Episode 1: Queens of a Feather

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Transcript

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*Music* mic check, mic check, one, two, one, two. Hey. All right. So this is the first episode. First, everything. For Queens of the Feather podcast.

Let me say that slowly so you can understand what I said. Okay. Oh, well, queens of. The invisible crown is there. I love it, of a feather podcast. Isn't she lovely? Yes, that's very true. You are. You're lovely, too.

So we just kind of want to go over so much. A lot. A lot. We've wanted to do a podcast for a very long time. Yeah, it's been a minute. We talk all the time. It's been in the works for a while.

Yes, OK. And we were like, you know, we have a lot to say and we want to invite you guys. To our conversations, we're best friends and we talk a lot of B.S.. Oh, and by B.S means the best stuff.

Oh, right. Wow. Still, you know, it's I didn't know that that's where you were going. I mean, why not? OK. All right. So. Mm hmm. Dubnyk. I'm sure some of you are wondering how we got the name so of the wondering.

But we'll tell them anyway. We're going to tell them. You're going to know. OK, so the end of my name is Dela. Yeah. and I am the one and only.

Oh, goodness. Dominique. Ok so listen, you take the Nique from Dominique and then you have the Dela and you put it together. You know what I mean? You put it together. And this name has been around for how many years?

Oh, my goodness. Well, first we had a different name. We did. We did. You know, remember it, no Jaded Bliss. Oh, no, that oh, gee. Yes. Oh, like yes. Like my sunshine. Oh, he's so cute. I never thought about that.

Oh, my gosh. So that was our first name. And then at the time, do we mention that? We sing that. I mean, that's how this all this whole thing started, how we met, because I think. Yes. And our manager at the time said, you going to change your name?

I don't remember that. I do, because we were like, what's wrong with jaded bliss? And he was like, no. Oh, and then what could be more, you know, natural than just our names? You know, he couldn't say no to that.

Well, you you just reminded me. Yes. That's not how that's not how we met. We met. No. At community college? Yes. Through a friend. Through a friend. Yes. And I remember meeting you. You had your interlocks? Yes.

And you had on a big hoodie. You remember? No, exactly. Oh, my goodness. No big hoodie. It was probably a Stanford hoodie. Oh, goody. Really? Maybe I wonder maybe why? Because I used to always rock those. I still do.

I just have a lot of those. Oh, you know, not that I went there or anything, but, you know, the love of my life. Still, it's a thing, you know. So that was probably it I was wearing. But that's crazy that you remember that I remember.

You know, I remember our manager making us. But but I remember what you're wearing. That's OK. You don't have to remember what I was wearing. Yeah, but I remember what you were wearing. I remember you when you're wearing.

No, you don't. Don't lie, though. I did. I did. OK, we're not going to lie the first. Yeah. You don't remember anything I was wearing. So then we used to go to Denny's all the time. Oh, my gosh.

Denny Denny.  They knew us. Was it? That was. Oh, good times. Good memories. I know. We got the sampler. Yeah. They had a whole bunch of fried stuff. And I used to always be the big one.

And she was a small one. And she will never, ever, ever gain any weight. And we wouldn't the fame we know we put away and we would get an Oreo milkshake or a milkshake with extra Oreos on the side.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. You'd love to get the extra what it was an extra whipped cream or something like that, you know. You know, extra everything. This girl who's always been like that, you know what I mean?

But yes. So that's how we met. Yeah. So we started singing after that. We met through college and then we started singing together. And maybe we should talk about the first session that we had when we were teenagers.

Do you remember that? Like that was amazing. That was that we went to the studio, too. We went to just record some songs, and it just so happened that E40 was a recording in the room next to us.

I don't know. Remember how I don't even know how you remember. I'ma break it all down. Okay, please do so. So E40 was in the room next to us. Oh, and and so that's why the owner of the studio was there, because I think, you know, because he thought it was there that night.

Oh. And we were recording one of our songs. I think it was Hush. Yes. And the owner just was like, you know, making his rounds in the room, saying hi to everybody, introducing himself. And he came in when we were about to record Hush.

And he heard us and was like, oh, I do not even care to be in there would before I want to be in here with you guys. Do you mind if I like? You know. Don't. That's crazy. You don't remember that?

I remember the session, but I remember that I knew that that the manager at the time. I want to say people's names. Yeah, I know that he really, really, really liked us. Yeah. Yeah, I know that. He was like, I want to manage you guys.

Yes. Really? Okay. I know real teenagers. I mean, and he owned a studio, so it worked out. We we got a lot of free studio time. Yes. That's where we put in a lot of that work. We had no money, but we were there like every day, every day.

I remember one time he was like, you can't leave until you finish the song. And it was like 2:00 in the morning. You remember that? Yeah, that was insane. You you had an attitude with him, though? Well, he was rude.

You had an attitude of a lot of people. I mean, I was the nice one. I'm still. You could get it. I guess you could get a how you live. You can goodnights. Listen, listen. No, no, no, no, no, no, no.

I think I am nice. I am nice to everyone until you read me the wrong way. And then I'm like, hey, you know, I don't I don't like. Yeah. See, that's that's dominie, you know, where you can hear full pleaser, which is not a good thing.

We can get into that. You can hear Jan's laugh from a mile away, OK, it's always been like that, OK. It's like the hyena. Oh, that's basically so so that that happened. We made a lot of music. We do.

We still have it, but we just have never really done much of it. But that's a no. I think we we're kind of leaning more towards if we go that route later, we're we have different avenues. But writing for other people, you know, it would be a thing of ours.

Oh, yeah. We write to pretty much well all of our songs we wrote. Yeah. And when I listen to it, I'm like, I can't believe we're teenagers talking about all these little sexual stuff. I know your body has just just so naughty.

But it's good, though. I mean, you know, it made for great music, you know what I mean? But it's the truth. We're grown. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Basically. So so that was that. And then I feel like, oh, God, how long were we with that manager?

And then we wrote an email, we one in an email or like, you know, we don't think they should manage to. Oh, my goodness. But you know, we put a lot of thought into that. Did we? Did you know what I mean?

Yeah, I bet you if we found that email was very probably very polite. Yeah, it was it was appropriate. It was it was professional, you know. Yeah. I, I can't remember exactly why we. Decided that he shouldn't to part ways anymore, but.

Mhm. Yeah. You know, things happen. People grow and you know. Yeah, we moved on. So we made a lot of good songs. And then, you know, it was it was nice. It was it was really nice. So that was a part of us that's a part of us that we will always have.

The music will always be there. Dela*Nique in the place to be.. it's Dela*Nique in the place to be. OK, so now that we've kind of told you guys about us. Yes, pretty much. We want this podcast to be a place where anyone.

Not just girls. Yes. Even though we're women. Yes. You know, guys can listen to just everyone. I mean, hey, why not? Why not? But we just wanted to be a place where we share ourselves about our stories, our highs, our lows, our journey.

Yes, journey. Yeah. Guys, if I ever had a girl. Yes. What? I wanted to make a journey. Yeah, I like that. I like that, too, because I've been through quite a bit. Yeah, we've all been through quite a bit.

Listen, I know. I know. So it makes for a good podcast. So here we are. Here we are. So yeah, we'll talk about dating, right? Yes. Dating, not dating anymore. So, you know, what do you call it? Radar.

She's off the market. The market is the market, that's what it is. Yes, yes. You've been off the market from the time I met you, though. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I kept it. I kept the guy here. She kept the man.

I mean, what do you want me to say? She got it all out. I mean, they wouldn't let me get away. Oh, good luck, guys. So but as far as dating, I can live. I can live through you.

Yeah. Which you know. Yes. You know, guys, I'm dating. I am. I was married before. Yeah. But now I'm a single lady. Yeah. OK. And I'm loving it. I'm loving my space. I love my closet, man. Share with me.

I cannot even imagine like you must be stoked to just have all of this yours girl. I just I can walk through my house. I can do whatever I want. You can watch whatever you want. You can you can you can put my shoes anywhere.

That was a big issue. I could put my shoes anywhere I want, OK? Really? Yeah, that was an issue. Oh, we don't have that. Right, OK. We don't talk about it right now. Yes. Shoes at the door. It's wherever I want to put them.

I can put them inside a house, outside a house and put it on top of the house, upside your head, wherever I want to put it. I can put it wherever I want. They live at me, but they're so.

Yes, absolutely. Yes. So, yeah. So we're talking about marriage. Yeah. Dating, which is about sex. Oh, hi. Oh, my goodness. Oh, yes. We're going to we're going to dove into into all things Tuck's. Yeah, because you got to love yourself, people.

And that's a journey, you know, that's that's the number one word, right. Journey. That's a journey that I have been on. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. And you know what? It never stops, it never stops. You know, I feel like you're you every day you grow.

You know what I mean? Every day you learn something new. You keep your eyes open and you in this open and you just go with the flow and you got to be able to say, hey, I'm not feeling okay today.

That's right. And be OK with that. That's right. If you're not feeling OK, you feel your feels. Yeah. If I'm not feeling OK, you want to bring me some tacos or something like that, then that would make me feel better.

You know what I mean? Like, you need to know what people like if you want to be in certain circles. When I when I met. Well, you still she beat me about ten tacos. I believe in the tacos.

And they're so delicious. OK, tacos. I don't think I've ever taken you to taco licious. I got to tell you that. No, you've never taken me. I've never been. I've heard of. So we can go. We can go.

Yeah, we got to do seafood, OK, next week. We always do seafood. I love me. Some lobster and some shrimp. Oh, my gosh. Okay. Yeah, I love. Absolutely. Doing OK. So food will always take its course along the conversation because that's my favorite topic.

It's my favorite topic, too, I mean, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah. We got some topics. Yes. So guys, I've been dating. Break it down. And it's been interesting. Yeah, of Covid. Yeah, yeah, I bet it's been like I want one.

It's been terrible. Like.. womp, womp, womp. I don't know. Let's see which one it is. The green one. No, that's not doing this to do one. Hold on, guys. Which we decided to put to put it very wall.

Womp, womp, womp That's my dating life. Is that really at this point? Well, you know, the online. I tried it. Yeah, I was super against it. And then I said Covid took place and I'm going to try it.

OK, I'm going to try it. I'm going to see what happens. Yes. And there, you know, I met some cool people. Yeah. But none that has lasted. What would what are some of the turnoffs that you found were going on the most?

So, okay, I'm a naturally scared person. I am very anxious. Yes. So I need to feel comfortable with anyone that I'm potentially going to meet up with. OK, so I think some things have online dating. It's like popcorn, you know, you put it in the microwave.

Yeah, whatever. Yep. But in microwave. And you just want to get it right now. That's a good. That's not me. Oh, I mean, I like popcorn, but that's not me. I need I need a I need a slow build.

Oh, I need a slow build slowly. Yeah, I need a slow bit. Slow, as best, slow as best. That's just me. And because I'm super comfortable with being single. Yes. I'm not just going to put up with just anything that's brought to the table.

So I really need to know who you are. Your standards are my girl. They should be. Absolutely. But, you know, I don't even want to say it. That is high, because I think everyone just has different standards. And that's OK.

They do. They do. Just for me, what works for me is a slow build. Yeah. I need to get to I need to talk to you. I want to at least do one hour to FaceTime. OK. Okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Let's get into the specifics, because I wouldn't I wouldn't even think to say that. So you want to get in some some face times? I want just one or two because I don't want to meet you. And then you're not who you say.

Right. True. I don't want to be I don't want to go. You want to be I don't want you to go missing either. So. Yes. OK, I want to go missing. OK, I don't want to you know, I don't want to have to meet you.

And then you turn out to be a serial killer. Hmm. I just want the the table to be set. And then you know what you're getting into somewhat. And I know what I'm getting into. So do you expect there to be like the good morning texts every morning?

Is that a lesson? That a thing? Um, here's here's I kind of let the guy set the tone. Yeah, OK. I'm not going to text you. Good morning. Unless you use that text to me. Good morning. That's right.

If I'm if you texted me. Good morning. Yeah, maybe two then. It is a good morning. But if you don't, then it's a bad morning. Don't tell me nothing. OK, but if you if you text me. Good morning.

Yes. And for maybe two or three times, I'm like, okay, let me text him good morning. Because I don't want him to feel as though he's the one. That's right. Good morning. Good morning. Good. Right. Right. But I'm very big now that I let the guy set the tone.

I don't need you to chase me. I don't want to be chased. I need you to pursue me. Absolutely. I need you to pursue me. So when do you let these guys know that you're a superstar? Do you do you let them know that like right away, like, hello, I am Jan.

Hear me roar, Dela*Nique? Or do you do you keep that in the tux? Because I know I keep that. I don't like the way. Yeah, I don't. I'm very mysterious. I don't know. I feel like looking at you, I would be like, oh yeah, see.

Yeah. No, I'm very mysterious. And you know who are most you are. Let me tell you the story. This is laughs. Oh, too. Let me tell you this story. These are the craziness that goes on with online dating.

Oh, okay. So so I was talking to this man. Educated, okay. Okay. Educated, beautiful. Man, yes. I was going to say he's handsome, I shouldn't say I was going to say he is he is in his all right.

Unless he changed overnight. We don't know. We don't know. Well, you know, very, very nice. You face time, Tamang, very charming. We FaceTime the couple of times. OK. And he looked like he lived in in the pictures and all that kind of stuff.

Did he look the same? So here's the thing. Let me tell you guys something about the online dating and Covid. OK, you have to give people a little bit of grease because I know you're going everyone isn't all the way groomed how they used to be.

That's right. For. That's right. So, you know, the guys aren't all the way. Yeah. Shake it up or whatever. And. I don't know exactly what you guys call it, but you have to you have to give people a little bit of grace.

You do. So he looked he looked good. But I said to myself, when I meet him in person, we won't see if you know. You spruce it all up. OK, OK, OK. Going, you get your hair cut, all that stuff.

Right, right, right. Groomed. Yes, that's the word. Yeah, I had to go out of state for an emergency. So I think that that dilators million. Yeah, but we still we still talked. Whatever.

So one weekend I went to one weekend, I was, you know, doing what I do. Yes. Running errands by myself. Aha. OK, guys. I have a son. He was with his grandmother. OK. I was enjoying myself. And he was texting me throughout the day.

And, you know, at one point he was like, OK, what are you doing? I said, oh, you know, I'm out. I'm busy because I was looking at cars. I'll just be honest. I was looking at cars, OK? I've been car shopping.

I like looking at cars. I've been looking at cars. So I think I was talking to one of the. What do you call the dealers? The dealership people talking to one of them. OK. OK. Yeah. Yeah. And he said, so are you going to come to my city?

I said, absolutely not. Absolutely. Absolutely not, because I need a little bit more time. Yeah. And also. I was out, I was busy, so he randomly was like, are you going to come to my city?

Yes. Have you guys ever have you guys ever have you guys ever double meaning up before that? No. So he just just sprung that up on you, like, hey, you know. Yeah, but I mean. OK, go ahead. Where was where where were you?

In adjacent to his city. What was it like right next to each other? What what? Why why would he bring that up? About 20, 30 minutes? I'm geographically challenged if we're going to go with that, about 30, about 30 minutes?

I would say he said. Basically that way, kind of like why yes, why not? I mean, I said, hey, you know, I'm in the middle of talking to someone. I'll message you when I get home. Oh, OK. All right.

I said I said I message you when I'm done. That's what I said. I said I'll message you when I'm done. So then I looked at my phone after I was talking to the dealer, and he said something like, you know, 745 or A4, he says 845, whatever.

Whatever time he said, works for me. Let's just go some 5000 745 works for me. Right. And I texted back, ha ha. Because I already told you before. No. I'm a big believer. If my spirit doesn't work with what you're trying to present, to me, it's a no.

I already told you. Absolutely. That's really, really weird. On multiple levels. Yes. Yes. So we go we don't to touch on all. I don't like that. Exactly, because if I tell you no, no means no. No means no.

You can't even get it through a text. I don't know. I don't like that. So men no means no. Women no means no. Everybody no means no. No, no, no, no, no. You say yes. But in this place I said no.

Yeah. OK. So I said absolutely not before. And then when he said somebody who I was known as a. So I drove home. I mean, I did call him when I was done. I wouldn't call home. I wouldn't even listen to my music, listen to my Tony, listen to my Beyonce.

They listen to my Celine Dion. I love Celine. Absolutely. A type of thing. Yeah. And I go home and I got it. When I pulled up into my garage, I got a text from him and it said it.

He gave the address and he said, I'm going for a run and here's my address. Oh, he's weird. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. He said, here's my address and I'm going for a run, but I shall be back by the time you get here.

That's what he said. So I don't like that. I know. So I don't like that at all. I'm mad at him. I don't know him. I'm mad. You know. So I pulled up. The address was like, where is this man trying to make me meet him?

Yes. Oh, it was a house. Well, I think yes. What kind of house? I'm assuming it was his. Could you see the neighborhood? And ain't no neighborhood I'm trying to be at first of all, he said. I don't like that he even.

He is, yes. I assume that you would even want to come over like first of all, he said in the beginning, it's important for, you know, the effort to go both ways, but have a little bit of class.

We can, you know what I mean? I don't know. And I know with Covid, it's a little bit different. You can't just go to a restaurant sometimes, but I don't like his. Yeah, like I don't like that. So I saw the I just and I called him.

I said, I already told you I'm not I'm not coming. I said that I already told you. I said I'm not I'm not going anywhere with you. Yeah. And I said, I've been out all day. OK, I'm busy.

I've been out all day. And when someone says they've been out all day, dominie, what do you what do you think that means that you want to go? Like I'm I'm tired. I'm done. Goodnight. Not to him by.

This is what he said. Oh, no. What did he say? What did he say? Lay it on me. What did he say? What did you say? What did he say? Tell me. What is it?

Tell me. Tell me. Go back, OK? He said. I don't mind Tart. What? Well, wait. Yes, he did. What? It was disturbing. OK, wait a minute. Wait a minute. My mind was not prepared.

Oh, I was not prepared either. It was disturbing. It was great. That's not cute. So what did you do? Blocked. I laughed. And then what? The call was done. And I blocked him. That's odd.

Wait, wait. You. There were there any like he's a weirdo signs up before that day? No, I didn't get any weirdo signs. I mean, that's odd. I don't know. I can't remember. It was a couple of months ago.

Well, you know what? I was super disturbed. I was like. So you just having tart girls come up in your house? Oh, I am not that. No, that ain't it. And I'm not. No, no, that's not cute at all.

It was very disturbing. And you know who you are, you know. You know what? I wouldn't doubt it if you did listen to this podcast. One thing, you know who you are. That's gross. Don't do that. Don't ever do that.

Shame on you, sir. That's gross. He's tired. You know, I hear that word the same, like if I like pop tarts and now I want to be like I'm like I don't I don't like that. Yeah, I don't like that.

That's what he said. And I and that turned me off and I think that same night. I paused all my dating apps, absolutely all of them. Absolutely. I was like, you know, I ain't got no time. It's you know what?

Sometimes you need to just reflect and be like, wait a minute, wait a min. Let me let me let me tap out. And here's here's another thing that bothered me. The not accept. No. Yes. Yes. That is a huge red flag.

If you are dating someone, talking to someone and you say no. Yeah. Yet they still pursue as though they're going to do what they want to do anyway. Run. Absolutely. Over the hills. Take off school. Because if you don't.

Yeah. You don't you don't want those problems. No. And then can you imagine if I had showed up? No one else. Oh, my gosh. No, I don't want to think about that. That's no, no, no, no. I don't like that.

But. But you got to that's why people you have to pay attention to the red flags. You know, they're there. I mean, he made it pretty obvious. He did, you know, and I was done. Absolutely. Absolutely. I'm OK with there's some people who are OK with having sex.

Yeah. On the first date. Yeah, totally fine. They'll get it in. If that works for you. That works for you. It doesn't work for me. Yeah. I need you to be tested. Listen, I I'm no longer in that pool, but I totally get it.

Okay. And I would agree. I would definitely agree with that. So I need that. I need you to be to. And please come on now. Yeah. Like I carry myself a certain way. Yes. You got a plan? A nice date for me.

Yes, you do. You got to plan something if you want me to. I can plan. I don't mind planning. So if you've got a plan, something to. Have you been on a really good date yet? Oh, silence. Oh, no.

Oh, no. Like a really good day that I was like, oh, yeah, OK. Because you know, nothing that blew your mind. Nothing. Nothing that's memorable. Nothing less memorable. No. Well, geez, you guys guys out there. No, not up.

No stepping on them. Stepping on that. It's OK. It's going to be a song. Step it on a step. Adultness the girl. And I know that I'm not the only one. The dating pool that just the whole dating scene is just very different now.

Bland. I don't know if it's bland, is very entertaining. It's good content, but it's just like it's like popcorn, you know, the people just want you just want to speed it up. Hey, let's go, let's go, let's go.

Let's get it. Let's get it. And I'm that's not me. I'm like, oh, but you know what? I feel like that will make the right one stand out. So much like the right guy is there making it easy for the right one, because you know what I mean?

You won't be able to spot that right away. The cool thing is, is that I'm really OK. Like, yeah, I'm good. Absolutely. I'm not rushing to meet anyone. OK, if that person comes, they know you're not rushing. You're not Russian, Your Bajan.

Not rushing, put it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. All right. Well, I mean, I get it. I get it. 

Official. Yeah. Or do you want to just be like whenever you just you want to test the waters before you make it official? Yeah. Like what? What do you think? Oh man. You know what, what it it it would probably depend on how long you guys were talking.

Mhm. OK. Yeah. Because you could have friends that you've known for years. Yeah. And then you are now maybe turning it into like, oh this is someone I could potentially see myself. Yes. So in that case, you're already kind of comfortable with that person.

Right. And it's really about being comfortable for I think Jen and I, you know. Yeah, but some people are just want to get freaky, Diggy, and they're like, you know what, I'm feeling like this and I want to get it in.

So that happens. And that's OK. You know, that happens. Just be safe. But I would probably I mean, you know, I don't know. You got to tell me. I don't know you. I don't know. Well, I mean, getting to know someone I feel like definitely takes time.

Like you said, it's slow. Yeah, slow and steady. You got to get to know people, especially if you want something that is going to last. You have to get to know people. Absolutely. Then there's people like who isn't it?

John Legend and Chrissy. Then they have sex. The first time they did, they were you know, they have kids. Yeah, they're married. It works for some people. It works. Yeah. I mean, from the outside, at least from. Yes, we don't know what goes on.

We don't know their business. Yeah, you don't know. So you're right. It just depends however you feel you just got to be safe. Yeah. Yeah. At the end of the day, that's really all that matters, you know. But don't be saying words to me like what is it part?

I was disturbing. I couldn't stop thinking about that. Where? The entire night. That is so gross. It was disgusting. It's disgusting. Yeah. So the way you went about that breakup, which I wasn't to up. Well, we work together one year separation from the person.

Yeah. No more communication from the person. Yeah. You blocked him? I did. I said yes. So I did Gholston, I did. So how let me let me. And I'm asking these questions, of course, because, you know. Hello. You know, you're you're you're in it.

So, yes, I would be asking each other, you know. But anyway. Yes. So. What ways have you broken up? Are just. Yes. Like people in that we. Yes. Do you go? I go sometimes. OK, but I've gotten into the habit.

If it's like a very nice person and it's just not something that I'm feeling. I've gotten into the habit of telling that person that you'll just say like I'm not feeling, you know, not like that. Like, for instance, there was this guy I was talking to and I was thinking I was going to go somewhere.

But it really wasn't. And then I felt as though his schedule wasn't really lining up, lining up with me, because I was I was I was I liked him. I was liking him. And we were talking every day, OK?

Either it was some type of text, our phone call, whatever. OK, fine. Whatever it is. I was starting to grow feelings. But to actually meet up in person. Right. He wasn't really. Available as much as I would have liked him to be available.

So like when you would set a date to meet somewhere, he wouldn't be. So, for instance, at his job, I understood that his job was one where he worked quite a bit. So I was trying to be, you know, understanding.

Right. But when it comes to a time where it looks as though you're free and you still don't meet up with me a year, Mimili red flag, nothing then. Yeah, I need to meet you. I got to. I don't.

Yeah. You know, we got to see if there's chemistry and person as well. Luly he was a super nice guy, but I was like he wasn't doing what I wanted him to do. So I just sent him a nice text and I said, you know.

It seems as though our priorities. Are different. OK. And you are dismissed? No. Oh, no. That's something you would say I told you. No, no. I said our priorities are not aligned. And at this point, there's no need for you to text or call me anymore.

Wow. There's no need for you to contact me anymore, because it seems as though meeting up in person is more of a priority for me than it is for you. Wow. I wish you all the best. And wow.

That was nice. Yeah, that was that was that was nice. Yeah, that was it. Oh, I like that. Yeah. I think ghosting, though, I'm not going to say that people shouldn't ghost. I think ghosting is important for things like the guy, the tart guy.

Right. Or if someone is aggressive. Right. Right. It's better to just be like, oh, let me block let me not try and sugar. Yeah. Yeah, they're aggressive. No need to. From the new community. Exactly. Yeah. But I think that we do we we all should get into the habit of explaining why we are exiting the situation.

Oh, absolutely. I think that's the mature thing to do that like that. Yeah, I like that. And you know what? It could be a sentence as far as like, you know what, like I said, dismissed. Or you can break it down.

I like that. You break it down. Yeah. No, I and I never heard from him since. Really? No. So he wasn't he clearly wasn't probably into it, you know? Yeah, right. It was a lot of wasted time in my.

Well, it kind of was in my opinion, it was kind of a lot of waste of time, because if you're going to be contacting someone every day, then, yeah, you're wasting my time. Yeah, he was. And this kind of leads into are you a multidater or do you date one person when you're in that scene?

When do you ask somebody that right away when you went so. There's a difference between dating and being official. Right. Right, so you can be official with someone and then you hear official the expectation or less you're in a relationship.

That's what polyamorous guys look at you with the words, unless you're polyamorous. I hope I'm saying it right. Well, then the expectation is that we are going to be monogamous. So so before you become official, are you OK with dating multiple people?

Are you OK with. Just data one person. Very interesting. I don't know. What do you. What would you do if you were single? Listen, you talk to me and only me, OK? There is no there is no multiple.

OK, when you have found your Beyonce say you need to know what to do with her, you're going to lose her. And guess what? That is your bed. Not mine. Dismissed. OK, we talked about it. Yes. You know what I mean?

Yes. But I don't I don't. It's I mean, it's it's natural. Like when you first come into a situation. I can understand if. OK. You might have been talking to some of the girls or whatever, but once you shoot me a good morning.

Oh, it's OK. That's the criteria. OK, it's over, OK. Yeah, well, I can't do it multiple people at once. Yeah, I just cannot I can't concentrate. Ari got so much stuff I have to do. I got to work.

I'm a single mother of a toddler, guys of a toddler. So. So thank you. She is a survivor. She really. I am. I mean, honestly, I am. We'll get into all that stuff later. Yes. But yes. So I can date multiple people.

I can't concentrate. That's that's really good. Yeah. I just want to be able to fully put myself full attention. Yeah. Yeah. If it's something that I'm interested in. Absolutely. I think that that's the best way to get the proper result.

Yes. You know, you kind of go all in, but when you're doing multiple things, like, you know, it just it gets messy and you're not paying attention to detail at that point. And I'm quizzing you. OK, I will ask you questions you should know.

And if you're talking to multiple girls, I'm going to know that you don't know the answers, but I know that answer, huh? You know, when I was dating a guy, you had told me about questions to ask them, and I turned it into like a fun life.

The same thing. Yes. And that was that was actually a hit like we had at the time. I think it was like a two hour FaceTime call. There's nothing better than questions. Yeah. And I think one of them was you were like, how do you feel about flossing?

Absolutely. Do you floss? Do you. That's important. Don't tell me. I'm not going to meet up with you, depending on that answer. And that's really OK. So do you floss? Is that it was 20 questions. It was 20 questions.

And I remember we went back and forth. These are good questions. Yes. What to ask? Well, not ask me. Just some of them are simple. Like, what's your favorite color? What's the best gift that you've ever given to someone?

What's the best gift that you ever received? If you want to if you were an animal, you could be any animal. What animal would you be, OK? Yes. That that that's a good one. Yes, I'm a lion. Oh, I'm a I'm a writer.

OK. You know, I'm just stick with the hyena, whatever. Go get it. I get it. All right. All right. We'll go with that. We got the lion in the high heat in the house. Yeah. So you know what we can do?

We can put those questions out. Yes, sir. Yes. For anyone who wants. I think it's better as a first time there. I don't think you should go to know in person. They have a bunch of questions. So what do you think?

I don't know. I would. OK, let me hear this. Actually, no, I wouldn't I I'm not going to be a complete weirdo. But, you know, I know when you're in person, it kind of flows. It should flow in that.

And that's that. Yeah, that's a great flash if it flows. I was reading. I read it. I'm a Reddit reader. I don't know if you know, I read it is like a farm, multiple forms already. And someone said that they matched with someone and they told them they had to fill out like this survey, this personality survey

, to see if they were a good fit for that. Oh, that's a bit too much for me. That's how you XOL people who could really be the one for you. So you would do that? I would not. No, no, no, no.

I wouldn't do that. I'm saying if you do stuff like that, like you're going to X out somebody who doesn't get that, that's not that right the right results. And then you just missed out on, you know, I don't know.

Yeah. Because there's there's a lot of different things that you just don't know from someone, just from asking certain questions. Absolutely. Sure. That's why you need to take your time, take your time, get to know someone. And you know, I don't want my heart broken.

Absolutely. I really don't. It would make for a great album. It was heartbreak. Albums are the best. That is true. That is true. Gonna sing on Break My Heart. I'm just. Nick, my word as to Toni Braxton. Oh, I love it.

I love it, guys. She nails it, but I love Tony. Oh, my goodness. Can you tell? Oh, this year over year, she breathes on the mic. Let me tell you something. Let me say something. She has always been known in the studio.

She's the breather whenever you need like a sexy sound on a track. That's this one here. Yes. You know, hit them with a jam. See, I'm I mean, OK, here she go. This one. Yeah. Yes. I swear. Well, yeah.

Yes. But yeah. So, you know, datum is interesting. We'll see. Right now I'm off of my dad and not so much. Oh, you are? Yes. No, I'm not doing it. And I ain't got no time. OK. Took a little break.

Yes. But you know what? I'm interested to see what's going to go on now, because now it's what is it? What is the call it cuffing season? You know, the holidays are coming. People want to get snuggled up.

Well, I want to sell that to the right person. Well, yeah, I mean, I'm OK. I got blanket, I got pillows. I think that men maybe and I don't know. You can tell me. Or women. Are you more on your best behavior during the holidays?

I don't think it matters. I don't know. It depends. Sometimes you've got to have a holiday party and you want to have a date and you don't want to just bring some random people in like that.

I mean, like it depends. It does depend on the person. I think that men if if a man, a woman, a woman who. Oh, absolutely. If they want to act, but they're just going to act up. I don't think it matters if it's summer, if it's spring, if it's fall, it is winter.

People are going to do what they want to do. I agree. Yeah, I totally agree. Yep. So you know what, our producer. Yes. Yes. I think that's why she's been so off. Oh, nice. She she got us a book.

Can we show can we show the book? Yeah. Why not? I don't know who you see in the in the camera. Tilted out. Don't down. Who but who supports who, the that's a super cute book she got for us.

But she wrote some questions and we have no idea what these questions are in the bowl. I'm so excited. Know if you can see this, her prep is insane. You hear me insane. It is insane. And we've known Stefanie's and teenagers long time.

Long time. Yep. One of our best friends. So we don't just pick two. Yeah, OK. Yeah, yeah. I don't know. I'm kind of used to. I think if you're going to pick first. I'm nervous about what's definitely happening here.

Do it. OK. Read it, read it, do bad breath, first date. Are we going on a second date? Nope, nope. That's why you got to ask. We're not getting past the first fencing game like. No, no, no, no.

The minute you say hi, I'm out. I'm like, oh, you know what? I forgot. I got I got to feed my giraffe. I don't I don't know. And that's how that would go. Dismissed. Okay. I agree. It's a no.

It will feel funny. It's an absolute no. All right. Let's see. Right. Let's see what this one is. Bad B. On the first date, tell him or not. Second date or not? It's a no for me. It's an absolute no.

Yeah, my nose is very, very into it. It's sharp. And, you know, I love to smell good. Absolutely love to smell good. Yeah. So I love tacos, but I don't need you smelling like a taco. You understand what I'm saying?

Yeah. There's a difference. Yeah, there's a difference. Yeah. So I need you to smell good. Yeah. Because it's just something about, you know, you just want to hug them. Yeah. They give you a good beer. Yeah. I want to smell y smell bad when you can smell good.

Yeah. Yeah. I that's that's enough for me. Let's just keep going because. Yeah. You know how much time we have to. And after three months. No sweat pants print. Wow. What are your question? Seem to say all the time.

Repeated again, dating after three months and you see no sweat pants print. What are your thoughts? I don't know if I'd be looking for that type of stuff, OK, but but but let's say that your friend asked, hey, what's that looking like?

And then you had to look the next day and you didn't see it. What would you do? What does that does that matter? This may I mean, I think the question is the size is the size of the size matter.

I don't want no big, huge thing. I'm just being real honest. You don't want to. And he might be a grower or, you know, a chauffeur. I don't know. Some people are just a little different. Are you grow?

Are you sure? I don't want no, I'm sorry. I don't I don't want to grow like, you know, some people, they grow. Come on. Explain it when they grow. You mean like they just they so you don't see the print, but then all of a sudden it's like surprise.

Like when the time is, you know, when the people are so are like they're just always. That's nice. I don't know. I think is is the word is the term for that one. But yeah, I mean, I don't want a small P.P.

I get it. I get it. I get the finger. No, no, no, no, no. But I don't need No. 12. Right. No. OK, no, I love my. So so that that question. I guess we can go both ways.

It can go both ways. You know, if you see it cool. If you don't, you know, that's the way you don't don't don't look, I mean, have a look, though. Don't make it a point to be like I don't think let me get my binoculars, you know, really.

But don't smile just because you don't see it in the right in the what you should do is you should dance with them. That's that's a good way. Yeah. You know what I mean? Yeah. Yeah, yeah. And what I remember from my.

Yeah. Well, you they'll be dancing. I'm sure I'll be getting down, you know what I mean? But you still the date while you're married. You do. You most definitely do. Yes. Very important. Yes. You just date each other because why not?

Yeah. You don't date other people. You don't want to do that. I got another one before we got time, Stephanie. All right. Favorite banana topping. What? Mhm. I'll tell you something, because I actually have the answer. I got a topic.

Yes. I think that Stephanie needs something else. No, that's a good one. Wait, wait, wait. Are we talking real bananas? I don't think that's what Stephany's. We're not talking about bananas. Oh, my goodness. Well, what do you mean top what?

The whipped cream. Oh, that kind of. Oh, oh. Did you see how the whole process just came through my mind and that got it registered. Stephanie, don't be. At first I was like, well, I like Banana Foster. Oh, no, no.

But yes. Yes. OK, OK. Wow. What you mean? I mean, OK. What else could you sprinkles? I don't know what else you put on that. I don't know. You know, make a banana split. I don't know. That is true.

Are we going to do one more and then we go to wrap this all? Yeah, let's do it. All right. Let's see. Movie date. What the hell am I doing? Read it. Read it. Oh, oh, oh, boy. Our moms are going to you know, we can't pass that up.

Well, you you ask it. Go ahead. Let me just reworded. So listen, listen, you are you are you having a movie date? And he whispers in your ear, huh? Can I munch? Yes. The cookies. Wow. See the songwriter coming out?

Yes. I don't think that's a good song. That's what it's about, though. You swap the words. Yeah. Can you what do you do? What do you do? I mean, what movie is it? Do I want to watch this movie?

Do you want this, the movie or do we need to go? It depends. It depends. Movie date like like at your house, though, right? Not at the movie theater. What? The movie theaters? Oh, boy. We're not doing that at the movie.

Are we going to have to figure out what's going on in Stephanie's mind? She's not a hottie. OK, well, I don't even know if that's a good one to end on. Is that a good one to end? Do we have some time to do one more?

All right. I mean, we yeah. Let's just do all of. All right. Let's do it because we. Yeah. Oh, no. Skinny dipping on the first date are. No. No, no, no, no, no, no, thank you. No, and you know what, skinny dipping on the on a lot of the after that like.

No, no, no, no, no. You're not seeing. Well, you got to wait. I mean, you want skinny dip if you all like official. Yeah, but we're not going be official until a few days. I'm not skinny dipping for you for a minute.

Yeah. No, you're right. You know, skinny dipping for a minute now. That'd be cool. Close schools. Yeah, close to be extremely comfortable. Yeah. You're not seeing these, Bumpa, you remember. Oh, I already know where you're going with this.

Where am I going? Yes. You got to find. You got to find Bumpa, you know. Yes, yes. Yes. To go. We used the work called the boxing gym at a boxing gym and we had a trainer coffee. I'm just saying that.

Yes. And if you listen into this coffee, we remember you had this story. We tell he I don't even know why you loved it. First of all, he loved Jan, by the way. He loved loved her. OK, so every single time we would be in there, we'd be working out.

I remember one time he was just having us do a certain exercise and she turned around and he was like, yeah, you got a fine bump. That was like, all right. Because she knew so. Yeah, he did. He did.

He liked it. I wonder whatever happened to him? I'm sure he'll. There's still boxing. Yeah, probably. Probably. That was a cool little spot, though. That was cool. I've got to say. I was. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. He totally did not even going to lie.

Yeah. We going to do this. All right. Let's do it, girl. Face time. Sex are no. Well, depends. You would do it. It depends. I mean, on on how. How. You know, are we officially how long we've been rocking, OK, wait, wait, what do you mean?

No, like ever. Wait a minute. So when you say face time, that means that I'm over here doing my thing and you go over there doing your thing. What we are doing our things together, looking at each other, doing our things.

Yeah, why not? If you're in a long distance relationship. Wow. And y'all are official, I am way too shy for that stuff. Really? Absolutely. Oh, well, that's something that you know, this is why Jen and I, you know, we're so alike and we're so different and for sure in certain ways.

And you'll see the differences. Yeah. But yes. No, I would. I would. You said whipped cream, so I know you would you you're there, you're out there, OK, with whipped cream is the measurement. Oh, my goodness, OK. I think so.

I think so. But but yeah, that's a that's I well, that's an interesting one. Yeah. I mean, if you're dating for a while official and, you know, long distance or something, I can't wait. So since you know what you're working with before you accept the the invitation to do that, because what if he's like, OK, and then

it like, you know, and then it's like and then you're like, I'm assuming that if you're going to be FaceTime, you've seen it in that you've already tested the waters. OK, I would hope so. You know, I was going to do that with a random.

I mean, not a no, we ain't doing. No, no, I don't do nothing with randoms. Good. Absolutely, she said, good, good. No, no, no. Good to know. Yeah. I am not I'm not doing it. Period. Don't call my phone.

Yeah, I will hang up on you. But yeah, those are those are actually good questions. Thank you. Thank you, Stephanie. Thank you. That was that one. That was that was good. These Adobe diet. So, guys, I think it's time that we, you know, wrap it on.

Wrap it up. This was good. This was a nice first episode. I enjoyed you. I enjoyed you. It was just a pleasure. Pleasure. Yes. So we got to do this again. Yes. Yes. We don't know. We don't know the schedule yet, but we're going to figure it out.

We to figure it out. Want to at least do to a month, right? Yeah, that's right. We met and you know what? You might get some bonus episodes. That's what you have to stay tuned. Right. We're on multiple platforms.

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We're going to make sure we're all there. Yes. We can do it. We're going to we're really going to push this and try it as we should. And you know what? Deloney merchandise is coming soon to a to a to a screen near you.

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