes. Yes. That's like your office. Like, almost like usually doing something.

00:06:02:18 - 00:06:14:25
Unknown
I want to just go in there and just take a break from you. Absolutely. No, I might not be doing anything. I just need a break. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. That's not the place for couples. No, that's a place for a single job only.

00:06:15:18 - 00:06:32:27
Unknown
Yeah. Yes. So single work. Next thing that we were like, I'm etiquette when you are living together. Yeah. Does your significant other do they have to get home by a certain time? I don't think there are proper etiquette, I don't I don't think I think you can get it depends on what you're doing.

00:06:33:01 - 00:06:43:26
Unknown
OK, OK. But I never had limitations on what. Me being out, really. I mean, if I have to get home because of my kid, you know, like for certain reasons that I have to be there for certain things.

00:06:43:26 - 00:06:54:06
Unknown
And yeah, but I don't think I've ever been in a situation where someone was like, Well, you have to be unless like you had to be somewhere. So I have to be home by this time, so you can be where you need to be, OK?

00:06:54:13 - 00:07:05:20
Unknown
But say your partner coming home at 4:00 in the morning, every night or every morning. Oh, that's just not going to. What kind of partner? No, no. But why would they be doing that? Some people do that. It depends on what you're doing.

00:07:05:20 - 00:07:20:09
Unknown
Is that your job? Are you going out to party, you know? Well, how would you feel about that? Again, it depends. But if you come home late, you know, early morning, early morning, yeah, you make us to leave because we are in a relationship.

00:07:20:09 - 00:07:31:03
Unknown
We're not doing that. You in a relationship with multiple other people you shouldn't know. You know, you should be respectful with the times. Like if you're going to go out with your girls or, you know, you get on with your guys, you know?

00:07:31:10 - 00:07:44:29
Unknown
Yeah, I don't need you to come home like at a certain time. Yeah. But if if it's a disrespectful hour, yes. And some things and that is there's that's thing. There is the thing, disrespectful hours. There's disrespect flowers.

00:07:45:03 - 00:08:01:23
Unknown
What? What time? What are the hours of disrespect? Think from 1:00 a.m. Yeah, up. OK, if you're out with your boys, you know that ain't and good going on past 1:00, they got to get home to that. Yeah, right?

00:08:01:23 - 00:08:13:00
Unknown
And if they don't, then we're all going. We are going. And I was. I'm just kidding. No, I mean, I mean, I'm not find my friends on the phone so I can figure out where you are, exactly where you are.

00:08:13:01 - 00:08:25:15
Unknown
So it it honestly just depends, depends. But you know, there are disrespectful hours. I do agree with that. So, OK, so if your friend comes over or his friend comes over, do they do they got to leave by a certain time?

00:08:27:10 - 00:08:44:11
Unknown
Oh, or are you like, you know what, y'all just chill. Have fun, no go sleep. You mean you are. You're welcome out. You know you were complicit anyway. So any song, but anyways? Yes. Yes. No. You know what?

00:08:44:16 - 00:09:00:27
Unknown
There are people just in general like, let me, just let me just put this out there. There are people that like, don't know when to go, do where they're located, you know, like you like young and stuff so that you've got to get into later.

00:09:01:07 - 00:09:14:20
Unknown
And it's like, Oh, I'm just going to watch a movie with you guys like, Oh, no, you're not going to go. It's a thing. OK. So yes, people can. Yeah, overstay. OK. OK, so they need to get home by a certain time.

00:09:15:00 - 00:09:27:24
Unknown
You know, I think that after it, I mean, it depends on what the situation is if you're having alcohol involved and stuff like that. You know, you want to make sure that your people are sobered up before they go home, you know, or if they have to crash.

00:09:27:24 - 00:09:39:15
Unknown
Because if that too much, that's a whole different ballgame. But for the most part, if you're just coming over to chill and you've been over for a past, then like, I don't know, four hours, I'm not going to be like, bye.

00:09:40:02 - 00:09:52:07
Unknown
What about if they want to stay and they want to sleep over? It depends on the friend. OK. You could sleep over it, but somebody could sleep over. But I know some people that I'm like, Nah, you need to go.

00:09:53:26 - 00:10:07:01
Unknown
There's too much work. Well, they show off a blanket like you're moving over. Slumber party. Yes, we should have talked about this. Yeah, I've told you it depends on the on the friend. What do you think? Would you just have?

00:10:07:02 - 00:10:19:05
Unknown
I mean, I've had that before where you knows someone of my. Yeah, whoever I was dating, you know, they wanted to stay over and they of, you know, things kind of got a little late and they may want to go home.

00:10:19:05 - 00:10:34:29
Unknown
Yeah, yeah. And it was fine. I just make up the bed, you know, give you a towel washcloth and a toothbrush there, you know, you know, you can say, yeah, but that that doesn't need to happen often. That's the that's the money.

00:10:34:29 - 00:10:48:18
Unknown
Yeah, that's the key right there. Yeah, that's the key. Every now and then, people will come and going to come and stay like, I can't imagine, like if you and me were like having a good time, you came over my house and it was like, I'd be like, So.

00:10:49:05 - 00:11:00:22
Unknown
So I mean, if he sees that we're having a good time, if I see that he's having a good time with his friend, I'm not going to be like, your friend needs to. You know what I mean? Like, he might be like, Let me just go, be with my boys.

00:11:00:22 - 00:11:18:07
Unknown
Yeah, you know what I mean? So it depends on on the situation. All of this depends. But as far as staying goes against, you know, it depends on that. What about like random people showing up at your house like without coming unannounced?

00:11:18:17 - 00:11:30:14
Unknown
I don't open up my door. I don't know. Oh, no, no, no, no, no. I hear that doorbell and I'm like, I don't expect no one. I'll even look through the people. Yeah, no. Yeah, I didn't know you were coming.

00:11:31:11 - 00:11:45:29
Unknown
You know, something like text you and they're like, Hey, I'm outside. Oh my goodness, I'm not home. Yeah. People that just pop up. I mean that. Sometimes it yeah. Because sometimes you're not dressed or you feel like your house isn't presentable for people to come.

00:11:46:10 - 00:11:59:00
Unknown
So people just be like, Dude, it's kind of like, That's a little weird. Plus, I have a dog. And she barks her head off. Oh, God forbid somebody come to my door. Well, my son is taking a nap.

00:11:59:00 - 00:12:08:22
Unknown
Yeah, she starts barking. And then and then it's just chaos. For me, it's like, Man, you woke up my kid, you woke up my kid. You make it at my dog. Yes, we got a fight. You know what I mean?

00:12:09:06 - 00:12:23:13
Unknown
Because we wanted to like it depends. But yeah, no. I mean, I feel like technology. We have phones we got, you know, people can text. You sent a message on IG before you pop over it. Don't just be popping over unless it's like an emergency.

00:12:23:13 - 00:12:51:04
Unknown
You know, you get chased by someone in the street or something. Oh, no. And even then, I mean, if they're chasing, you don't harm them. OK, really is. It really depends on. I mean, really not. Buddy. Oh, my goodness.

00:12:52:13 - 00:13:09:20
Unknown
That's a thing. OK, so when you when you date in someone, right, are you? Well, you just kind of love you married, whatever? Yeah. How much is too much communication like with like the opposite sex, the opposite. Like a friend, like a friend, like, you know, they they they talk in all your business or something like that

00:13:09:21 - 00:13:28:03
Unknown
. Like, how much is too much? Hmm. Do you expect your significant other to have? No communications about you with their friends. To a certain extent, I mean, I know it's a respectful thing to do to say, Hey, how's your, you know, how's your wife?

00:13:28:03 - 00:13:39:06
Unknown
How's your family? You know what I mean? So you kind of display, Oh, they're fine, you know? And sometimes when you get into arguments with your significant other, sometimes people run to their friends or their family want to talk about, you know what I mean?

00:13:39:12 - 00:13:54:26
Unknown
You just have to be really careful about that stuff because you're more forgiving. But when you tell your friends or your family, they're not and they're judging that person. That's true. From that moment on, sometimes. And you were in the heat of the moment, so you sound like, you know, and was hearing one side.

00:13:55:01 - 00:14:08:05
Unknown
That's so you just you got to be really careful about that. I try not to even talk about anything that goes on and you know what I mean? Yeah. Whether it's good or bad, you know, and I just I I keep it pretty simple.

00:14:08:08 - 00:14:20:08
Unknown
I keep it simple. I keep it simple, man, you don't be telling all I don't. I don't do it. I don't like to do. I agree. I know. I agree. I think there's some funny things that you should share, though I don't.

00:14:20:09 - 00:14:35:05
Unknown
Yeah, but if if I eat something, you know, I do think you should kind of keep that in the house. You should. You definitely should. Yeah, because no again is one sided. Your friends, they hear one side of the story and they go like a significant other anymore.

00:14:35:16 - 00:14:45:15
Unknown
So that's like I've had that many multiple times like, I mean, I see the person, I'm like, Yo, in my mind, I'm like, Man, you did this to my friend. Oh yeah, I'm thinking, I don't like you no more.

00:14:45:15 - 00:14:55:02
Unknown
Absolutely. But then they they all kind of love and happy, and I'm like, Why are you happy with this person? You're like, you! You know, and then you feel some type of way, and I'll be just giving them the stink I like.

00:14:55:17 - 00:15:08:19
Unknown
I don't like you. Yeah, you know, I see you. I like that. Yeah, I like that. But you know, if they didn't tell me that, then I wouldn't have the stink eye. So you got to be careful with what you say with borderlines, with pillow talk pillows.

00:15:08:19 - 00:15:28:18
Unknown
I'll go talk with your can because you're married. I expect him to know pretty much most things that I tell you, you know, but you know what I do? I don't. We don't. We I don't really even. I mean, unless it's something big, like big New York thing like that, you know, like, I'm pretty good at it

00:15:28:18 - 00:15:43:09
Unknown
. You know, keeping what's told to me, to myself, you know what I mean? Like, it just depends on what it is like if it's real, real, juicy or something like, yeah, yeah. Well, my my, my other friend, Michael, say your name, but you know, so but then I got to tell it all.

00:15:43:15 - 00:15:55:29
Unknown
You know anything about it. So but you got, you know, it's natural. I feel like it's normal for, you know, you to talk to your partner, you know, but that's your other best friend. Yeah. Well, it should be.

00:15:55:29 - 00:16:06:03
Unknown
Yeah, yeah. So I get it. I get it. I get it. Keep a cute, though. Yeah, no. I think there's there's a lane. There's some things that you know, I'm not going to share with whomever I'm with, about my friend.

00:16:06:03 - 00:16:17:10
Unknown
And there's like big news like, oh, you know, maybe that person is pregnant or, you know. Right? That type of stuff that I'm a share. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, that's that type of stuff. But again, you got to be careful because you don't want your partner to judge your friends.

00:16:17:11 - 00:16:34:27
Unknown
That's true. Like that. It's a thing. So how late can can someone call? How late can if it's an emergency, whatever time of emergency? Oh, so you don't want? So does it matter if it's like their boy or is it a woman who's a friend?

00:16:35:11 - 00:16:54:21
Unknown
Hmm. Well, you know, well, if it's a boy, if it's one of their friends, you know they're going to call. You never know what it's about. And I feel like we're all adults here. You know, we we go to bed, we are in bed by like nine, 10:00.

00:16:54:22 - 00:17:03:23
Unknown
I mean, we're kind of closing down shop by then. I'm not in bed by nine, 10:00. I mean, you know, we're not asleep, but you know, we're kind of closing down shop. I'm not calling everybody and trying to party at nine, 10:00.

00:17:03:23 - 00:17:17:16
Unknown
So trying to party at nine, 10:00, this one here. So, you know, all the Spice Girls, we're just party all night long. Yeah. I knew you don't have to, but. No, no, no. It just depends on what it what it is and who it is.

00:17:17:17 - 00:17:30:02
Unknown
Now, if it's just some random girl. Oh, no, that's never happened. Yeah, yeah, no, that should never happen. Let's talk about random girl. I'm talking about friends. If he has, you know, a female friend, that's his good friend.

00:17:30:02 - 00:17:48:14
Unknown
Does it matter the gender of the person? Like, if you're if his boy calls him at eleven, you're like, OK, cool. If it's a girl, if it's a friend calling eleven, that better be an emergency, you know? And and yeah, I don't ever want anybody to feel like they could reach out to either one of.

00:17:48:15 - 00:17:59:15
Unknown
But if something were to ever happen or you just needed to talk because people get into their head sometimes about certain things. And if you are the person that they see as someone they can go to. Mm hmm.

00:18:00:06 - 00:18:10:25
Unknown
You know, you got to respect that. Appreciate that. I appreciate, you know, if somebody would come to me, but you know, yeah, you're not going to call me and just be like, Hey, what you doing? And it's 11:00, and I'm just like, OK, why are you calling me?

00:18:10:26 - 00:18:26:09
Unknown
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Text yeah. Text is a good option. A lot of people and listen. And if you feel you need to talk it instead of text, then voice thing. Voice, no voice noted, you don't. There's a lot of options in my phone.

00:18:26:09 - 00:18:43:16
Unknown
Be on Do Not Disturb from 9:00. You have like that. I do. I do. I really do. I got to do OK. Yeah, I mean, it's so I don't be getting a bunch of calls. Yeah, because people trying to get to know the kid, they loan up the phone man.

00:18:44:22 - 00:19:01:01
Unknown
But I do put my mom and sister. That's a good one. That's a good. But wait, wait. 9929. What if it's an emergency? Because see how the iPhone if your iPhone user, you know there's some other people out there who don't believe the iPhones, but there's some recently converted people.

00:19:01:11 - 00:19:16:15
Unknown
Stephanie, over here who finally seen the lights, oh, finally seen the light. Now we can have appropriate group chats and they don't have to be green. Now it's blue. But you know, with the iPhone, if you have your favorites, those calls come through.

00:19:16:16 - 00:19:30:20
Unknown
So if you called me Dominique, don't really call me. We do. Yes, we do. She's never been a calling person. Stephanie calls me, Yeah, you know, we pretty much die every day. Yeah, you know, my mom, you know, I got some other friends.

00:19:30:20 - 00:19:43:06
Unknown
Your favorites, I can't get through. They really get through. Oh, oh yeah, no, that I just listen. We are on the same kick, Stephanie, because I just barely I was like, How do you use this? You know, I didn't.

00:19:43:16 - 00:19:54:23
Unknown
I still don't know. They finally saw the light, saw the light. I guess I'm an iPhone user since, I don't know, over a decade or something, really? Yes, I didn't even know that was a thing. You know how well I know.

00:19:54:24 - 00:20:14:05
Unknown
So happy that you guys came up with the times we have arrived. Yes, go ahead. So as far as calling those, if it's an emergency, do it. If it's not an emergency, wait till tomorrow. OK, so many men or woman, I agree are just text.

00:20:14:15 - 00:20:25:21
Unknown
Then I'll just then they'll just answer you and they can answer you. Yeah, just text. And then sometimes I don't want to talk to no one. Yeah. So I don't feel like talking. Yeah, it's all right. I'm sorry, but yes.

00:20:25:21 - 00:20:47:02
Unknown
Yeah, that's what it is sometimes. OK, so question yes. Were you in a relationship, y'all living together? Do you got to split the bills or does it depend on like how much you make like a percentage? So say, say, you know, y'all group the money together and this person makes 70%.

00:20:47:23 - 00:21:05:16
Unknown
This person makes 30% of, you know, the shared family right amount. Does this person have to pay 70% of the bills? Are we talking married? Well, it could be live, it could be living together, you know, y'all sharing the the household expenses.

00:21:05:19 - 00:21:24:15
Unknown
Yeah, yeah. Well, um, I think it depends like I personally, it depends on what the setup is like. If I was living by myself and I was dating somebody and they moved in with me, but that setup kind of matters like, you're coming into my situation room.

00:21:24:24 - 00:21:46:22
Unknown
So that's a good that's a tough one. Well, what would you do? Would you split it? Um. Yes, I think you should split it. Yeah, yeah, because I feel resentment grows if you don't really split the bills appropriately, like if someone just comes in unless something really tragic happened and they lost.

00:21:46:28 - 00:22:00:02
Unknown
Oh yeah, their job, OK. Something like that. If, but if we're both working, then I think that we should split it because I don't want to grow to resent you if you're both working. Absolutely. I mean, yeah, for sure.

00:22:00:02 - 00:22:11:15
Unknown
You're both working really well. Then you may have stay at home moms. Then that's completely different situation. You work, but you just don't. You work at home, you work at home. That's kind of what the yeah, yeah, the split is.

00:22:11:15 - 00:22:24:13
Unknown
But you don't have a, you know, you don't have a paycheck. That's right. And then that's different. So it just depends on what you your situation. I just think everyone needs to contribute somehow. Yes. Yes, you're totally right with that.

00:22:24:13 - 00:22:41:17
Unknown
Yeah. If you're not contributing, then yeah, you can get on. I couldn't learn, you know, it's not going to work out. And you're right, because it has to be a balance, you know? Sure. Once that starts, tip in this way more than it is this way, the resentment builds, and that's no fun to deal with later.

00:22:41:26 - 00:22:49:16
Unknown
No, it's really nice. You know, there's some people who are like, Yo, I paid this. I pay that for you. I think that for you, you don't do nothing. Do you want to hear that? You don't want to hear that?

00:22:49:17 - 00:23:04:28
Unknown
But it's a true statement, though. But do you want to hear it? No, you don't. So no. Make sure you yeah, your wait. Yeah, put. Yes. Pull your weight. Yes. Well, weight clip on YouTube. I remember that movie, really?

00:23:04:28 - 00:23:17:20
Unknown
Yeah, we were like four year old. Then we had an episode like that back in the day. I don't remember. I don't know what's wrong with my memory. Some things I just don't know. They just don't remember you when you see it.

00:23:18:04 - 00:23:27:10
Unknown
Yeah, you're yeah. I remember it all your way. OK, OK, so you're on that weight. We had a whole episode with that. It was like, I need to watch it. I got to watch it. It's a go, and you all should watch it too.

00:23:27:14 - 00:23:36:17
Unknown
Yeah, we will. We will. I don't know. Maybe I will say we will post it, but I got to watch it and see if no excuse. Get it to. It's like you, OK, you're so young. You know you so young.

00:23:36:24 - 00:23:47:24
Unknown
I was listening to some of our old videos. I'm like, Man, yeah, I sound like a kid. I know I know I was a kid, but I sound like a kid. Now I got some based on my voice to the voiceless man.

00:23:48:03 - 00:24:05:14
Unknown
My voice is has dropped some. You just drop it. I guess that's a thing for girls, but I was this. I was like, Oh my god, I like a cartoon. What does the cartoon thing? I sounded so young I got to go and I thought I was grown.

00:24:05:15 - 00:24:19:13
Unknown
Oh yeah, I thought I was. You couldn't sell less nothing, but I was not grown. There's a lot of stuff. A lot of growing that we've done is absolutely, absolutely yes. OK, go back to the money. Yes. You make large purchases, right?

00:24:19:20 - 00:24:33:27
Unknown
Yes. Ditto. You tell your partner. Or do you ask for permission? No. You know what? You know what? Because it goes both ways. Like if, if, if he's going to buy something that he really wants. I don't need an explanation.

00:24:33:27 - 00:24:50:12
Unknown
I don't need you to ask me like it would you would you need to buy a car? Well, that's OK. All right. Wait, wait, wait. You know what? This happened, actually. And it was like, surprise, OK. It's so no different.

00:24:50:19 - 00:25:00:24
Unknown
Different situation. Yeah, you know what I mean? But so and I wasn't I wasn't trippin about it because it was it was a good decision. You have to be able to say it for you. It was a gift.

00:25:00:25 - 00:25:12:17
Unknown
I mean, we both use it, you know what I mean? But yeah, it was a family gift gift. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, your contribution to the family. So that was fine, and I trust that he makes good decisions in that department financially.

00:25:12:18 - 00:25:28:12
Unknown
You know, that's beautiful. Awesome. I don't sweat it that much, you know, work for me. No, no, no, no. All right. Give me an example, because if we can't you? OK, well, maybe, maybe I have to think about it.

00:25:28:12 - 00:25:40:22
Unknown
The fact if we're contributing to the household, yeah. And we have things that we have said, Hey, we're going to put this aside for this. This aside for that. Hmm. Are you going to take the money that we pull in?

00:25:40:23 - 00:25:58:25
Unknown
Yeah. Uh-Huh. Now make a large purchase like a car. I'm going to be looking at you like, OK, that's not. Why didn't you talk to me to me about this? Well, that's another thing when it comes to, you know, you also want to be on the same level with your partner when it comes to like living beyond

00:25:58:25 - 00:26:12:16
Unknown
your means, like if you can afford purchases like that without it being a big deal. Yes, and that's fine. You guys are on the level that's rich. You guys can do, but if you cannot and you're noticing a big chunk out of the savings that we put in to, yeah, that's going to be a problem.

00:26:12:16 - 00:26:27:03
Unknown
It's gonna be a problem, you know? But and then also, it depends. So is it a car that we've got to make monthly payments on? Yeah, yeah. Those are all things we've got to discuss. Absolutely. Or is it a car that, you know, like maybe a used car that's not as expensive if as a car, are you

00:26:27:04 - 00:26:40:18
Unknown
going to be like, make your payments on in my mind unless it's a gift, like how yours was a gift, right? In my mind, I'm going to be thinking, why are we not able to communicate that you went to a dealership, spent time to find a car?

00:26:40:22 - 00:26:57:24
Unknown
Hmm. Spent time and signed documents, right? And didn't even tell me, I'm going to be like, OK, something's wrong in our relationship where we don't have that communication. Yeah, OK. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think large purchases need. A discussion?

00:26:58:03 - 00:27:19:12
Unknown
Yeah, yeah, for me. And how so how large is large, like what are we talking like 10,000 and up to 9000 5000 and up? What's large? Listen, if you take, you know, thousands of dollars from savings. I need to know how much I'm saying, like is a five day.

00:27:19:12 - 00:27:32:16
Unknown
I'd say it depends. It depends on how much money you make it. Yeah, yeah. I think, yeah, absolutely. I don't know. I can't. I think everyone's just going to be different. Uh-Huh. OK, that makes sense. I'm a noticing.

00:27:34:19 - 00:27:51:00
Unknown
Yes. As you see notice, I notice stuff like that because I'm very tight in regards to looking at my money. I got alerts. Absolutely. And you know what with you? Well, someone like you, whoever, whoever you end up with, yes, should know that about you and respect that about you to always talk about that with you.

00:27:51:01 - 00:28:03:07
Unknown
You know what I mean? I'm more of a kind of like, Man, you mean really, you do what you need to do. But but I'm that way, too. If I wanted something really badly, if I wanted to purchase something or get something, he wouldn't be like, What?

00:28:03:07 - 00:28:21:05
Unknown
You know, I would just let my my thought process is a large purchase. You're usually thinking about it for some time. Yeah. If we sitting out eating dinner, if we going out, having fun, yeah, why can't we? I don't understand how is skipped your mind to tell me about this large purchase?

00:28:21:05 - 00:28:34:22
Unknown
Yeah. Yeah, when we sell, you know, if we have good communication, that's true. We should be able to kind of talk about anything and large purchases. It's not unless you just out, just buy, Oh, I pop up to buy them, get that 7000 and buy.

00:28:34:24 - 00:28:45:10
Unknown
No, no, no, no, no. Yeah, that's a little out there. That's a little out there. And I would never buy something that s like, I don't do large purchases really? Anyway. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, I just when I go out to eat, you know, I mean.

00:28:46:09 - 00:29:00:09
Unknown
I mean, listen, don't get me all the appetizers, OK? And a good meal, yes and drinks, yes and dessert dessert. OK, you don't really eat dessert. No, that's I'm sober for you. Oh, that's mine and me. So, you know, that's that's my large.

00:29:00:14 - 00:29:13:00
Unknown
That's the most that I really do. Yeah, you know? Yes. That's as far as I really go, for sure. For sure. But it all, it all depends. Like if you're with somebody who probably gambles something like that, you gotta to be careful because those that's one large purchases.

00:29:13:02 - 00:29:23:23
Unknown
That's right. Yeah, and that's that's what I'm saying. You are you going to be able to communicate? Yeah, because I'm thinking something is wrong. If you're not telling me you're about to make a large purchase, yeah, they'll say, no, they'll don't do that.

00:29:24:04 - 00:29:36:07
Unknown
Don't do it. OK. But you know, if if we're not living together, if I have no idea what your financial situation is and we just, you know, getting to know each other, I don't expect you to tell me that because I'm telling you nothing that's different.

00:29:36:14 - 00:29:54:08
Unknown
If we in a house and our money is being pooled, we got to communicate. I get that. I agree. Isn't that one of the? one of the reasons people divorce. Finances. There was a there's other ones finances. Is it a large move or something?

00:29:54:15 - 00:30:07:07
Unknown
Oh, Archie, oh no. Well, that's one of them. Finance. I can see that one. I could definitely see that. I could definitely see that. You have to be careful with that. You really know your partner and really know how they like to spend their money.

00:30:07:18 - 00:30:28:15
Unknown
You know, are they in debt? OK? Oh, that's that's a good conversation, you know, so you need to so so you need to know if they in debt. Would you pay off your man's debt? He's been there, done that.

00:30:31:09 - 00:30:40:01
Unknown
I mean, I met I have a friend, I have a friend who just did something like, he's talking about me. No joke. Oh no, I'm not. I'm not. I'm not in that, but I have a friend who did something like that.

00:30:40:01 - 00:30:52:15
Unknown
You know, she did what paid off someone's debt that she was with? OK, and I don't I feel like he didn't really reciprocate how that should have been handled, is she married or is it? No, it was just dating.

00:30:53:15 - 00:31:04:09
Unknown
And, yeah, you know, so you have to be careful with that. You got to be careful. You know, you got to be careful of that paying somebody dead. I feel like, listen, you got yourself into that debt. I wasn't part of that.

00:31:04:29 - 00:31:19:29
Unknown
I need to get you some money. Okay? You know, OK, that's that's a tough one. It is a tough one because I've done that. OK, OK. I've been a sugar man. Sugar, mama, you it's it's not a it's not a good thing.

00:31:20:07 - 00:31:35:07
Unknown
OK, well, I wasn't married at the time. Oh no, I paid it off before I got married. Oh, I paid off. Yeah, I paid off. You know, really, it's not a was it? I mean, it also depends on what type of debt it was too young.

00:31:35:07 - 00:31:47:03
Unknown
I think I just think as you get older, it depends on what type of debt? Yes. But yeah, I still think grown people need to be responsible, be responsible for their stuff. Absolutely, yes. So would it be alone?

00:31:47:08 - 00:31:58:17
Unknown
Maybe, maybe I should have done it alone instead of just being like, you know, paying off alone long along with your man, alone with you. Maybe he needs to get it alone with your man, but I meant, like alone with your man.

00:31:58:17 - 00:32:12:16
Unknown
Like, that's my wordplay. Yeah. Well, I didn't get it. No, I got it. Wow. Where's the laugh? That's why they're like, Oh, well, that's a good one. It is for yes, would you? I think it should have been alone.

00:32:13:21 - 00:32:24:06
Unknown
OK. Because I just think you just never know where the relationship is going to go and you never know if you guys are going to actually stay together and at the end of the day, you, I worked hard for my money.

00:32:24:15 - 00:32:36:22
Unknown
So how would you have expected him to like pay you back in like increments of like, however? However, he was capable, at least I would have been able to get my money back like maybe a contract with you, a little contract type of thing.

00:32:37:00 - 00:32:50:04
Unknown
Oh, wow. But you know, I'm not doing that no more. Will again, that was Baby J. Oh, it's big J. Yeah, I mean, it's a different, different. I was like, You know, I'm just paying off for you. Don't worry about it.

00:32:50:04 - 00:33:11:04
Unknown
I got you right. Adobe Bunny. Oh, my goodness. All I need is like, Listen, it's me and my boyfriend. OK. Anyways, but yeah, so it didn't, you know? I get it. I listen. Though I don't I've never done that before, but I've heard, you know, people that do that, and again, it depends on what you know, I

00:33:11:04 - 00:33:26:15
Unknown
would recommend. I've never heard it and well, when you do that, it though, unless, you know, I mean, there's some situations where people really are super nice and they're just going through a hard time and you helped them out.

00:33:26:22 - 00:33:42:07
Unknown
Mm hmm. And once they get back on their feet, they give you back the money. Yeah, yeah. So that's different. But I think there's a limit, like you got to say to yourself, how much money do I am I really able to give to someone, right?

00:33:42:10 - 00:33:58:00
Unknown
And don't put yourself out there if if you can't. Yeah, I I remember that I gave someone money want. Mm hmm. And I just I never expected to get the money back. It wasn't a lot of money. Yeah, it was to a friend.

00:33:58:05 - 00:34:10:22
Unknown
Yeah. And I would I if I ever do anything like that, I'm not going to strike back because I mean, people, just they get weird with money. Did you get it back? No. And I told them that he could just have it.

00:34:11:02 - 00:34:23:13
Unknown
Oh, OK. I mean, okay. But yeah, I was one of my really good friends and he he needed it for something, and I was just like, OK, you know, if you're asking me and we've been friends for, like so long, you must really need it.

00:34:23:16 - 00:34:32:21
Unknown
You know, so I wasn't going to be like, Oh, you need to pay me, so, you know, but and again, it wasn't that much, so I was OK with that. Now, if somebody came to me like, I need, like ten GS.

00:34:33:22 - 00:34:52:28
Unknown
Now. But I will help you fill out applications. I hope you feel OK. She's giving me this mess that we're old people, not old, but we're grown. You would think that people would hop to like the next thing that you do if you owe people money, which is get, you know, you got to make money.

00:34:53:19 - 00:35:05:17
Unknown
Got to find a job. You got to find resources. Yes. But a lot of these people, you'd be surprised how many people don't know how to go about what to do. OK, well, now I feel bad. OK, I'll help you application if you want your money back.

00:35:05:24 - 00:35:23:25
Unknown
You bet. Sign here. Sign here. Yeah. Yep. And right here. Yeah. No. Definitely loaning money. Borrowing money. That's a big one. It is. It is. Even with friends. Yeah. You know, like what you just said. Hmm. I feel like when I when I give money, I usually, as you said, I don't really expect it.

00:35:23:25 - 00:35:34:28
Unknown
But it depends on how much it depends. Yeah, if it's like, you know, couple of hundred, yeah, I don't really expect it, but I have had friends who've given it back to me. Oh, good. Which is, you know, awesome.

00:35:34:29 - 00:35:48:05
Unknown
Yeah, yeah. But if it's like over a couple of hundred dollars like, I'm kind of expecting that money back. How long and what like time frame? I don't really give time frames because I know sometimes it takes people a while to get back on their feet.

00:35:48:09 - 00:36:01:27
Unknown
So like, if I see you vacationing, oh, and you give out my money, but that's a thing. Ladies and gentlemen, I'm I have a conversation with you. That is a thing. And you know, I will have a conversation.

00:36:01:29 - 00:36:15:00
Unknown
I'll be like, Hey, hey, hey, listen. Come on. Yeah. What's going on? Because that people got a lot of nerve. Don't don't fly your money in my face when I gave you money, when you were down at Beanie Honeys.

00:36:15:21 - 00:36:31:21
Unknown
OK. When you owe me some Benjamins doesn't mix. Oh, give me my money. Yes, it was my money. Have you seen that that family guy was a money man? Give me my stuff. I don't know. I want to see you out there partying when you owe me the people.

00:36:31:23 - 00:36:40:02
Unknown
Yeah, that's I feel like that's very rude. It is rude. You know, it is rude. Like, come on now. And if you're going to do stuff like that, you don't need to post it. Like, I can see your stories.

00:36:40:02 - 00:36:51:21
Unknown
That's just disrespectful. It really is people. Wow. People do be pretending on social media like they went on a trip two years ago and they bring back up the picture like, Hey, you know, I'm on vacation now. I'm on the way.

00:36:51:23 - 00:37:05:26
Unknown
That's a picture you posted two years ago. Yeah. You look then like that. Yeah, well, yeah. Oh, I agree. OK, that's the thing. Yeah, that's definitely a thing. Money can make or break apart relationships, as we're talking about very carefully.

00:37:05:27 - 00:37:21:26
Unknown
Yes. Be very careful with it. Those are my friends want to just do the etiquette and friends right now in them yet. OK, OK. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. So. So you got a friend over, right? Yes. And do you expect them to clean up afterwards if they got kids?

00:37:23:02 - 00:37:32:12
Unknown
Do you would you would you want if if they got kids and they come over and, you know, the kids playing, they having a good time? Yeah, yeah. Do you? Are you going to be like, Oh, don't worry about it.

00:37:32:28 - 00:37:47:02
Unknown
You know what? I have it at my house where it's set up to where it's very kid friendly, so there's only so much you can do. Now, if I were to bring my child over to someone's else's house that does not have kids, or maybe they do have kids, I don't know.

00:37:47:12 - 00:37:58:17
Unknown
I'm going to be watching my kid like a hawk because I don't want my child is very curious, you know, and I don't want them touching and doing all kind of stuff that could make someone really uncomfortable, you know?

00:37:58:18 - 00:38:10:28
Unknown
So you think they need a clean up? I would personally, if if my kid made a mess, I would clean up if you came to my house and you played in the little play area. I wouldn't expect you to clean up because that's what the player is for and I clean it up.

00:38:11:12 - 00:38:20:29
Unknown
Right, right. But if you were going to be running all around my house or something like that, you know where it's not supposed to be kids, then yeah, you better go clean up what you the mess you made.

00:38:20:29 - 00:38:31:05
Unknown
I agree. It's the nice thing to do. It is the nice thing. But you'd be surprised how the nonchalant people can be coming to your house and not clean in the face. You know, it's like, No, I agree.

00:38:31:05 - 00:38:51:28
Unknown
Get your sticky fingers off of the counters. Now it depends. It depends. But my house is very, very obvious. My mom, it's very child friendly, so you can't do do too much damage, you know? Yeah. But yeah, I think my house, you know, I like my house a certain way and I clean up a lot even before

00:38:51:28 - 00:39:05:04
Unknown
someone comes over. So I don't want to have to like spend time when you leave cleaning up so much. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So yes, I think that that's it's appropriate. Yeah, to kind of help are even asked offer.

00:39:05:11 - 00:39:17:11
Unknown
Yeah, exactly off offer. Hey, you know, yeah. Do you need help? And if they say no, then all right. OK, I'm going to ask you one time. Yeah, yeah, all right. Though it is, it is. It's a proper thing to do.

00:39:17:12 - 00:39:28:15
Unknown
Yes, you know, you know, this is kind of timely, right? The vaccination thing. Yeah. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. So do you ask your friends if they're vaccinated, if they don't come around or do you care? Do you not care?

00:39:28:27 - 00:39:44:15
Unknown
Some people I find really care. Some people I find don't at all, you know, and I know that for, you know, jobs, you know, they're requiring that you have it now. You know, it's it's it's getting a little, you know, heated with that debate.

00:39:44:25 - 00:40:01:24
Unknown
You know, do you tell people that you are or that you're not? I mean, it just it depends. I think if someone asks you, they're a close friend and they want to know, you should be comfortable enough to tell them, yeah, but if it's like a stranger, something like that, somebody don't really know.

00:40:02:14 - 00:40:16:15
Unknown
I I I don't know. I don't mind if anyone asks me, you know, mine? No, I don't mind if anyone asks me. That's that's a that's a good way to go about it. Yeah, I mean, if we're going to hang out and you want to know if I'm vaccinated, you know, obviously as a health concern there.

00:40:16:15 - 00:40:31:20
Unknown
Mm hmm. Mm hmm. I totally don't mind dating apps. They have that as a question, do they? Well, I have. Are you fully vaccinated, partially vaccinated? Don't agree to be vaccinated? Oh, wow. I don't, you know, don't want to be vaccinated or you'll be vaccinated later on.

00:40:31:20 - 00:40:44:21
Unknown
Just have a hard time so you can fill that out, OK? And you know what? Why not? Yeah, I just think that right, COVID is such a big thing you want to. Everyone wants to be safe. Right? So it will not, I guess, not everyone.

00:40:44:21 - 00:40:58:29
Unknown
But if you're asking that question, I'm assuming you want to be safe when who first was the thing I don't really have anyone over. Yeah, I didn't even. And then he's looking at me. Oh, so Stephanie came over to check her temperature.

00:41:01:10 - 00:41:14:08
Unknown
What's that? Wash your hands before you come to me at night, you can either put the temperature in the on her forehead. Oh my gosh. And I'm like, OK, you're OK. OK, OK. All right. You can clear. Yeah.

00:41:14:08 - 00:41:33:13
Unknown
And I'll wear the mask when I'm checking your temperature. Oh, this one. Yeah, yeah. I remember when when COVID first hit you sent me this video or video of like it was, it was a how to open like packages with like gloves on and stuff and like like, do you ever do that in the back?

00:41:33:21 - 00:41:49:00
Unknown
No, because I didn't have I didn't really have anything like coming to me, like, what are your groceries? Oh yeah. You know, wipe it. Wipe off anything. Yes, we did. But that video that you sent me that was like full on like you were covered and it was like, you got to open it like this.

00:41:49:13 - 00:42:09:26
Unknown
And then like, blow it like that, like this, you know, blowing up. They definitely did that. I only probably recently, maybe like four months or five months ago stopped wiping off everything that came into my house. Yeah, I wiped off every I created my own Clorox.

00:42:10:04 - 00:42:32:06
Unknown
Absolutely. I did. I used to wear gloves, if anything that came to my house, any packages, I wore gloves. Yes, and I know you did. I did. And I used to it. And at first I used to wear a mask and I was like, I don't know if the fumes from whatever is on these surfaces is going

00:42:32:06 - 00:42:44:27
Unknown
to get into my body. Hmm. Mm hmm. OK. So for sure, I guess I'm not playing around, OK? Wiped off everything. That's a good. That's a good thing. Better safe than sorry. No, I don't. Because I, you know.

00:42:44:29 - 00:42:55:13
Unknown
Yeah. You know, even when they say it doesn't really transfer from surfaces, I still did it. Yeah, absolutely. No wrong with that, though. Even my fruits I think I used to put like wash of vinegar or something I used to wash.

00:42:55:13 - 00:43:16:03
Unknown
I do a whole bunch of stuff, right? My grocery thing, you took like an hour to pack. I've got to a point where I hated getting your groceries. You took a minute, took a while. Well, you know, at the time, we didn't really know how easy it was to get have transferred to, you know what I mean

00:43:16:03 - 00:43:31:02
Unknown
? So being safe like that, I think, you know, it's always a good idea. Yes, I understand the vaccination question. Yeah, I get it. I get it too. Yeah, I totally get that. So let's see. So with that, you want to do the social media etiquette?

00:43:31:10 - 00:43:48:29
Unknown
Yes. This is the thing. This is a this is I think it's a thing. It's a thing. It's a thing. OK, this is the thing. OK, do you OK? Feel you. Do you feel do you feel you do you feel you should be posting your song?

00:43:49:11 - 00:44:04:25
Unknown
Do you feel you should be posting a significant other on your social media, social media? They know rate on my finger. You ain't going on my grave like going on the ground. No, no, no, I'm not posting you.

00:44:05:04 - 00:44:19:15
Unknown
Hey, well then hey, you know, OK? No, I don't post a lot of things. I don't know a lot of things. You post a lot of things I don't post really at all. I mean, I might do things on my stories and stuff like that.

00:44:19:15 - 00:44:33:23
Unknown
But I mean, it's different platforms get you will decision is ending individual decision in different platforms, get different things, you know, is very different from my Facebook, my you know what I mean like and I barely even get on either one like that.

00:44:33:23 - 00:44:51:22
Unknown
So. It depends on the platform I. I was in a relationship where everything was pretty much on Facebook and we looked like the ideal couple. We look like, you know, we had the white picket fence. Yeah, we look like we were just kissing up, loving up on each other all the time that we had hearts in our

00:44:51:22 - 00:45:13:27
Unknown
eyes. Oh my goodness. Okay. And then no, it wasn't really like that. So sometimes, obviously it was. But I just think that some you get you feed into the wanting to portray this perfect couple. Yeah. So for me, if I pull someone, it just has to be someone really, really serious.

00:45:13:27 - 00:45:29:17
Unknown
Yeah, yeah. But I'm not going to post them a lot. Yeah. You know, and that just it depends. I don't really post and I don't post my son. Yeah, yeah, I don't. You know, and that's totally like, acceptable for me.

00:45:29:17 - 00:45:52:04
Unknown
My profile is private. So I post, Oh, I'm going to do that. So, yeah, my profile is private. My Facebook is private. Is it? Yeah, my Facebook is private. My my ID is private. And because most of my family is is not here, you know, they're in, they're in different parts of the world.

00:45:52:05 - 00:46:04:22
Unknown
Yeah, most of my friends are in different parts of the world, so I post, but I only post because I know that there is a protection. Yeah, you know, absolutely. I don't expect my friends to be like sharing my kid picture with other people.

00:46:04:26 - 00:46:16:15
Unknown
Exactly. So it depends. I get that. Yeah. But do you do you want him to post you like if you OK? I think marriage is different. Let's talk about if you guys first start dating. Yeah. You know, do super excited.

00:46:16:16 - 00:46:32:26
Unknown
I won't play this girl on the AM or she's looking fine. Goodness, I post her. I wouldn't. I wouldn't mind either way. Like, I don't. I really wouldn't really be be trippin either way. You know, like, you don't post me until the official yeah.

00:46:32:26 - 00:46:40:19
Unknown
Adobe post to me. No, I got to be. I got to be careful of my do's and don'ts with that because I might not post you, but I might write a song about you and I was doing it.

00:46:41:05 - 00:46:49:08
Unknown
It might not be a great song I don't know about, Oh, you know, that's so sweet of you, good or bad, but I'll do that. I would write a song in a minute, you know? But that's how you show your love.

00:46:49:17 - 00:47:04:14
Unknown
You know, it's a part of my love language. It's the music. We talked about that. OK? But but yeah, you know, so for the guy, it just it depends on what he's comfortable with. I can. I just don't want to confuse people.

00:47:04:23 - 00:47:16:17
Unknown
I don't think you should post me until we like, yeah, make it like, Yeah, we, you know. OK, yeah, for sure. For sure. You know, because my potential Russell could be on your profile. Oh, and see my picture.

00:47:16:26 - 00:47:31:25
Unknown
And then in the morning, Oh, she's already she's already taken, so I can't can't hit her up. Yeah, that might happen. Or don't post me until we until until it's official. Because you might. Yeah, you never know. You never know what can happen with that.

00:47:31:28 - 00:47:48:13
Unknown
He could be your brother. You can be your cousin. But I mean, I would just say, OK, I'm dangerous. Almost exactly. But no. So no, I get that. And for me again, like, it's what the platforms you have different platforms for different things.

00:47:48:14 - 00:48:02:20
Unknown
You know, as Ben has like a few different accounts for different things. You know what I mean? Different hobbies, whatever. Yeah, I'm totally okay with that. I'm like, Dude, thing doesn't really matter. I think that once you have an established trust that those things don't matter.

00:48:02:26 - 00:48:24:12
Unknown
Yeah, yeah. You know, I shouldn't trust, OK, do you share passwords and and all that stuff with you, with your bill, with your bill, with your boo boo right now in the. No, no. You want to share? No, I want to know unless you had a break in trust and now I got to be looking, I don't

00:48:24:12 - 00:48:33:21
Unknown
want to have to be looking at your stuff. Yes, too much work for me. Absolutely. I don't need your password. Yeah. If I need your password, I got to be like looking at all you talking to this person talking about.

00:48:33:22 - 00:48:47:17
Unknown
And that means that we just don't need to be together. I don't. I don't want to have to police you. Yeah. I mean, my guy started my IG page. Actually, I didn't even know I'd do this for he did.

00:48:47:17 - 00:49:04:03
Unknown
He did. So that was a good thing. Yeah, he wanted you to be in the loop, to be in the loop, you know what I mean? So he created it, actually. And you know, when I got the account that some pictures of me already up and like it was like set up already, you know, so I just

00:49:04:03 - 00:49:19:03
Unknown
kind of took it and kind of kept it what? It was so cute. But these are my favorite pictures of you, and I already put the filter in there for you. And look, your friends are commenting, Yes, and they love it.

00:49:19:04 - 00:49:33:01
Unknown
I was saying this said, here you go. But it's so funny. So, so sweet. That's how that kicked off that they created your name. Yeah. Well, are you changed it? No, I think I always had that name. I feel like I have that on a different platform.

00:49:33:04 - 00:49:43:26
Unknown
OK, so that's where he got it. Yeah, but he's attentive. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, that worked out. You know, this is for you. Yeah, he has access. So he still has your password. I mean, I haven't changed it.

00:49:43:26 - 00:49:58:03
Unknown
So see, I would assume he probably doesn't remember. I don't even remember. You never know. He might be looking on there. He's on there right now. He doesn't grow yet because you have nothing to hide. Yeah, I mean, you know, it is what it is.

00:49:58:12 - 00:50:09:24
Unknown
I'm comfortable. I'm comfortable with it. Yeah. No, I just I don't know. It just it's so depends on the type of, yeah, the level of the relationship, how long we've been together. I don't think that there should be secrets.

00:50:10:00 - 00:50:25:02
Unknown
But I just think that there's just some things that are for me, I don't know why you need to work for. OK, no, I yes, I just absolutely, absolutely. If I want to borrow your phone to take a picture or borrow your phone to send someone a message and that type of stuff, I don't need you.

00:50:25:02 - 00:50:37:27
Unknown
If you garden your phone, then I know something's wrong. Oh, you don't, don't guard. Oh, something's wrong with your guarding your phone. Yeah, I totally agree. Like, you know, what do you think about, you know how they mean same people put the phone?

00:50:37:28 - 00:50:54:07
Unknown
Yeah, they turn it this way. Yeah, yeah, they leave it up. Do you agree with that stuff or what do you think? Well, for me, I have cracked my screen so many times. OK, the back part with the the back part, you know, with the with the camera lens things and I don't know how I have had

00:50:54:07 - 00:51:04:22
Unknown
to replace that so many. Well, my husband has replaced so many things and he's like, How do you keep breaking this? Like, seriously, I need a better case. I do. I really do. So that breaks all the time.

00:51:04:22 - 00:51:16:10
Unknown
And for me, I feel like whether your phone is this way or this, my phone is down because I don't want to break my camera apart. But OK, if it's up or down, I feel like there's you can turn off your phone.

00:51:16:10 - 00:51:26:28
Unknown
You can do certain things that should never really matter. You're not going to really find anything, whether it's up or down, if they don't want you to find some, you know what I mean? Well, some people post their phone.

00:51:27:06 - 00:51:38:08
Unknown
Some people I post, some people put their phone down because they don't want you to see text messages or whatnot that's coming through. Oh, they're like notifications and stuff notifications. Yeah, I mean, yeah, I guess that could be a thing, but you can turn them off.

00:51:39:09 - 00:51:50:09
Unknown
You can turn them off. That's something so it doesn't matter, you know, either. Either way, you know, you just trust who you're with. Or don't let me tell you the tip. Oh, if your iPad is linked to your iPhone, yeah.

00:51:50:27 - 00:52:11:18
Unknown
Be careful. 00, because I have someone. Who? Oh, read my conversation, oh, on my iPad that were coming through through my phone. Ngozi and the conversations to me was just me and my friend. It wasn't even nothing. It wasn't the guy.

00:52:11:19 - 00:52:23:01
Unknown
It wasn't nothing. It's nosy, Nancy, and they just they took it and they ran with it, took it and ran with it. And they made it something that it wasn't. Yeah. So yeah, just be mindful. Don't do a lot, you know what I mean?

00:52:23:02 - 00:52:38:19
Unknown
Let me have my, yeah, personal, personal, personal. My conversations with you, my friends, is between me and them. Yeah, absolutely. Just like the bathroom. Thank you, privacy. You need it. Sometimes 50 feet. It's not OK. Back up. Basically, Dad again.

00:52:38:28 - 00:52:53:10
Unknown
Thank you. So do you wish your partner's happy birthday on social media? Is it a thing or you think you think you must? Is that a must? I'm. Yeah, I mean, yes, I think it's OK, I think it's just a really nice thing to do.

00:52:53:11 - 00:53:06:07
Unknown
You know, I mean, I don't see why you wouldn't, you know, unless we were somewhere where I didn't have like signal or something or if I was, I don't know. Even if I was face to face with him all day, I'd probably still sneak away and kind of make a little message, you know, and post it, you

00:53:06:07 - 00:53:16:21
Unknown
know? But I think it's nice to which people like to see that when it's your birthday, like people, expect your partner to wish you happy birthday. Yeah. So it's more for the people, then it's not really for you.

00:53:16:22 - 00:53:30:19
Unknown
Well, it could be both. It could be both. But I just mean, like anyone like you want people to wish you happy birthday sometime when it's your big day. Me, I'm I'm a little bit different, but for for other people, I would definitely wish them Happy Birthday.

00:53:30:20 - 00:53:42:09
Unknown
I think that's nice. Yeah, I think that's good. What about if it's just happy birthday versus like a long caption sometimes? Listen, we may live for many years. Sometimes it's just like, Yo, happy birthday. You do your thing.

00:53:42:09 - 00:53:55:17
Unknown
You look great. I want a long caption. You want a long caption. And we express your love to me. Here she goes. It actually could just be a long text to just me. I like you like to read those types of things.

00:53:55:17 - 00:54:07:00
Unknown
I don't need it to be for everyone, but I like to read those types of things where people are, you know, expressing how absolutely good I make them feel. You know, a love letter. I want a love letter to remind you.

00:54:07:01 - 00:54:17:22
Unknown
Let's bring those every month. I want to love life. I love that. I love that. That's so cute. Yes. Listen, there's nothing wrong with a love letter. If you're ever asking yourself, should I do that for my significant other?

00:54:17:23 - 00:54:31:20
Unknown
The answer is yes, yes. Do you make it clear that you're in a relationship on social media or is it like mysterious? It depends on the platform, you know, some specifically ask stated That is true. Some have nothing there, you know?

00:54:31:21 - 00:54:42:11
Unknown
Right, right. But you know, if you want to know and you if you're curious, just ask somebody. But I don't think you should ever be like required to. It could be a business type of thing. It depends on what it is.

00:54:42:11 - 00:55:01:02
Unknown
There's some couples that, like you know, in their IG bill. Uh-Huh. And they have hubby and then they put his, Oh, God is at. Oh geez. I mean, if that works for you, I guess, you know, you don't know that the page is private anyway.

00:55:02:08 - 00:55:17:27
Unknown
Don't do that. No, I don't need to do all that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But you know, some people really like to flaunt. But but that's sometimes people use that for social media for that exact reason. Just want to flaunt their relationships just to flaunt your money, sometimes just to flaunt your business.

00:55:18:18 - 00:55:31:00
Unknown
That's true. And that's why for me now, I don't think it really matters because I've been in situations where we posted each other and, you know, behind the scenes, it was crazy. Yeah. So now I'm like, I want to make sure that it's good at home.

00:55:31:10 - 00:55:44:10
Unknown
Mm-Hmm. I don't really care if it's if it's good, if that transfers to transfers to social media, I don't know if it's good in the home is good in the home. Leave it alone. Yeah, it rhymes. OK, OK, OK.

00:55:44:22 - 00:56:03:02
Unknown
I was watching Housewives of Potomac, huh? Yeah. And Wendy, a scuffle. There's Wendy. We know Wendy. Wendy. Yeah, she's she's. She's African. I can't remember which which part. But her husband. I guess they were like cheating rumors. Oh yeah.

00:56:03:03 - 00:56:18:18
Unknown
And then I went on Reddit and people were like, Do you see the girls that he follow on IG? They're all different than Wendy. They're like model girls, all the boobs out, you know, the fake. But oh, all that stuff, the clenched waist, all that.

00:56:19:01 - 00:56:39:10
Unknown
And they were saying, maybe there are some truth to these cheating rumors because he's following completely different looking women to his spouse. Is that a thing? Does it matter who they follow? I don't think it does. Like, I don't think it does because.

00:56:40:14 - 00:56:57:24
Unknown
I mean. Do you have access to these women? I mean, I guess a DM has access, you can message anybody. So yeah, but you just really got to trust your your partner. I guess that it's probably not great to see that your man is following some big booty girl.

00:56:58:16 - 00:57:10:01
Unknown
Like, who was this big booty girl? Who is this? OK? Why are you following her? And he will tell you, because of her body, you would probably say that, you know, so if you know that's what it is, it's kind of like, well, whatever.

00:57:10:01 - 00:57:23:20
Unknown
I mean, OK? You know, so you don't. So you don't care. I wouldn't. I really wouldn't. I really wouldn't. What about if she follows him back now? See, there we go. So he might just like the scroll and see big booty.

00:57:24:13 - 00:57:37:19
Unknown
Big little go and listen. We're not talking about me personally. I'm doing a guy. If a guy wants to be skull and big booty girls and we follow in big with girls and they follow him back then you know they're living in a big booty world.

00:57:41:08 - 00:57:53:22
Unknown
OK. Let them let them live. You can't put so many restrictions on people because if you do that, that can backfire. You know, don't even really look, I came with you to look through who someone's following me either.

00:57:53:27 - 00:58:06:23
Unknown
And you must take the time to let go who you're following. I'm sorry, but I'm not. I'm not. That's why trust is so important, because you will drive yourself crazy. I follow some fine men. Oh yeah, OK. I would like to follow my gardener.

00:58:08:28 - 00:58:22:27
Unknown
No, he hasn't seen this in five minutes, I just. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, he's so cute. Absolutely. You know, now we if you got with someone and you were really serious about that person, would you unfollow them because they probably know.

00:58:22:28 - 00:58:35:20
Unknown
OK, I follow fine women, too. OK. I mean, I don't. I don't. I don't go that way. Yeah, but I think women are beautiful. Yeah, absolutely. So I agree. I don't think that's a that shouldn't be a thing.

00:58:35:21 - 00:58:47:28
Unknown
No. No, that is not a thing. No. Yeah. Does does does. Do you think your partner should follow you because there are some people who don't have their partners follow the follow up? I think that would be a little bit odd that they don't follow you.

00:58:48:00 - 00:58:58:23
Unknown
Yeah, I think so, too. That would be a little bit odd. I would want to know why, why they don't. Yeah. Like, how are you gonna follow other people and not follow me? Yeah. What? Oh no. That's a bit weird.

00:58:59:09 - 00:59:11:20
Unknown
You would have a good reason, and I don't know what that reason would be. I don't. Yeah, I don't know, either. But yeah, no. I need to follow this. You know, follow me. OK, follow me or go, go follow me or get out, get out.

00:59:12:17 - 00:59:32:15
Unknown
We fell in big, but he goes on. OK, I know as a. Do you feel that? If your partner has to block someone, do you want to know? Who and why they did that? Hmm. I mean, the blacklist, do you block people, do you block people?

00:59:32:16 - 00:59:48:03
Unknown
Let me just start by saying that a lot of people you do, I do block people. Yeah. Do you? I mean, I've had two before, too. Yeah. Well, maybe it depends on why I'm blocking them. Mm-Hmm. Because if it's someone who's like, reach out to them and trying to talk to them or try, I want to know

00:59:48:17 - 00:59:59:01
Unknown
. Yeah, yeah. I'm curious about that type of stuff. I want to be that. Also, they were trying to get with you when they know that, Oh yeah, you're with me and then what? You're going to be pulling up, cause I'm ready.

00:59:59:04 - 01:00:13:19
Unknown
No, I don't fight. Or we're not fighting. Never mind. I don't. I just want to know for myself, especially if it's like someone that maybe an acquaintance or I'm curious, but I don't really think that I need to know every person that you block know.

01:00:14:04 - 01:00:24:23
Unknown
And what about if, if your significant other, do you think that it's OK for them to follow like your friends? Yeah, why not? And then your friends will back? I don't have a problem with that at all. I think that's cute.

01:00:24:24 - 01:00:38:15
Unknown
I think so, too. I think so too. I think people can get weird with that, though. What do you that what you mean? Like when a person is following someone that they are friends with, you know, it kind of backfired and they get jealous.

01:00:38:16 - 01:00:53:27
Unknown
Jealousy is a thing. Oh, so you know, if they broke up or something? No. But like, I've had a friend who was with someone and that person that they were with, like some of their friends stuff and that girl that told me that was like, I don't want you talking to my friends.

01:00:53:27 - 01:01:06:23
Unknown
And it's like, I mean, I don't see this from you. I don't see nothing wrong with with. Like my friend's boyfriend or husband, like my picture, yeah, I don't either, because I'm cute, too. Hello. You want to see this?

01:01:07:02 - 01:01:20:12
Unknown
I mean, you can. You can acknowledge that someone is beautiful without it being a sexual on resolutely. Absolutely. Like something is wrong with someone who thinks that they yeah. That there significant other should it like other other people, stuff and their friends.

01:01:20:22 - 01:01:36:01
Unknown
You know, some. It's just good energy. You vibe with somebody and they kind of become like, all like, you should want to know and appreciate and respect your partner's friends. You might just like their caption. Sometimes I like stuff because I was just like the caption, Yeah, might not even like really the photo.

01:01:36:02 - 01:01:52:03
Unknown
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I feel like the IG and Faisal. Sometimes it's kind of mindless. You're not even really putting too much thought into what you're making. You're just like, Oh yeah, like, like, Oh, this reminds me, what do you remember when Iman left that comment?

01:01:52:08 - 01:02:05:16
Unknown
You know, talking about mom left that it was a smiley face or something. It was a kissy face. Oh, and like a heart and a smiley face under some girl's picture. So what would you? Well, what do you think?

01:02:06:15 - 01:02:22:22
Unknown
You better not be possono kissy faces. What? That is not your sister. That is not a relative. Like, what are you doing? That's to me. That's very disrespectful. OK. Okay. If you want to like, congratulate her or, you know, clap it up or something like that, like, OK, fine.

01:02:22:23 - 01:02:39:26
Unknown
But like GIPHY. Like, what are you trying to get me at? I suppose they could just give her a kiss on the cheek, knock it off. No, knock it off. No, absolutely not. Okay. I don't know. I just haven't been looking at that stuff.

01:02:40:11 - 01:02:51:08
Unknown
Well, I looked at it because it was new. No, I mean, I meant for my if I, you know, just with. But again, yeah, I mean, I don't know how I would even come across something like that because I don't follow the comments that he leaves on.

01:02:51:10 - 01:03:03:05
Unknown
Yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah, you know, but if I put a kissy face, you know, I guess, you know, there could be some undertones there. And I think she was single. That's another thing I and even kissy faces under big booty girls that are single.

01:03:03:19 - 01:03:15:17
Unknown
OK. It is not OK because you're not single. Yeah, that's I don't like that. Got all? OK, I get it. You know, I get it if I catch it. But most likely, I probably won't because I'm not like, probably won't catch.

01:03:15:17 - 01:03:25:07
Unknown
It won't catch it unless you're following her. But the only reason why I'm on Gaga was because he was a celebrity, you know? So you think that he was trying to? I don't know what he was trying to do.

01:03:25:29 - 01:03:35:17
Unknown
OK. We watch it. We don't know. But you know. Yes. Yeah. They just had a beautiful baby, though. Yeah. Yeah, I'm happy for them very much. OK, you know, we're going to move on. Yeah. So the queen's truth.

01:03:36:07 - 01:03:51:07
Unknown
Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey. It's it's Queen truth. Yes, this is like a lot of questions. Oh, I love. Thank you, Stephanie. OK, thank you. He comes home from outside and jumps in the bed. Example he might be playing.

01:03:52:11 - 01:04:08:16
Unknown
And what do you do you better not come out? I need you to this trip, take all your clothes off and go take a shower. Yeah, OK, yeah, you don't come from outside and it's no like outside. Are you crazy?

01:04:08:19 - 01:04:23:03
Unknown
Don't do that. Don't do that. Why would you even want to do that? That is stinking. Yeah. I would not even be comfortable getting into my like nice bed sheets knowing I just came from outside. No, you go take a shower, please go to that strip, which is awesome.

01:04:25:23 - 01:04:35:20
Unknown
You know, hey, nothing wrong with stripping. She just wants you to strip, basically. So when you get in the shower, you strip free, you get in the shower, get dressed, come back, strip again and then you can get.

01:04:37:02 - 01:04:56:12
Unknown
Snuggly right. Shall we? Yes, shall we? His girl's best friend continues to disrespect the relationship. Oh, his girl, best friend continues to disrespect the relationship. Why he got a girl, best friend. How do you handle that? I'm your girl best friend.

01:04:57:10 - 01:05:21:29
Unknown
OK. OK. Look at me, I'm your best friend right now. OK. Girl, best friend. Oh, that's my best friend. All right. Got to give them a busy in a test. You could away, boy. Yeah, that's that's. Yeah, that's OK.

01:05:22:16 - 01:05:37:04
Unknown
It's like, No, it's not. It's me. Only me. No, you don't have a best race. I love that song. It's a good song. But that's not OK. OK. Is there an outfit etiquette when friends or family are over?

01:05:37:05 - 01:05:54:21
Unknown
Example shirt or no shirt mill short shorts and tank female bra or no bra female? Great. I love that. Great question. Hmm. Yeah. Yeah, there is etiquette for that. And you know what? A lot of people forgot about it.

01:05:55:11 - 01:06:13:06
Unknown
They did. Yeah. I don't know if you ever feel like I've been in situations before to where I felt like maybe something was a little bit inappropriate in in the past. You know, this is. Well, a long time ago, but I mean, some people just have no regard, but what can you do?

01:06:13:07 - 01:06:29:21
Unknown
You know, I cannot check another grown woman about what she has on. You know, it says more about her than it does about me or my situation. You mean if she came to your house? Yeah. I cannot check a grown woman, I would note it in my mind like, OK, you coming over here looking like you wanted

01:06:29:21 - 01:06:48:10
Unknown
, you know, but I remember at all times I am the Beyonce. So I don't I can have some something baggy honey, and it doesn't really faze me. But I notice when a girl is being a little thirsty, you know, because there's so there's a difference between being like sexy, cute and sexy and being look kind of provocative

01:06:48:10 - 01:07:03:09
Unknown
, sexy like you want meant to be looking. Maybe I took I took that question as if someone is staying over at your house and they have on like no bra, like a little short shorts. Like if your friend staying over at your house and they have a little short shorts, a little tank top, no bra.

01:07:03:10 - 01:07:21:01
Unknown
No, I'm going to be like, Oh no, what are you wearing? OK, do you know where you are? But I go and change. You better go and change. Put a bra on those bumpers. And I don't care if they're just, you know, little about, you know, you put them on, OK, I don't not want to see cheeks

01:07:21:05 - 01:07:38:02
Unknown
of any kind. I don't want to see butt cheeks. Yeah, no, that's that's inappropriate. I think it's very inappropriate. But you know, you say you would say something. Yeah, I might. I might let it slide the first time and see if she I let it slide zero times.

01:07:38:15 - 01:07:54:29
Unknown
OK, put on something different. And my my man too. OK. Someone's coming over. You gonna sweat pants, you know, one time, one time and no and no and no shirt. You don't really put on a shirt. Don't be showing the goods.

01:07:54:29 - 01:08:07:14
Unknown
I thought I've actually had to say that one time because he was about to go take out the garbage. And yet I was like, Yo, where are you going? Yeah, no. Bring it on back. Bring it on. That's going to put a T.

01:08:07:14 - 01:08:22:00
Unknown
Yeah, put it on, you know? So because, you know, people don't have this, we seem all that, all that stuff to dress appropriately. Yeah. Baggy stuff, baggy pants. Yeah, no one needs to see the goods. The goods are for me.

01:08:22:18 - 01:08:41:04
Unknown
I agree. I, I wholeheartedly agree with that. Yeah, I wholeheartedly agree with that. That's hilarious. OK. So you wash his clothes and they shrink fade. What do you do? What do you mean, what I do? What do you do say?

01:08:42:04 - 01:08:59:04
Unknown
It shrunk in the washing machine is not my fault. I'll be like, what shirt? Listen, I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know. I don't know. You have no idea. It's not my fault. I would literally just like, throw it away.

01:09:00:11 - 01:09:11:11
Unknown
I was like, I don't know dogma. Maybe it'll pop up. I'll I'll help you look for it, but I bet. But that's something to clean with. You know, I like when that stuff happens. You know, you just you just wipe see a little puddle or something that may occur.

01:09:11:11 - 01:09:22:04
Unknown
You just can use that. What if it's his favorite shirt so he can buy another one? True. Yeah, true. It's not my fault. You know nothing, man. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah, no. I get that. That's what he thought was true.

01:09:23:24 - 01:09:44:27
Unknown
You're not funny. Definitely going to say it. You know, you wash his clothes and find skid marks in his underwear. Go on, go on. What do you do? This was the Sex and the City episode. You know, this was a sex and the city.

01:09:44:27 - 01:10:00:09
Unknown
It was violence. You found that on Steve Miranda, found it on Steve's boxers, and she was like, Yeah, I mean, sorry, we got wet wipes. So you would tell him that you would be like, Listen, I found no.

01:10:00:10 - 01:10:24:05
Unknown
Would you say that? Or would you just be like, Hey, there's there's wet wipes here, and we need to get a buddy. Yeah, you can clean your butt, but. Because obviously, you're not really getting in there, you know, cleaning up up, but there's some stuff being left behind.

01:10:24:18 - 01:10:39:01
Unknown
OK? Would you tell him? Well, I would, probably. I don't know. I would probably throw away. I don't you? I don't know. I don't know. But you put him in that kind of move that quickly just put. I don't know.

01:10:39:01 - 01:10:52:23
Unknown
I don't know. Whatever the problem continues, you got to, you got to find the rule. Hopefully, it doesn't continue. Yeah. I mean, if it's a thing that happens over and over, that's a conversation. You are going to have to have only we got wet wipes.

01:10:54:27 - 01:11:04:07
Unknown
There's wet wipes all over the hose. Oh my god. You know, just clean your butt. But I think the word of the day is by day by day, the word of the day is bad day. What about you know, honey?

01:11:04:07 - 01:11:18:18
Unknown
What about we invest in a birthday? What do you think? Yeah, I mean, we like why clean your butt your butt? But you get a little bit of that. I mean, it is not cute, OK? We got to figure something out.

01:11:18:21 - 01:11:34:06
Unknown
What does that? Ain't it? And I'm here to help. OK. No, I'm not helping you clean your butt. No, not clean. I'm helping you find a solution so that they are OK. So he goes out with his boys and comes back wasted.

01:11:34:07 - 01:11:59:21
Unknown
He vomits and shits himself. What do you do? The question is like, you know, you do that for this question just went further and further each word. OK. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, let me repeat you OK. OK, you guys know what?

01:11:59:21 - 01:12:17:10
Unknown
This boy comes back. Wasted vomiting. OK, you know, vomits and shit himself. What do you do? You know what? I'm a keeper all the way through with you, OK? I would help. I would help him. I would help him.

01:12:17:11 - 01:12:28:03
Unknown
And now, in that moment when you're intoxicated, like that? I mean, what? What are you going? Am I just going to let you sit in your shit in your vomit? That's not a very good girlfriend or a good way.

01:12:28:22 - 01:12:43:18
Unknown
So I would help, even though I'd be like whole the whole time. But that's that's I. I can't leave you like that. If I couldn't do that, what would you do? He's wasted, so he can't do so much.

01:12:44:07 - 01:12:53:13
Unknown
What are you going to do? I would throw him in the tub, put on the shower thing. Close the curtain and be like, Listen, I'm to get you back in. Like, I don't know, I'm going to get a hold of them down.

01:12:53:16 - 01:13:11:22
Unknown
Strip in the backyard. Open up his butt. Not open up. Oh, God. Oh, I don't want to deal with that. So that's just nasty. But if if you had to or if I had to, I would absolutely get the job done.

01:13:11:23 - 01:13:25:05
Unknown
You know what I mean? Do you see when, when baby poop is so stinky? Mm hmm. I can't imagine a grown man spoke. I couldn't, either. That's why I said I would be like throwing up the whole time I'd be throwing on myself.

01:13:25:05 - 01:13:36:21
Unknown
I got to tell you, I'm the type of person to have someone stirring up, and I see it on myself and like, you know, I get like that. I don't throw up. I would have a thrown up. Oh yeah, it's been a long time.

01:13:36:21 - 01:13:46:15
Unknown
Yeah, I don't. I don't mean it. Yeah, even I threw it. Maybe a couple of times I was when I was pregnant, but even before that, maybe when I was a kid, OK, I don't throw up. No, I don't want to be around it.

01:13:47:03 - 01:14:01:25
Unknown
I don't. Nobody wants to be around this girl. But that's a very good question, Larry. I was like, Oh my God got worse and worse, boy. All his mom is always at the house. She makes herself at home.

01:14:02:06 - 01:14:19:19
Unknown
But you need a break. What do you do? Oh, wow. Whew. Hmm. I think maybe have a conversation with him and say, Hey, you know, can she maybe let us know when she's going to come over? And maybe we can, you know, sometimes we might be busy.

01:14:20:02 - 01:14:36:06
Unknown
Yeah, yeah. And and sometimes it's just as simple as communicating your feelings to somebody because they don't know, you know, they think that they're fine where they are, like, Well, you know, I didn't know you had a problem with me over here, and you let them know that they might change it a little bit, right?

01:14:36:06 - 01:14:52:19
Unknown
You know, give him the benefit of the doubt and say something. I think that people need to be more in tune to how other people feel, especially when you're coming to their home. I agree. And if you watch someone, you pay attention, you'll see it, you'll see it in their face.

01:14:52:19 - 01:15:03:05
Unknown
You'll see it in their expressions, you'll see. But some people just don't care. They just want to get out of the house. And that's what I'm yeah. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Like, you know, you have to be mindful of where you are.

01:15:03:06 - 01:15:20:09
Unknown
I agree you're stepping into a family's home. Sometimes, you know, whether it's your mom or your dad or your brother, cousin, your sister, you know, everybody's welcome. You guys are always welcome, you know? But I mean, it depends on how long you know you're trying to be here for like years or something.

01:15:21:02 - 01:15:33:03
Unknown
I yeah, and I like my space. I like to be by myself for a certain time. I don't really want someone around me all the time. So that would be hard. Yeah, for me to to, yeah, have to go through.

01:15:33:04 - 01:15:45:07
Unknown
I can turn on my, my social, my social switch. But in order for me to really be on when I'm on, I have to be able to turn it off. Sometimes, yes, you know, I got to be able to that to recharge.

01:15:45:07 - 01:15:54:19
Unknown
And when you have company, you kind of have to be on. And even if they're like, No, don't worry about me, it's like, you still kind of have to be on, you know, I agree. You still you still have to be.

01:15:54:25 - 01:16:09:04
Unknown
I agree. That's what hosting is. You know, don't force me to host. Let me offer. Yeah, OK. Completely. And then ask what time you'll be exiting, exiting the premises? Yeah. You know, which is it my turn or your time?

01:16:09:05 - 01:16:30:09
Unknown
Oh, I think it's. I think it's me. Oh, OK. Your stomach is bad. You have to shit now to me. You go and stop up the toilet. Oh, what do you do? OK, wait. All right. Let's let's let's.

01:16:30:10 - 01:16:44:01
Unknown
They suck. You're getting these ones. OK, OK. OK, let's see. Let's see. So where am I? Am I at all? I think so. But here's how he had his hands and the toilet get stopped at all. I'm listening.

01:16:44:07 - 01:17:01:11
Unknown
I'm going out the window. You never see me again. OK, we just forget about me. Forget about forget about us. Our love this like. That's not what would you? What would you do? And you couldn't. You couldn't get it unstuck perusing dumb and Dumber.

01:17:02:04 - 01:17:11:29
Unknown
You see that that that that part when he that the toilet was clogged and he could not for the life of him, get it. But I felt I feel that what would you do? I don't know. That's so.

01:17:11:29 - 01:17:31:01
Unknown
I think I'll do the same thing, but I can't fit through the window. So, so he would come in and you'd be like, I. You. That's a terrible scenario, terrible, no. I don't know what I would do. I would die in sight.

01:17:31:12 - 01:17:44:02
Unknown
I would oh man, like but honestly, like in that type of a situation, I would try everything that I possibly could, right? And if I couldn't figure that out, I would like, I don't know, try to find some.

01:17:44:19 - 01:17:58:12
Unknown
I don't know. I would just leave. You could and I would have asked him for it. I'm not asking him if he would know. Because then he would know. That's terrible. This is so embarrassing. Like, I'm so embarrassed.

01:17:58:13 - 01:18:11:20
Unknown
And it hasn't happened. You know, I'm so embarrassed. There's I don't know what I would do if that's happened to any one of you. Let us know what you did. I want to know you jump out the window, I would have straight up, you got to do that stuff before you leave the house, but I know sometimes

01:18:11:20 - 01:18:28:16
Unknown
it just, you know, maybe you got something to eat, you ate something that was just that easily. Oh my gosh. And even even if it went down the toilet, like just like I would, he could. Probably his nose is probably working like, I'm not OK with that.

01:18:31:06 - 01:18:41:22
Unknown
I would leave before I did that in his bathroom. Like, Yeah, I got to go, OK, I got to go, get, get it. Get it. So you don't. You don't. So suppose you, you know, you got a fart or something.

01:18:41:22 - 01:19:00:06
Unknown
I'm not doing it. What do you mean? A don't ask, guess? What does that mean? I don't have gas in front of anyone, really. I just don't. My body is trained that way. And I know. Listen, listen, it it's a it's a thing for me and I know some people like, Well, you've got to let it out

01:19:00:07 - 01:19:11:15
Unknown
. We have friends who are nurses, and they've told me before the wife told me like, Oh, you let it out, let it out, you know? But I'm like it. Just my body just won't even I don't even feel like I have to sound like I'm sitting there.

01:19:11:15 - 01:19:29:16
Unknown
Hold it. So you have never passed gas in front of your husband. one time. What do you mean once? And yeah, that was years and years and years ago when I was doing it, but I was mortified and it never happened.

01:19:29:17 - 01:19:40:20
Unknown
So it's no that is crazy. I swear to God, if there's any of you who've never passed gas in front of your significant other, I need to know because I feel like that is a that's a are you?

01:19:40:28 - 01:20:00:10
Unknown
You're a rare. Are you to tune in? Beep beep whenever over the like. Would you do that? I mean, with your guy. Yeah. It's like you if you're a child watching a movie, you would just like, let one go.

01:20:00:11 - 01:20:14:22
Unknown
Like if you had to, you would just you would think you're serious. So how am I supposed to like not let it happen? Well, well, wait a minute. What if you're under the blanket to get it to you?

01:20:14:22 - 01:20:26:22
Unknown
Say, Look the like, how do you do that? What do you excuse yourself like? What do you do anyway? So what do you do? Maybe I got to learn from you. I listen. I'm at a point now. I'm a nurse for a long time.

01:20:26:23 - 01:20:38:09
Unknown
My body doesn't even react. I don't feel like I have to, you know? But if I did feel like I had to, then I might be like, Oh, let me get something from the, you know, from the bathroom real quick, you know, made go over there.

01:20:38:25 - 01:20:57:00
Unknown
But I'm not going to be like up on, you know, every time you need to because I'm sorry. You know, people pass gas, what a couple of times a day. Maybe so you just get up each time. Well, I don't need you got past gas that much to where you feel at least maybe two or three times

01:20:57:00 - 01:21:15:23
Unknown
a day. Not. Now, I don't have to do it. I'm not sure. No, you're not shipping at all. You're not shipping it off. How many know how many times do you think people pass Cassidy? A few times, so you're not necessarily around people all day long.

01:21:16:23 - 01:21:32:05
Unknown
They may or may not happen at those times. So you just every time you need to go to the back of the mean, you need to tilt tilt to talk to BP. They you not that. Yeah, the silent ones, listen, listen.

01:21:35:04 - 01:21:49:09
Unknown
Look. But I honestly, I really I doesn't even come to my mind because I don't have to. I don't have to. What does he do? Oh, he doesn't care. So why do you care? I really don't. It just doesn't happen from my body.

01:21:49:11 - 01:22:00:26
Unknown
I just I don't. I don't know what to say. That is that is rare. Yeah. He does not help. No, I mean, I'm not going to do it, you know, within the first couple of days. How do you know how loud it's going to be?

01:22:00:26 - 01:22:14:11
Unknown
Like taking a chance? Wait, what if it's like a trumpet? Like, what are you going to do? What he had to do? What he had to do? Just saying, Oh my gosh, just say you don't know. I don't know.

01:22:15:08 - 01:22:27:17
Unknown
How soon do you? I mean, can you even? Can you even say that? Like, does it just come out you? I think that there's no how soon there's just that time that it happens and you're like, Oh, no.

01:22:27:20 - 01:22:44:06
Unknown
Oh God. And then then then I think after the first thing happens, you're just comfortable after. OK. Have you had someone to while you guys having sex? No. But I've heard of that happening before, and it was so hilarious.

01:22:44:06 - 01:23:03:19
Unknown
The story was so funny. I've had that happen. Really, I wasn't the one. What does that mean? Oh, no. Yeah, the moments like that. Sorry. You know, it's just some people. Just it is natural. OK, so we'll go with that.

01:23:03:19 - 01:23:29:27
Unknown
It's natural. So if it happens, it happens. It happens, you know? Cool. Yeah, it was. It was interesting. Did you crack up? I just was like, Did you keep going? I'm like, Oh, oh, oh no. No. Terrible. Not.

01:23:30:26 - 01:23:44:03
Unknown
Totally. Like, that's going to kill the vibe. So that feels so. Oh no. Oh, what was it? Oh, well, no. We're we're done. We're done. We're done. We're done with that session. Yeah, really? No, no, I can't. Not going to be done.

01:23:44:10 - 01:23:54:22
Unknown
To keep going when it smells like we're not going to have sex in your phone, you're on the ocean of gas. I'm not. That's not sexy to me. OK, I'm sorry. We're not doing that. Oh God, it's it's done.

01:23:54:29 - 01:24:15:11
Unknown
OK, OK? Is this me again? No, no, no, no. OK. Should you bring? Snacks for your kids when visiting friends, family and stuff, Segway. Yeah, yeah, yeah. What's this question be like on fire, though? But yeah. Yes. Did you bring snacks for your kids when visiting friends, family?

01:24:16:06 - 01:24:33:24
Unknown
I always bring stuff the pens. I don't think so. I always do because I can't. It depends like I try to feed him food food before we go somewhere so that, you know, because I can always rely that he's going to be focused enough to sit down and eat his food like, you know, he gets so excited

01:24:34:01 - 01:24:45:05
Unknown
when we go out somewhere, then he won't eat and then he's missed lunch. Just so I try to plan it to where he eats the normal, you know, breakfast or his lunch and then, you know, snacks and stuff like that.

01:24:45:05 - 01:24:54:04
Unknown
I'll bring them, you know, because I don't want to rely on somebody else's stuff and I don't know what you have. It depends on how long you're going to be there if you going to be there all day.

01:24:54:04 - 01:25:06:22
Unknown
I ain't bringing nothing because we go and buy stuff. Are they going to have snacks if they have other kids? Yeah. And he will just eat whatever's there. Yeah, yeah. But if it's like a little short thing you don't know, it really depends on where we're going.

01:25:06:22 - 01:25:22:24
Unknown
Because if we're going to house it other kids, my assumption is that they got stuff. They got stuff. Yeah, and some stuff like, I don't necessarily want my son to have a lot of sugar, you know, some people only have like sugary stuff, you know, it's true.

01:25:22:25 - 01:25:32:24
Unknown
I just want him to have like a banana or a piece of apple or something. You know where you're right. So I will try to at least bring like a banana with me or something just in case a banana.

01:25:32:26 - 01:25:43:23
Unknown
I don't want him all sugared up by the time I leave your house because I rely on you to give him some snacks. No, you're right. You're right. That's true. That's true. I like that. Yeah. OK, OK, let's see what this one is.

01:25:44:12 - 01:26:03:15
Unknown
first time he sleeps over, he passes gas in his sleep. It smells bad. What do you do? The first time he sleeps over? Yeah. Oh man. Oh wow. There's nothing you can do. I would wake him up. No, you turn your back that way.

01:26:03:15 - 01:26:19:28
Unknown
No way. Because you're not about to keep faith with me with that coming my way. OK? No one. OK. Oh, you got to be real bad if it wakes you up. But it could. And if it does wake you up what you're doing, I'm not going to wake him up.

01:26:20:06 - 01:26:34:25
Unknown
I'm not about to listen to you something or some sort of perfume. Under the covers by him. That is not going to help. You cannot cover the funk with some of you because it's mixed with like funk and perfume.

01:26:34:25 - 01:26:49:07
Unknown
Yeah, yeah, right? It's like, Nah, you know, he's sleeping well. The least we could do is talking about the other way. That's why would you tell him when he wakes up? Yeah. Would you really? I was like, You know what?

01:26:49:25 - 01:27:06:16
Unknown
Let's suppose it was you. Would you like someone to tell you when you meet him? I guess you could say so embarrassed. I would be so embarrassed, but it'd be so hilarious. But yeah, that's why all the time you would ever catch me slipping on that bus type.

01:27:07:16 - 01:27:26:04
Unknown
No, no. Lose, buddy. We can't do it. Oh, I got tickets, OK? But yeah, so I, you know, I mean, yeah, I don't know. We're it's to do here. She don't say she don't pass gas. You don't pass that.

01:27:26:09 - 01:27:41:06
Unknown
We don't pass that, you know, basket. You know what you mean? Is it you? Yeah. No, I would. It was a first night over. I wouldn't. I wouldn't say anything. I wouldn't say anything. But if you wake me out of my sleep, I don't know.

01:27:41:12 - 01:27:52:19
Unknown
I mean. If I'm able to just nudge you and you turn over on your own, you might just want some that will be it. But if it's smelling up, the room to worry wakes me out of my sleep.

01:27:52:19 - 01:28:03:16
Unknown
We're going to have a problem like you knew you shouldn't have had ice cream and we were drunk. You knew that. OK, now here we are in your Ambien. Oh man, I can't. I don't know. I don't know either.

01:28:03:16 - 01:28:22:27
Unknown
Be mindful of the things that you put in your body, folks. Very mindful of your tongue and might like Dominique. Could she be holding it tight booty or I don't even hold. It just doesn't come out. But also now another thing I didn't think of is, you know, you might want to keep a plunger in your back

01:28:22:27 - 01:28:33:15
Unknown
seat or something in your back. I don't know. I don't know. I could not imagine going to somebody's house, and that's that question is still stuck in my mind, boy. So are going to just jump in the car.

01:28:33:22 - 01:28:45:18
Unknown
I don't know the plunger come back. I would rather like go out the window, go to my car, get the plunger, get back in the window, go in the bathroom. Boop boop boop boop. Get that out there, you know, going through the window miles because the alarms went off.

01:28:46:27 - 01:28:57:04
Unknown
So, you know, you kind of, oh god, you got to share. You got to be like, Yo, I need a plunger. Well, you have a plungers in all your. I do. I do. I do. People put plunders in your butt.

01:28:57:06 - 01:29:14:18
Unknown
Don't have anyone in that situation. Well, you may never see them again. Yes. Going back, I swear your love is gone. It's gone after that, you know. Right down the toilet. Right down the toilet. A good one. OK.

01:29:14:21 - 01:29:25:24
Unknown
Yes, we're done. That wraps up, right? That's Jay rapidly wrapping it all up. So we talked about etiquette. Yeah, that was fun. Yeah, we did. We had a lot of that up. I feel like that was that needed to be said.

01:29:26:10 - 01:29:45:08
Unknown
Yes. Yes. You know, thank you for coming, everybody. Maybe, maybe you the next sweet week. I'll see you next week. Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey. Follow this and I know you will be giving it to you physically.

01:29:45:21 - 01:30:00:22
Unknown
So what what? What will that do? Don't stay the way the brain did. Well, it's amazing. Free to be with the apple. You can make me feel.