Episode 15: Tinder Swindler Pt 2

Episode 15: Tinder Swindler Pt 2

In this episode we conclude our thoughts on the Netflix documentary, Tinder Swindler and delve into safety while dating. With stories of women and men getting hurt and even dying after meeting someone online, we share tips on how to stay safe out here in these streets! Is it ever safe to meet a new date at their house? Share your safety tips with us!

This episode contains spoilers of the Netflix documentary, Tinder Swindler. 
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Speaker 3
Give you chills.

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Speaker 1
Hello. Hey. Thanks. Welcome back, everybody. Mic check. Mic check. One, two, one, two

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Speaker 3
The Queens are back in the building. That building that the building building.

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Speaker 1
Yes, that was good. Yeah, I like that. So, guys.

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Speaker 3
Hello. Another red flag.

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Speaker 4
Talk about love bombing. Yeah. So the next one's stories being told are not adding up.

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Speaker 3
Lies. Lies. Yeah.

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Speaker 4
And they're extreme.

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Speaker 1
The lies. Lies with a candy. I know, but. Yeah.

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Speaker 3
No, don't. Yeah, yeah. But you know, eventually you start putting stuff together.

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Speaker 4
But I feel like we realize the stories are not added up very early on. Yeah. Oh, yeah. But for some reason, we ignore it.

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Speaker 3
Yeah, I know.

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Speaker 4
Yeah, we shouldn't do that.

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Speaker 3
No, we should. We should pay close attention to stuff like that, you know? But eventually we get drunk.

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Speaker 4
And remember, people you had lives before these individuals came in your life. It's okay for them to no longer be in it.

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Speaker 3
Yeah. Don't. Don't lose your dignity. Yeah. You know, trying to hold on to something that's not.

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Speaker 4
And that's why you need to be good before you get into any relationship. Because if your happiness stems from getting into a relationship and someone love bombing you and someone's sending you amazing, sweet messages in the morning and all that stuff, you're it's going to be hard for you to go back to your life without them. Yeah, because you're thinking that your life is so amazing now with this.

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Speaker 4
So it's going to be hard for you to spot when someone is actually using you.

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Speaker 3
Yes.

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Speaker 4
You know, so make sure your life is good before you get into anything.

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Speaker 3
Yeah, for sure. For sure. Yeah. Another red flag is what is it claiming to be.

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Speaker 4
Salvation Proclamation of being soul mates. I think that that's like, oh my gosh, I've been waiting for you for so long. And again, that's part of the the love bombing do.

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Speaker 3
You believe in soul mate?

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Speaker 4
I do, but not when I just met someone.

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Speaker 1
Okay.

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Speaker 3
Okay. So, you know, do you know.

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Speaker 4
There's multiple, but no, I do not. Do you.

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Speaker 1
Know?

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Speaker 4
No, I don't think I've ever seen anyone in my life except for my son.

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Speaker 1
Yeah, it.

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Speaker 4
Is like I'm in love with you from day one.

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Speaker 3
I know. Only your baby not.

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Speaker 4
But you got to prove a lot of stuff to me. For me, too.

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Speaker 3
Right, right, right. Okay.

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Speaker 4
But I think that soul mates, I think that people just have a tie. Like, I think you're my soulmate. Yeah. Yeah. I have friends, all my soul mates, and I feel like you can have multiple other soul mates. In life. I just think that there's something that your soul just gravitates to.

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Speaker 3
Yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 4
Yeah. So I think I do believe in soul mates, and I. I'm sure that I have multiple that's.

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Speaker 3
That's a good that's really, that's a really good way to see it because it's true. Yeah.

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Speaker 4
You just, you could just sense who you feel good around.

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Speaker 3
Mhm. Pay attention to those energies. Yes.

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Speaker 4
If someone makes you feel anxious and stuff when you're around them, it's not good energy.

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Speaker 3
No it's really not.

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Speaker 4
Yeah. And I've had friends who've made me feel very anxious that I was like we need to part ways.

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Speaker 3
Oh no. Yeah. Oh no. Yeah. Oh no. I, she.

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Speaker 4
Knows.

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Speaker 1
Exactly what I'm talking about. Oh, well, now I do. Oh, no.

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Speaker 4
Friends that you were anxious around.

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Speaker 1
Really Yes.

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Speaker 3
Now I get it. I get it. I get it. Yeah, but, you know, whenever that happens, whenever I've had that happen in the past with people that I considered my friends, that just kind of rubbed me the wrong way a little bit. That's why I just fall back a little bit. You know, there's nothing wrong with, you know, it's fallen back.

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Speaker 3
Yeah, you really can't go wrong.

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Speaker 4
Or maybe just take them in doses, like small doses.

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Speaker 3
Yes.

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Speaker 4
You don't have to, like, not be their friend.

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Speaker 3
Completely. Completely.

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Speaker 4
But some personalities just do not work with me. Yeah, even sometimes with work. Yeah. If someone is to like, if something is happening where we need to get something done and they're high anxiety it's hard for me because I'd be like, oh, just calm down.

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Speaker 1
Yeah. Like.

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Speaker 4
You need to have all the resources. It's going to be okay. But I find that I start to pick up that anxiety, so it's hard for me to get around those types of people.

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Speaker 3
Yeah, yeah, I totally agree with that.

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Speaker 4
So the next one, it says Grandiose sense of self meaning that their ego is just really, really large.

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Speaker 3
I don't like that. I don't like.

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Speaker 4
I don't like that.

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Speaker 3
I don't like that. Now.

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Speaker 4
Now.

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Speaker 3
Yes, we really talked about that were you.

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Speaker 4
Can't get.

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Speaker 3
That ego.

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Speaker 4
Yes, I remember like like one of my exes.

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Speaker 3
Oh.

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Speaker 1
Yes. Yes.

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Speaker 4
One of them. He's like, I'm a superstar. Like a superstar. And, you know, I just do superstar.

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Speaker 1
Are you serious?

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Speaker 4
Yes.

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Speaker 1
Okay. Oh, you do superstar.

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Speaker 4
Go through like I just the point I just was like, oh, he's so funny and so cute.

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Speaker 1
Like that.

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Speaker 4
But now looking back, I was like, that was so carnie.

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Speaker 1
Right?

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Speaker 4
But yeah, no, like, I'm just a superstar.

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Speaker 3
The only people that talk like that are exactly okay.

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Speaker 1
But I wouldn't.

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Speaker 4
Even do that.

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Speaker 1
No, no.

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Speaker 3
To start coming through when we got a source. I'm totally saying that when we walk.

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Speaker 1
Through the doors and sees.

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Speaker 4
My friend because it's a joke, but he really.

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Speaker 1
Believes it's bad guys.

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Speaker 3
Oh, man.

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Speaker 4
Yeah. I used to play like, a game, and I remember one time he used to play a game, and I'm going to say the gang is going to reveal. Okay. And they had our number on it, you know, on the back. Yeah, he had our number and then one time I went to the game and I saw double or seven.

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Speaker 1
Who was hits.

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Speaker 4
He took off our number and he put double or seven like, you know.

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Speaker 1
Like the what is it that James Bond?

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Speaker 3
No, he did not.

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Speaker 1
He did. So how do you go put.

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Speaker 4
Up take off our. No, that's supposed to be our number and put on it.

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Speaker 1
Yeah. So you just decided that they just decided that.

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Speaker 3
Wow. Yeah. Red flag.

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Speaker 1
Grand. You go. Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 3
That's all right. Boy.

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Speaker 4
He did everything just started to be in double or seven, and I was like.

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Speaker 1
Oh, this, this, this man.

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Speaker 3
Here, he thinks he's gonna run. He got to come rolling in the.

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Speaker 1
Room.

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Speaker 3
Doing flips and stuff like, get up, get up. No, get out to me.

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Speaker 4
That's weird. How are you going to take off a no, it's see special to who you're with and then be like, no, I'm double or seven now. Yeah.

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Speaker 3
So you just made that up. You just decided that that's who you were going to be a god.

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Speaker 4
Very odd. So the last red flag, it says, entices your knee to want to take care of them by victimizing themselves.

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Speaker 3
Yeah, that's a huge that is.

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Speaker 4
And that's why some women fall for that because I like it just they come in and take.

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Speaker 3
Care of them. I love every.

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Speaker 4
Story that they're telling you. If they're the victim.

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Speaker 3
Something's wrong. Yeah, for sure. For sure. Cause no.

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Speaker 4
And then you start not liking the people. You have to be clean. Did all these things to you. And then after y'all breakup, then you realize, yo, I got that so wrong. Yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 3
Isn't that insane?

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Speaker 4
It is insane.

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Speaker 1
Insane, insane. And say.

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Speaker 4
Yes, insane.

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Speaker 3
Such a good song. Yes. I could just hear the beat right now. Yeah.

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Speaker 1
Don't, don't, don't, don't, don't.

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Speaker 3
Don't, don't, don't don't. Who made that one? Tyson did. He would have. Tyson.

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Speaker 4
He called people. I'll talk to him.

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Speaker 3
What I what a what a weirdo.

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Speaker 4
He is not married.

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Speaker 3
Yeah.

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Speaker 4
He's married. His wedding pictures, I think, were some of the best wedding pictures that I've seen that were, like, so beautiful, but so romantic.

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Speaker 3
It's easy to make beats I don't.

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Speaker 4
I don't.

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Speaker 3
Like it. I said you should still make his beats, or they were amazing.

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Speaker 4
Like, he does political stuff, I think in Barbados, oh, wow. Completely. Completely. Yeah.

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Speaker 3
Opposite many talents.

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Speaker 4
Yeah. Writing is awesome. I like my son's godfather.

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Speaker 1
Oh, really?

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Speaker 4
One of them.

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Speaker 3
I have a few, too. Oh, okay.

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Speaker 4
Yeah. Oh, that's cute. To his christening. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 3
Girl, I remember the pictures from that. I didn't get to go, but that dress you had on was paying. Oh, I think that's.

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Speaker 1
Yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 4
That I was all. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That was this that was Matt.

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Speaker 3
Cute. Thank you.

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Speaker 4
Right. You know.

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Speaker 3
Yeah.

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Speaker 4
For purity.

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Speaker 1
Keep and block off the.

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Speaker 3
You know, you know, any. You know what I mean? It's use it like a shield.

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Speaker 4
Exactly.

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Speaker 1
That. Oh, she's quit playing. Yes. You watch out Bush.

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Speaker 3
Yes, but but yeah. So those are basic. And I, I feel really thoughtful. Uh, red flags. Yeah. So some of them I would not even have thought of.

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Speaker 4
Because you have a dial. You haven't experienced it. No. Which is.

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Speaker 3
Awesome. No. No. Awesome. Yeah. Taking it. Yeah.

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Speaker 4
Mm. And then I feel like you're very especially like, I'm thinking of you dating you, like, when you were younger. I feel like you you were kind of like, click to be like, yeah.

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Speaker 3
No, yeah, absolutely.

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Speaker 4
I can't see you giving people money and stuff.

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Speaker 3
Absolutely not.

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Speaker 1
They know who not to ask. I know. You know, I mean, I wish somebody were boy. So let's see. I am so.

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Speaker 3
Naive, but I promise you. Yeah, you're asking me weird stuff like that.

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Speaker 4
Maybe I will.

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Speaker 3
Let.

00:10:13:04 - 00:10:14:07
Speaker 1
You touch me.

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Speaker 4
Again. No.

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Speaker 1
Get get.

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Speaker 3
I just think, like, actually, you know what? One time I did have a friend asked me, and I felt, like, obligated to help him because he was, like, a really good friend, and I was like, yeah, I remember. I told you about him. Yeah. And I did give him something. It was very small. I feel like that's different, but I gave it to him knowing I wouldn't get it back.

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Speaker 4
Did you ever get it?

00:10:33:02 - 00:10:38:25
Speaker 3
But no. And I didn't expect to. Oh, okay. I gave it to him. Okay. Okay. No, it was. Yeah, it was really not much, but.

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Speaker 4
Yeah, I can't see. It's like given a potential boyfriend.

00:10:42:16 - 00:10:43:23
Speaker 3
Absolutely not.

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Speaker 4
Yeah, I can't see.

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Speaker 3
Absolutely. Not. Because your legs work. Your arms.

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Speaker 4
Work. Yeah, you.

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Speaker 3
Better get.

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Speaker 4
It. I'm not doing that again.

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Speaker 3
Yeah, not again.

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Speaker 4
Not I got.

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Speaker 3
No we learned how to use.

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Speaker 4
Like, would you pay ourselves know? I was like.

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Speaker 1
This is my favorite thing you said you know. Yes, it is.

00:11:09:02 - 00:11:13:07
Speaker 3
They need to listen. You got in there without me. You can get out without me.

00:11:13:08 - 00:11:16:03
Speaker 4
Your grown men I just met you had someone.

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Speaker 3
Else.

00:11:17:03 - 00:11:17:27
Speaker 4
Go to the bank.

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Speaker 3
And Amazon is always hiring.

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Speaker 4
You know what? I said that recently when people say I'm unemployed, I feel like there should there's no excuse. I think because Amazon is always, always, always.

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Speaker 3
Always. You had to swallow your pride. A new thing.

00:11:34:17 - 00:11:36:16
Speaker 4
Any like many skills, right?

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Speaker 3
Oh, you can. And they have multiple different types of you can be like a packing person. You can be the person to deliver it. You be there's so many different things you can do.

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Speaker 4
You always need someone. You can work as many hours probably as you you want even.

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Speaker 3
Customer service like.

00:11:50:08 - 00:11:52:20
Speaker 4
And I have no problem with someone who I see.

00:11:53:02 - 00:11:53:26
Speaker 3
Is really.

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Speaker 4
Working and trying.

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Speaker 3
Yes.

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Speaker 4
I don't need you to have a lavish job. Right. I need to see you trained.

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Speaker 3
Your work ethic needs to be.

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Speaker 4
There is like I won't see you like just watching TV all the.

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Speaker 3
Chillin. What? Just doing it. Playing games like. No, no, no, no, no, no. But the hobbies and all that kind of stuff that can be said to the side first you need a job.

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Speaker 4
Hobbies are recreational game.

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Speaker 1
Okay?

00:12:19:08 - 00:12:21:02
Speaker 4
It's not your everyday, right?

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Speaker 3
Yeah. Recreational you know, you should be working.

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Speaker 4
Yes. So during the Tendler Swindler, one of the women saw that he changed his profile picture.

00:12:33:12 - 00:12:33:27
Speaker 3
Yeah. Huh.

00:12:34:00 - 00:12:35:16
Speaker 4
Yeah, she was talking to him.

00:12:36:17 - 00:12:39:08
Speaker 3
Which is what does that say to you?

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Speaker 4
So that has happened to me before. Where I was talking to someone, we were talking for like a couple of months. We weren't exclusive, but I thought we were going there. Okay. And I like went randomly went on the dating app and I saw that his display picture was changed. And I was like, that kind of that kind of stung yeah.

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Speaker 3
It stung because that says, oh, you're still looking. Yeah. You while you wait. Changing your picture, changing your picture.

00:13:10:23 - 00:13:28:10
Speaker 4
And I know it stunk for her for her the individual on Tinder Swindler when that happens. But I had like a whole speech thought off in my head, but I never said it good. But I had this whole speech. I was going to be like, you know, if I am not number one, then it doesn't make sense for us to still be talking.

00:13:28:10 - 00:13:50:29
Speaker 4
Absolutely. Yeah. That date anyways. Yeah, yeah. And I knew it was going to especially after that and then and the thing is, is that I spoke to a couple individuals about that. I was like, well, what, what would you, how would you see that? Like, would you see it as disrespectful? And then some most people were like, oh, you know, it's the part of dating and you know, that's okay.

00:13:51:06 - 00:14:04:05
Speaker 4
But I should have gone with my gut because I felt as though the individuals who are telling me that that's what I wanted to hear at the time, I wanted to hear like, Oh, yes, it's okay that he changed his his picture. But my gut reaction, I should have.

00:14:04:16 - 00:14:10:16
Speaker 3
Continued right with that. And I told you, listen, I you treat me like be.

00:14:10:16 - 00:14:11:08
Speaker 4
Yes, you.

00:14:11:08 - 00:14:12:20
Speaker 3
Better treat me like I'm biased.

00:14:12:20 - 00:14:14:09
Speaker 1
Say you're trying to find another. But you know.

00:14:14:20 - 00:14:15:05
Speaker 4
What?

00:14:15:12 - 00:14:34:15
Speaker 3
That's not there's a civil that's not going to happen. Okay? So you'll be say, oh, yeah, but he did not get to snatch up her body and say exactly. But no, you know what? When people do stuff like that, they think that they're, you know, I don't know, maybe they're just putting it out there. They don't care. But it's like women are very, very observant.

00:14:34:21 - 00:14:46:06
Speaker 4
Yeah, he probably thought that because because I had told him that when I'm talking to someone, I usually just talk to them so he probably didn't expect me to go back. Yeah. On the dating app, but I did.

00:14:46:06 - 00:14:46:29
Speaker 3
You did. And you saw.

00:14:46:29 - 00:14:54:11
Speaker 4
It. I saw it. And I only went back to look, I think someone asked me, what does he look like? And I went to, to show to take a screenshot of his picture.

00:14:54:11 - 00:14:54:25
Speaker 3
And he saw it.

00:14:54:25 - 00:14:56:10
Speaker 4
Changed and I saw it changed.

00:14:56:19 - 00:15:01:13
Speaker 3
What a but I know. Yeah, but you were about and.

00:15:01:15 - 00:15:04:27
Speaker 1
So let me let me ask you this. I ask you this. Yes.

00:15:05:20 - 00:15:15:25
Speaker 3
So when when when it comes to like dating. Yeah. Let's say let's see like the beginning stage how. Yeah. How many people do you think you could be talking to at once?

00:15:16:06 - 00:15:23:04
Speaker 4
I try talking to multiple people and that didn't work for me. I got confused on when someone would tell me their birthday or.

00:15:24:02 - 00:15:24:04
Speaker 1
You're.

00:15:24:06 - 00:15:26:19
Speaker 3
Like, Yes, Alex, it's Adam.

00:15:26:26 - 00:15:36:16
Speaker 4
Yeah, I know. I tried that, and I felt it didn't work. Like, if they told me, oh, yeah, I used to work here, and then I would get it mixed up with other people.

00:15:39:26 - 00:15:44:26
Speaker 4
But, you know, honestly and I will be honest, it does kind of make you it gives you a little ego.

00:15:45:02 - 00:15:49:15
Speaker 3
Ego boost. Go ego. Yeah. It gives you a ooga.

00:15:50:10 - 00:15:51:00
Speaker 4
Ego boost.

00:15:51:18 - 00:15:51:26
Speaker 3
Just.

00:15:52:01 - 00:16:02:17
Speaker 4
To see that multiple people are interested, but it just didn't make me feel good. Because I wasn't able to really concentrate right on who I really was interested in.

00:16:02:26 - 00:16:19:11
Speaker 3
I feel like when when you really want to get to know someone, you kind of have to be really selective with, with just that person because. Yes, I don't know. To give it a fair shot, you have to have like all of my attention, you know, exactly what I'm trying to dip it, you know, into the multiple. That's hard.

00:16:19:11 - 00:16:20:12
Speaker 3
That's really draining.

00:16:20:24 - 00:16:23:02
Speaker 4
And I think that that's the dating culture right now.

00:16:23:11 - 00:16:24:21
Speaker 3
Dependent in multiple.

00:16:24:21 - 00:16:25:13
Speaker 4
Places because.

00:16:27:15 - 00:16:27:27
Speaker 1
Because.

00:16:27:27 - 00:16:35:29
Speaker 4
I think that people want like in their mind, they're like, okay, well, if we're not official, I should be able to talk to whoever I want to talk to.

00:16:36:08 - 00:16:41:18
Speaker 3
Right. Some. And for me, I would probably be like, Okay, that's fine, but.

00:16:41:24 - 00:16:42:18
Speaker 4
What's your end goal.

00:16:42:23 - 00:16:49:23
Speaker 3
That. Yeah. And the person that, that, that I would be gunning for would be the person that would know my worth and see it. Yes. Quickly.

00:16:50:00 - 00:16:50:21
Speaker 4
Yes.

00:16:50:21 - 00:16:56:05
Speaker 3
You ready? Know it. You ready to see it? You go see it walking away for sure. I'm telling you.

00:16:56:05 - 00:16:59:20
Speaker 4
And I don't I want to know that you're interested in just me.

00:17:00:08 - 00:17:02:17
Speaker 3
Yeah. Yeah.

00:17:02:22 - 00:17:17:04
Speaker 4
If you're telling me you want something serious, like that's what your dating app says. Like, once we start, like once we do that first date and you're like, you know, I want to take you on a second date. Don't be taken taking other people on second date. Don't be doing.

00:17:17:04 - 00:17:18:22
Speaker 3
That. No, don't do that.

00:17:18:25 - 00:17:28:02
Speaker 4
No, I think if we haven't met in person, I think you're okay that to go on other dates of people. Okay, I think.

00:17:28:06 - 00:17:28:18
Speaker 3
Okay.

00:17:28:25 - 00:17:29:21
Speaker 4
What do you think? No.

00:17:30:05 - 00:17:31:17
Speaker 3
I want to say no. No.

00:17:31:17 - 00:17:32:20
Speaker 4
Okay. So I don't know.

00:17:33:15 - 00:17:34:06
Speaker 3
Don't do that.

00:17:34:15 - 00:17:38:10
Speaker 4
So. So so you're saying from the time you march.

00:17:39:09 - 00:17:40:07
Speaker 3
From the time you see my.

00:17:40:07 - 00:17:44:01
Speaker 1
Face for your time.

00:17:44:01 - 00:17:48:18
Speaker 4
You match on the dating app like y'all just, like, saying good morning to each other?

00:17:49:11 - 00:17:55:23
Speaker 3
Yeah. So, so. Okay, until. Yeah, I need that. I need that direct attention.

00:17:55:23 - 00:17:59:20
Speaker 4
So he needs to. Well, that means you need to get him off the app ASAP.

00:17:59:24 - 00:18:01:11
Speaker 3
He better get himself off the app.

00:18:05:04 - 00:18:06:03
Speaker 1
And if I find out.

00:18:06:03 - 00:18:09:10
Speaker 3
That you over, you're changing your picture, would I have to log back in to see something?

00:18:09:17 - 00:18:12:03
Speaker 4
Yeah, that's done. That was sucky. And that's.

00:18:12:11 - 00:18:13:06
Speaker 1
What like.

00:18:14:09 - 00:18:14:20
Speaker 3
Yeah.

00:18:14:28 - 00:18:16:14
Speaker 4
Especially because we were talking every day.

00:18:18:02 - 00:18:20:22
Speaker 3
Yeah. It's good to see stuff like that though.

00:18:21:00 - 00:18:22:19
Speaker 4
Oh yeah. It tells me who you are, huh?

00:18:22:26 - 00:18:23:17
Speaker 3
Yeah. Huh.

00:18:23:23 - 00:18:31:23
Speaker 4
I've heard of people who like, you know, they their friend is single and their friend is like going through the app and like, yo, I just saw your.

00:18:31:23 - 00:18:32:20
Speaker 1
Girl who.

00:18:33:13 - 00:18:34:12
Speaker 4
Heard of that happened.

00:18:34:12 - 00:18:39:10
Speaker 1
Oh, my gosh. Yes. Oh, my goodness.

00:18:39:10 - 00:18:49:23
Speaker 4
And then, then the argument are another argument, but the explanation is usually, oh, I just never deleted my dating profile. After we got.

00:18:49:27 - 00:19:02:12
Speaker 1
Serious, I was like, somebody is catfishing me, right. Let's hurry one. That's a good life. I really need to find out who this is. I know.

00:19:02:24 - 00:19:10:02
Speaker 3
And then, like, it like, rings your phone and says, like, notification. Like, if it was you, it was you. It was you, sir. But yeah.

00:19:10:14 - 00:19:11:18
Speaker 1
Man, yeah, yeah.

00:19:12:15 - 00:19:14:05
Speaker 3
Like you. Oh, that's so.

00:19:14:17 - 00:19:16:24
Speaker 4
Thing, I think. Okay, so if.

00:19:16:24 - 00:19:18:20
Speaker 3
You are.

00:19:19:24 - 00:19:27:06
Speaker 4
Serious now, you're in a committed relationship, do you expect them to delete their profiles are on delete? Yeah, I expect you.

00:19:27:14 - 00:19:28:22
Speaker 3
You better delete.

00:19:29:01 - 00:19:29:20
Speaker 4
Delete it.

00:19:29:28 - 00:19:31:21
Speaker 3
Okay, delete it. Because if you don't.

00:19:31:21 - 00:19:37:06
Speaker 4
Delete it, that's telling me that you're thinking this is not going to work right then is not concrete no.

00:19:37:24 - 00:19:42:15
Speaker 3
Why would you pause it? Why would you just pause it? Yeah, to unpause.

00:19:43:06 - 00:19:45:26
Speaker 1
You better get your paws off of me now.

00:19:48:02 - 00:19:48:24
Speaker 1
That's all that's.

00:19:48:24 - 00:19:51:27
Speaker 3
Going to go. Yes. Okay. Oh, don't do that. Yeah.

00:19:51:27 - 00:19:55:11
Speaker 4
So now that we've talked about Tendler, Tendler, Tinder.

00:19:55:22 - 00:19:58:03
Speaker 1
Tinder swindler. Swindler. Yes.

00:19:58:15 - 00:20:08:25
Speaker 4
We have been hearing about women. I think there's two women thus far this year. Granted, we don't know if others haven't made it to the news.

00:20:08:25 - 00:20:09:24
Speaker 3
Yeah, I'm sure.

00:20:09:25 - 00:20:23:18
Speaker 4
Who appeared dead? Well, they are dead. Yeah. Huh. After going on a date with someone that they met on dating dating apps. And so we wanted to discuss some safe ways to date.

00:20:23:18 - 00:20:41:11
Speaker 3
Yes. Offer you two safety tips, so. Exactly. Thanks to just be mindful and aware of some things. I know that people, it probably doesn't even cross their minds. So we're here to bring it to your attention because, of course, you don't want anything happening to anyone. Just a lot of dangerous people out there.

00:20:41:21 - 00:20:50:13
Speaker 4
Granted, we don't know if these individuals killed these women. Yeah. It's an alleged situation I think is still going on.

00:20:50:17 - 00:20:51:25
Speaker 3
Looking like they did, though.

00:20:52:06 - 00:20:53:12
Speaker 4
Look, allegedly.

00:20:53:12 - 00:20:54:28
Speaker 3
Allegedly looked like it. Yeah.

00:20:55:07 - 00:21:03:17
Speaker 4
So we don't know. But it's a little odd that someone, especially young married women are dead after going on. Yeah.

00:21:03:23 - 00:21:15:23
Speaker 3
On those dates. And it could have been like, you know, they got there. Maybe he was like, you want some ecstasy or drugs or I don't know. Who knows? It could be. And then she could have overdose and then he could just be like, I got to get rid of the body. I mean, you know, this girl you know, but both of.

00:21:15:23 - 00:21:37:18
Speaker 4
Them were found at the individual's house, at the date's house. So granted, I don't know if they took them to the house afterwards, but let's just say that they met at the house. Let's just start with that. That's a tip. Please do not be mean. These men at their house, like, do you want your kidney to be gone?

00:21:37:18 - 00:21:38:06
Speaker 4
Yeah.

00:21:38:15 - 00:21:41:17
Speaker 3
Okay. Don't meet them at their house. And you don't invite them to your house.

00:21:41:21 - 00:21:43:05
Speaker 4
Don't invite them to your house either.

00:21:43:06 - 00:21:44:13
Speaker 3
None of that house stuff.

00:21:44:14 - 00:21:44:28
Speaker 4
None of.

00:21:44:28 - 00:21:47:20
Speaker 3
It. This should not know where you live.

00:21:47:26 - 00:21:53:25
Speaker 4
Unless you guys get to that point where you're serious. Yes. You've been out with them for for a while.

00:21:53:25 - 00:21:56:24
Speaker 3
And he checks out, you know, a lot about them, yada, yada.

00:21:56:24 - 00:21:59:05
Speaker 4
Yeah. Like me, not a restaurant.

00:21:59:05 - 00:22:01:00
Speaker 3
Do not ever do something like that.

00:22:03:10 - 00:22:04:26
Speaker 4
Well, some people just want to have sex.

00:22:05:04 - 00:22:09:17
Speaker 3
Yeah, yeah. They just want to get it in. But even then, why don't you go to a hotel?

00:22:09:22 - 00:22:11:29
Speaker 4
But, I mean, even run a risk of that. I feel.

00:22:12:13 - 00:22:26:00
Speaker 3
You do. But at least at a hotel, a lot of people see your faces, and so you're on camera when you walk in. You know what I mean? That they could see, you know what I mean? When you check in, like, all of that stuff, when you walk down the hall. Yeah. When they leave the room, the doors, this cameras everywhere.

00:22:26:11 - 00:22:28:13
Speaker 3
You're trying to get down like that. At least get down and look at me.

00:22:28:13 - 00:22:30:02
Speaker 4
Sort of. Yeah. Don't be having people in your house.

00:22:30:03 - 00:22:33:05
Speaker 3
Let me do like a maltose. I don't mean that kind of hotel, like a Motel six.

00:22:33:05 - 00:22:33:17
Speaker 1
Did I.

00:22:33:17 - 00:22:34:08
Speaker 3
Have cameras.

00:22:36:08 - 00:22:36:28
Speaker 1
Don't go there.

00:22:37:15 - 00:22:38:26
Speaker 3
Go somewhere nice, you know?

00:22:38:26 - 00:22:48:17
Speaker 4
Yeah. Yeah, but I just think have someone wine and dine you. Take you to nice places. You know what I mean, don't you? Having them come to your house.

00:22:49:22 - 00:22:50:22
Speaker 3
That just doesn't let you go.

00:22:50:22 - 00:22:52:13
Speaker 4
Be trusted people way too quickly.

00:22:52:16 - 00:22:54:10
Speaker 3
Mm mm. That's what it is.

00:22:54:17 - 00:22:55:06
Speaker 4
Way too quickly.

00:22:55:06 - 00:22:55:27
Speaker 3
That's what it is.

00:22:55:29 - 00:22:56:10
Speaker 4
Yeah.

00:22:56:10 - 00:22:56:29
Speaker 3
You shouldn't.

00:22:57:12 - 00:22:59:17
Speaker 4
And don't be having them pick you up at your house either.

00:22:59:20 - 00:23:03:22
Speaker 3
No, definitely not. Definitely not. Yeah.

00:23:03:22 - 00:23:18:27
Speaker 4
They don't need to know where you live. They don't even really need to know your real phone number, as I've said, until later on, you know, because that it literally comes through your phone, the Google phone yeah. They text you, it comes to your phone, everything comes through your phone.

00:23:19:05 - 00:23:19:28
Speaker 3
That's scary.

00:23:20:04 - 00:23:29:04
Speaker 4
And I tell people to, you know, when they ask for my number because I think naturally in this day and age, people Google phone numbers, right? When you give it to them.

00:23:29:09 - 00:23:30:03
Speaker 3
Wow.

00:23:30:04 - 00:23:44:06
Speaker 4
I do that. Yeah. And I have no shame in it. Now for I used to be like a little weary about saying it, but I Google if I'm going on a date with you, I'm Googling you and I'm Googling your phone number. Oh, just because I need to know you and got you in a murderer.

00:23:44:07 - 00:23:45:09
Speaker 3
Oh, my goodness.

00:23:45:09 - 00:23:48:18
Speaker 4
I need to know that, you know, you ain't stealing cars.

00:23:48:18 - 00:23:50:25
Speaker 3
Yeah. Or whatever.

00:23:50:25 - 00:24:07:03
Speaker 4
Anything crazy. I need to know if you married. Oh, and some people lie. Oh, my goodness. And you can kind of find out quite a bit about someone from their phone number. Wow. Yeah. Wow. I know. Quite a bit. So I forgot what I was saying.

00:24:07:21 - 00:24:09:24
Speaker 1
Yeah, no, that was that. I don't.

00:24:09:24 - 00:24:11:05
Speaker 3
Don't meet up at those places, and.

00:24:11:14 - 00:24:12:04
Speaker 4
I don't give.

00:24:12:04 - 00:24:15:19
Speaker 3
Don't give you forever. And I always have an escape plan.

00:24:16:29 - 00:24:33:18
Speaker 4
So how does the escape plan? Because he said always have an escape plan. Yeah. How does the escape plan work? Like, say, you're just meeting someone at a restaurant. Let's talk times. Is it okay to meet someone? Let's say a night date.

00:24:34:10 - 00:24:43:28
Speaker 3
It's okay to meet somebody at a night date if it's in a public place. You know we're not about to go hiking. Inmate. Yeah, I don't want to go on. All you would do you would.

00:24:43:28 - 00:24:44:23
Speaker 4
Do a restaurant at.

00:24:44:23 - 00:24:46:06
Speaker 3
Night. Yeah, I would do a restaurant.

00:24:47:11 - 00:24:49:06
Speaker 4
What about if they want to walk you to your car?

00:24:49:14 - 00:24:50:00
Speaker 3
Nah, I'm okay.

00:24:50:06 - 00:24:51:03
Speaker 4
Yeah, I'm like, no.

00:24:51:05 - 00:25:06:24
Speaker 3
We can say goodbye. Right here, you know? And even then, like, you got to be mindful. And when you're walking to your car, this is goes any time. You're not even just on a date. Yeah. When you're walking to your car, you should already have your keys in your hand and ready.

00:25:06:29 - 00:25:10:05
Speaker 4
And you should have a, um, pepper spray. Pepper spray?

00:25:10:05 - 00:25:11:28
Speaker 3
Yeah. Have that ready at all times.

00:25:11:28 - 00:25:21:24
Speaker 4
Amazon sells pepper sprays and stun guns. Like. Yeah, together they do check your state, though, because each state has different laws regarding stun guns. Okay.

00:25:21:24 - 00:25:44:24
Speaker 3
So. Okay, yeah. But the moment you're most vulnerable, when you are getting in your car, when you're getting into your vehicle. Okay. Door's open. That's a vulnerable moment right there. You know, make sure that there's nobody in the car right next to you. Look, if you can help it, you know, try to look to see who's in that car that's parked next to your car before you get in your car.

00:25:44:25 - 00:25:47:27
Speaker 4
Also, try to when you're especially the first date.

00:25:47:29 - 00:25:48:08
Speaker 3
Mm hmm.

00:25:48:29 - 00:26:01:10
Speaker 4
I know some people are like, you should let the guy choose, you know, let them decide where to go. I think you should choose where you want to go just so that you can kind of scope it out on Google Maps. Yeah. And see where the parking is. At.

00:26:01:10 - 00:26:01:25
Speaker 3
Yes.

00:26:01:25 - 00:26:11:17
Speaker 4
Like, you know, San Francisco. Sometimes there's a lot of parking, like in a garage. Parking garages. Yeah. I don't really like those. Yeah, I prefer parking, like, right in front of the restaurant.

00:26:11:17 - 00:26:13:12
Speaker 3
Yeah. So valet.

00:26:14:02 - 00:26:14:11
Speaker 1
Parking.

00:26:14:18 - 00:26:19:06
Speaker 4
Valet is even better. It's really nice. Yeah. Because they really don't need to be walking into their car.

00:26:19:06 - 00:26:19:21
Speaker 3
No, they don't.

00:26:19:21 - 00:26:22:26
Speaker 4
Know what I'm going to do that. Yeah. From now.

00:26:22:26 - 00:26:26:00
Speaker 3
Yeah, absolutely. Any time they bailable I was.

00:26:26:08 - 00:26:31:00
Speaker 4
Yeah, but I just never thought about that for first date. Yeah. So I'm going to be going to places that have valet.

00:26:31:00 - 00:26:33:12
Speaker 3
Yeah. And then that way, then you just, you know.

00:26:33:12 - 00:26:34:00
Speaker 4
Exactly.

00:26:34:00 - 00:26:34:24
Speaker 3
Doesn't have to be a tourist.

00:26:34:24 - 00:26:36:18
Speaker 4
Oh, there's no price for your safety.

00:26:37:00 - 00:26:40:23
Speaker 3
Absolutely. Absolutely. And before you get in your car, I always look in the backseat.

00:26:41:02 - 00:26:41:27
Speaker 4
I do that too.

00:26:42:24 - 00:26:47:06
Speaker 3
One time that happened when somebody was in the backseat. That actually happened to me. Before that.

00:26:47:06 - 00:26:49:05
Speaker 4
Someone was no know.

00:26:49:17 - 00:27:12:06
Speaker 3
I swear to you. I never told you that story. No. Yeah, girl. No. Yes. It was a man. So I was I was young. I was like maybe 12. My mom and I, we were going she was taking me to school, okay? And she we were walking to the car and I just happened to look in the backseat before we got into the car.

00:27:12:06 - 00:27:28:25
Speaker 3
And I saw there was a man laying in the backseat. All my goodness. I said, Mom, Mom, I'm like, there's somebody in the backseat. And she looked and open the door. I was like, Get out. So he was just laying there. He was asleep. Yeah. It was cold. Then I think it was homeless or something like that. We lived by the BART station, and I guess she hadn't locked the door.

00:27:29:03 - 00:27:43:15
Speaker 3
Man. And he got in. He was like, so, like, wiping this, like, sleep out of his eyes, like, man, you woke me up, you know, but looking back, I'm like, that situation could have got really dangerous, really fast. Because he could have had a gun, he could whatever. He could have tried to steal the car and, like, you know, who knows?

00:27:43:15 - 00:27:59:24
Speaker 3
Yes. But she was just like, get out, get out, you know? And he just wandered off and, you know, we never saw him again. But that did happen. I mean, we could have just gotten in the car and drove off. What happened? If that happened and he woke up? It's very scary. It's very scary. So. Always, always always check your bags.

00:27:59:25 - 00:28:04:21
Speaker 4
Always check your bag. Sometimes I'd be like, okay, from the back might hit it. Yeah. But make sure.

00:28:04:29 - 00:28:10:24
Speaker 1
I'll sit down and then. Do you I mean, got it, got it, got it. Got to stay on the toes.

00:28:10:24 - 00:28:13:29
Speaker 3
Okay. You know, they're not expecting anything.

00:28:14:00 - 00:28:15:01
Speaker 4
Oh, to the face.

00:28:15:09 - 00:28:16:17
Speaker 3
Yeah. Trouble.

00:28:16:26 - 00:28:17:08
Speaker 1
So.

00:28:17:27 - 00:28:18:18
Speaker 4
Yeah, so.

00:28:18:18 - 00:28:33:10
Speaker 3
So, so yes, that has happened before. Okay, but but just try to think of your most vulnerable moments, even when you get home. Yeah. If you have a garage or whatever like that, you know, you're vulnerable until that thing goes down. Yep.

00:28:33:21 - 00:28:47:04
Speaker 4
But sometimes what I do is I put my car in reverse to just see, like, once I'm in there, pull my car versus and see if there's any one behind there. That's right. Yeah, that's good. If you feel as though anyone is following, you drive to a police station. Yeah, I've done that before, too.

00:28:47:04 - 00:28:47:28
Speaker 1
You have.

00:28:47:29 - 00:28:55:04
Speaker 4
Yeah. It was weird. I remember this was years ago, the days when I used to go into a supermarket, so now I don't.

00:28:55:05 - 00:28:58:20
Speaker 1
Yeah, that's what I hear. Boy, um.

00:28:59:08 - 00:29:14:13
Speaker 4
And it was weird. Like, this guy was looking at me. I had to be. I had to be maybe late teens, early twenties, and I remember I walk. I was like, I even said, because they ask you in the supermarket, do you want someone to walk you?

00:29:14:18 - 00:29:15:09
Speaker 3
Huh? Yeah.

00:29:15:09 - 00:29:40:12
Speaker 4
So I'm walking out and and I said, Yes, you can, because he was just he just looked weird. You know, they say they want to walk. They put your groceries in the car, they'll put the groceries. So they put the groceries in the car. But I felt like he was still, like, lingering in the parking lot. Oh. So I, I started driving and I couldn't tell if he left, but I was just freaked out because he was looking at me, and then he even walked out into the parking lot.

00:29:40:13 - 00:29:49:16
Speaker 4
Oh. So I drove to the police station, and I just stayed there, and I just I just like looking around just to see if there's any cars. Absolutely. You have to be vigilant.

00:29:49:24 - 00:30:00:25
Speaker 3
Man, that is so scary. I know, I know. It is not fun. Feeling unsafe or just feeling like you don't know what's going to happen, you know?

00:30:01:06 - 00:30:01:19
Speaker 4
Yes.

00:30:01:19 - 00:30:03:28
Speaker 3
That dangerous feeling. You know.

00:30:03:28 - 00:30:18:00
Speaker 4
Another tip when you're going on a date with someone that you've haven't met. And I even think you should do this the first couple of dates. It doesn't have to just be the first one make sure that you're sharing your location.

00:30:18:00 - 00:30:18:21
Speaker 3
Yes.

00:30:18:26 - 00:30:20:25
Speaker 4
And also share who you're going with.

00:30:20:28 - 00:30:21:07
Speaker 3
Um.

00:30:21:20 - 00:30:32:07
Speaker 4
Like when it's someone I usually know their first and last name, and I send it to my mom, send it to a friend. Okay. And I also share my location. Yeah. Smart. Yeah.

00:30:32:17 - 00:30:33:11
Speaker 3
Very smart.

00:30:33:21 - 00:30:35:25
Speaker 4
Yep. So that they can see wherever I am where.

00:30:35:27 - 00:30:36:23
Speaker 3
Where you're going.

00:30:36:26 - 00:30:37:21
Speaker 4
On. Any point.

00:30:37:21 - 00:30:45:06
Speaker 3
Yeah. Yes, I don't. And I definitely think that you should always meet in home in public places.

00:30:45:13 - 00:30:46:01
Speaker 4
Oh, yeah.

00:30:46:14 - 00:30:46:23
Speaker 3
That's a.

00:30:46:23 - 00:30:49:17
Speaker 4
Must. I don't really like the whole hiking stuff either.

00:30:50:19 - 00:30:52:20
Speaker 3
You can. That's just too many things that happen.

00:30:52:20 - 00:30:53:22
Speaker 4
Yeah, I don't like that. I like what.

00:30:53:22 - 00:30:55:22
Speaker 3
They could push you off a cliff and be like, she fell.

00:30:56:11 - 00:30:56:22
Speaker 4
Yeah.

00:30:57:08 - 00:30:59:11
Speaker 3
Absolutely right. No, I'm not falling nowhere.

00:30:59:11 - 00:31:01:24
Speaker 4
There's no cameras and stuff in those hiking places.

00:31:01:25 - 00:31:04:05
Speaker 3
There aren't. Which is super freaking scary.

00:31:04:06 - 00:31:05:07
Speaker 4
Yeah, I'm not doing that.

00:31:05:15 - 00:31:11:27
Speaker 3
Um, do not drink, eat anything they give you. Yes. Wow. That's a good one.

00:31:12:07 - 00:31:13:12
Speaker 4
Yeah. I want nothing from you.

00:31:13:21 - 00:31:25:14
Speaker 3
Yeah. And hopefully we're going to a restaurant anyway. I like as a server. Bring me my food. Yeah, but if I have to get up to use a ladies room and come back, you better be mindful, boy, because then he's had to hold your food and your drink.

00:31:25:23 - 00:31:32:03
Speaker 4
That's probably why you should go after you eat. Yeah. And if you still have drink left, don't drink any of that.

00:31:32:24 - 00:31:43:16
Speaker 3
Don't so just basically chug it before you go to the bathroom, you know, and it just pee again before you leave. Yeah, let's keep it easy. Yeah. So you just never know I think.

00:31:43:16 - 00:31:46:23
Speaker 4
That those are some good tips. Any other tips that you can think of?

00:31:46:29 - 00:32:02:05
Speaker 3
I think I'm. I'm let me think, if, if someone's being too touchy feely, tell them sometimes to some things you need to just come out and say.

00:32:02:13 - 00:32:03:03
Speaker 4
That is true.

00:32:03:03 - 00:32:11:17
Speaker 3
Sometimes, you know, it's people's nature to be so touchy feely. Sometimes, yes. But if you're uncomfortable with anything like that.

00:32:11:20 - 00:32:12:04
Speaker 4
Yes, you.

00:32:12:04 - 00:32:14:18
Speaker 3
Need to just say it. Don't ever be afraid to speak up.

00:32:14:25 - 00:32:15:16
Speaker 4
That is true.

00:32:15:19 - 00:32:17:26
Speaker 3
I like when people touch me. I don't like I don't really like.

00:32:18:03 - 00:32:20:10
Speaker 4
Do you kiss on the first date no.

00:32:21:05 - 00:32:23:27
Speaker 1
No, no. Would you know.

00:32:24:14 - 00:32:25:14
Speaker 4
It's a no? I wouldn't.

00:32:25:14 - 00:32:27:10
Speaker 3
Do that. Yeah, that's just a hassle because.

00:32:27:10 - 00:32:28:23
Speaker 4
I don't even know if I'm a see you again.

00:32:29:05 - 00:32:29:29
Speaker 1
Yeah.

00:32:30:08 - 00:32:31:00
Speaker 4
I know where your mouth.

00:32:31:00 - 00:32:40:18
Speaker 3
Then you don't get to know you like to kiss these lips. Nah, maybe the second or the third. How do you imagine the guy just sticking his lips out? I'd be.

00:32:40:18 - 00:32:41:01
Speaker 1
That girl.

00:32:43:04 - 00:32:49:20
Speaker 1
But those lips back in there no, no.

00:32:50:06 - 00:32:52:26
Speaker 3
That wouldn't work out for me at all. Right.

00:32:55:28 - 00:32:57:11
Speaker 4
It's not going to work for me either.

00:32:57:28 - 00:33:06:23
Speaker 3
Oh, man. I'm just thinking, like, it would super suck, though, if you were, like, dating somebody, and then you found out that, like, they had a whole family or something. That would be. Oh, man, I know.

00:33:07:03 - 00:33:08:15
Speaker 4
That's why you got to Google people.

00:33:08:15 - 00:33:08:24
Speaker 3
Yeah.

00:33:08:24 - 00:33:11:02
Speaker 4
Yeah. I almost feel you should do background checks.

00:33:11:07 - 00:33:12:03
Speaker 3
Yeah, yeah.

00:33:12:04 - 00:33:15:09
Speaker 4
I don't know how I've never done that, but I'm starting to think.

00:33:15:16 - 00:33:20:08
Speaker 3
If you really start to like my body and you're starting to see little red flags, then I would. I would.

00:33:20:12 - 00:33:25:02
Speaker 4
True. But if you starting to see red flags, maybe just don't even pursue it, right?

00:33:25:02 - 00:33:25:22
Speaker 3
You're right.

00:33:25:24 - 00:33:27:04
Speaker 4
It's too early for red flags.

00:33:27:05 - 00:33:29:22
Speaker 3
Yeah, it should be all Green Beret.

00:33:30:23 - 00:33:31:15
Speaker 4
All green.

00:33:31:16 - 00:33:34:19
Speaker 3
If it ain't green, then maybe they're not for you.

00:33:34:28 - 00:33:35:10
Speaker 1
You know.

00:33:36:14 - 00:33:37:15
Speaker 3
That didn't rhyme. And that's okay.

00:33:37:26 - 00:33:39:09
Speaker 4
I know, but it sounds good.

00:33:39:12 - 00:33:40:03
Speaker 1
It does.

00:33:41:07 - 00:33:44:17
Speaker 4
So what about the is there a difference between first, second, third? I think we kind of.

00:33:44:25 - 00:33:48:18
Speaker 3
Yeah, yeah. Okay. Success stories for online dating.

00:33:48:18 - 00:33:52:17
Speaker 4
Yeah. So have you seen any success stories from online dating?

00:33:52:17 - 00:33:55:05
Speaker 1
Well, mine.

00:33:55:24 - 00:34:16:05
Speaker 3
But mine is like. So I met my husband online, but this is back when, like, it was like AOL days when you had to log on and it will go like, you know what I mean? Like, yeah, you can make that crazy sound like you would, like, have chat rooms and all kind of stuff like that. And, like, my friends were on and like, you know, so it was kind of like a different ballgame back then.

00:34:16:05 - 00:34:17:19
Speaker 3
It was still so new.

00:34:17:19 - 00:34:18:10
Speaker 4
Yes. Yes.

00:34:18:10 - 00:34:23:05
Speaker 3
You know, but we met there and, you know, we lived.

00:34:23:05 - 00:34:27:12
Speaker 4
But it was tough. It was just like. How did you. Was a message board that you guys.

00:34:27:12 - 00:34:36:29
Speaker 3
I think it was I want to say it was like a chat room or a message. You know, I don't remember all of the details yeah. This was years ago. Okay. Is it so long ago?

00:34:37:00 - 00:34:37:12
Speaker 4
Yes.

00:34:37:12 - 00:34:49:11
Speaker 3
But yeah, I remember we chatted a little bit and he didn't live too far. And I think our first date was at Great America. Oh, yeah. The amusement park for those who don't know.

00:34:49:11 - 00:34:53:02
Speaker 4
No, like those types of things when you when you're younger.

00:34:53:07 - 00:34:55:05
Speaker 3
Yeah, like, well, that's fun.

00:34:55:05 - 00:34:55:14
Speaker 4
We just.

00:34:55:14 - 00:34:56:24
Speaker 3
Went on roller coaster with a.

00:34:56:24 - 00:34:57:22
Speaker 4
Bunch of people there.

00:34:57:22 - 00:35:07:00
Speaker 3
That's a yeah. Course. That was a fun one. Yes. Yeah. I used to always go to Great America. Boy, that was like my spa with my girls and. Yeah, we had.

00:35:07:13 - 00:35:11:02
Speaker 4
Never been to America. Yeah, I've never been grandma. I've only done Six Flags. Oh, so we.

00:35:11:02 - 00:35:12:00
Speaker 3
Have to go one time.

00:35:12:14 - 00:35:14:22
Speaker 4
Don't know if I'm into the roller coasters anymore.

00:35:15:02 - 00:35:19:15
Speaker 1
What? I remember when. Yes. And we didn't even get to know.

00:35:19:15 - 00:35:20:26
Speaker 3
We have to do it one more time.

00:35:20:26 - 00:35:22:18
Speaker 4
I don't think I'm into roller coasters anymore. How do.

00:35:22:18 - 00:35:23:04
Speaker 3
You know?

00:35:23:10 - 00:35:29:22
Speaker 4
Because I know I'm only into the ones that I don't turn upside down. And all the ones that just, you know, I can do. I can do a sharp.

00:35:29:22 - 00:35:31:08
Speaker 3
All right, okay.

00:35:31:09 - 00:35:33:08
Speaker 4
I don't want to go upside upside down.

00:35:33:15 - 00:35:33:24
Speaker 3
Yeah.

00:35:33:24 - 00:35:38:25
Speaker 4
I just feel like since I became a mom, like, I read stories or people getting.

00:35:39:12 - 00:35:43:03
Speaker 3
Oh, my gosh. Like, oh, my gosh, don't say that and stuff.

00:35:43:04 - 00:35:44:26
Speaker 4
I just don't. I don't want to risk it.

00:35:45:09 - 00:35:46:08
Speaker 3
Oh, my gosh. That's scary.

00:35:46:08 - 00:35:47:27
Speaker 4
But I do like the ones where I don't.

00:35:48:02 - 00:35:52:06
Speaker 3
Yeah. You know, they just kind of I don't exactly. I never really thought about that.

00:35:52:14 - 00:35:53:04
Speaker 1
But I think you should.

00:35:53:04 - 00:35:56:00
Speaker 4
Do it if you like it. I just don't want to do it now.

00:35:56:00 - 00:35:57:00
Speaker 3
You freaking me out.

00:35:57:14 - 00:35:58:16
Speaker 1
Yeah, I have that.

00:35:58:16 - 00:36:00:08
Speaker 3
Picture on my on my.

00:36:00:09 - 00:36:02:12
Speaker 4
iPhone. The pictures recently.

00:36:02:22 - 00:36:03:19
Speaker 3
Looked so happy.

00:36:03:19 - 00:36:08:02
Speaker 4
We were happy, actually. We should put it up. Oh, video know not.

00:36:08:02 - 00:36:11:00
Speaker 3
Oh, I look way too excited. I was really excited that.

00:36:11:11 - 00:36:13:06
Speaker 1
It's such a cute picture.

00:36:13:16 - 00:36:14:21
Speaker 4
I love that picture.

00:36:14:25 - 00:36:25:01
Speaker 3
Oh, man. I just remember that that that my husband and I were able to go on this certain ride just over and over and over because there's nobody there yet. We got there so early. Yeah, but you couldn't get on it.

00:36:25:01 - 00:36:25:19
Speaker 4
I couldn't.

00:36:25:23 - 00:36:26:09
Speaker 3
As the.

00:36:26:09 - 00:36:26:20
Speaker 1
Person.

00:36:27:15 - 00:36:28:25
Speaker 4
The person I was with.

00:36:28:26 - 00:36:30:07
Speaker 3
Yeah. Really?

00:36:30:14 - 00:36:35:06
Speaker 4
Kind of. That was their first time going on a roller coaster. Bad reaction had a barrier.

00:36:35:13 - 00:36:36:26
Speaker 3
He was out for like the rest.

00:36:36:26 - 00:36:43:24
Speaker 1
Of the day laying on the bed. So he got to give some water. Like, that's a pass out. Hallelujah. Yeah, like.

00:36:43:24 - 00:36:44:04
Speaker 4
Cold.

00:36:44:04 - 00:36:46:19
Speaker 1
Sweat. Yeah. Are you okay?

00:36:46:20 - 00:36:47:10
Speaker 4
So embarrassed.

00:36:47:11 - 00:36:48:21
Speaker 3
It was like to get up.

00:36:48:21 - 00:36:49:24
Speaker 4
You're embarrassing.

00:36:49:24 - 00:36:58:29
Speaker 1
Me. Did you say that? No, but I sort of. I just remember looking over at you, and you were a bit like Dad in his head. Like it's your face and you and.

00:36:59:00 - 00:37:01:03
Speaker 4
You and your husband. We're like, okay, bye.

00:37:03:15 - 00:37:08:24
Speaker 1
I said, Good. We won't get on again. Yeah, but the crazy thing is.

00:37:08:24 - 00:37:24:23
Speaker 4
I kind of knew that was going to happen because we got on the right and I think. I think we were all sitting with each other. We were the same room, and he was like, at the end, the end, sitting next to me. And he was just silent the entire time was like, Are you okay?

00:37:25:11 - 00:37:27:21
Speaker 1
Like, he's saying.

00:37:27:21 - 00:37:29:17
Speaker 4
No. He didn't say nothing.

00:37:29:19 - 00:37:33:20
Speaker 1
He was scared and he didn't want to say no.

00:37:33:20 - 00:37:36:07
Speaker 4
I think he was like, Why did I get myself on this?

00:37:36:27 - 00:37:37:29
Speaker 3
But that's hilarious.

00:37:37:29 - 00:37:38:24
Speaker 4
What you were scared of.

00:37:38:24 - 00:37:39:09
Speaker 3
Yeah.

00:37:39:15 - 00:37:41:29
Speaker 1
Oh, yes, I am happy.

00:37:42:09 - 00:37:42:26
Speaker 4
It was funny.

00:37:43:00 - 00:37:47:29
Speaker 3
But getting you out of there, that was insane. And that was that Six Flags.

00:37:48:06 - 00:37:50:27
Speaker 4
That was that was outside. And then we did like the animal stuff.

00:37:51:09 - 00:37:53:25
Speaker 3
Okay. Yeah. Yes, it was like ours.

00:37:53:25 - 00:37:54:24
Speaker 4
I felt that he was just.

00:37:55:03 - 00:38:01:15
Speaker 3
It was, it was it was ours. Because I remember, like, we, we walked around and stuff and like, we came back, I was still there, and I was like, dang.

00:38:01:15 - 00:38:05:12
Speaker 1
If they because they could.

00:38:05:12 - 00:38:06:11
Speaker 4
Be like, walk there.

00:38:06:11 - 00:38:14:04
Speaker 1
Every night. He was like, paralyzed and traumatized. Lariats that was.

00:38:14:12 - 00:38:15:00
Speaker 3
It was very.

00:38:15:00 - 00:38:15:11
Speaker 1
Funny.

00:38:15:26 - 00:38:23:03
Speaker 4
But, um, so that's a success. I mean, I have a friend who've been married to someone who they met on on.

00:38:23:03 - 00:38:24:07
Speaker 3
The dating a dating app, really.

00:38:24:07 - 00:38:26:25
Speaker 4
And to me they just gel so well.

00:38:27:20 - 00:38:29:21
Speaker 3
They have two kids. Oh, nice. Yeah.

00:38:29:21 - 00:38:31:20
Speaker 4
So there's definitely success.

00:38:31:20 - 00:38:33:02
Speaker 3
Stories for sure.

00:38:33:02 - 00:38:34:09
Speaker 4
For dating online.

00:38:34:09 - 00:38:37:14
Speaker 3
For sure. For sure. Yeah. There's some good guys out there. Good women too.

00:38:37:18 - 00:38:38:05
Speaker 4
Yes.

00:38:38:15 - 00:38:43:05
Speaker 3
What does it look like when a man or woman is interested in genuine yeah.

00:38:43:23 - 00:38:47:11
Speaker 4
How how do you know when someone's really interested in.

00:38:47:11 - 00:38:53:03
Speaker 3
You when someone is giving you their full attention? Yes. You know it.

00:38:53:06 - 00:38:53:20
Speaker 4
Yes.

00:38:53:27 - 00:39:01:18
Speaker 3
I think you know, but there are also people that are really good at juggling and they might be giving it to you and a few other people, but true. Eventually everything comes out.

00:39:01:20 - 00:39:03:14
Speaker 4
Yeah. You know, everything comes to light.

00:39:03:14 - 00:39:20:13
Speaker 3
Eventually everything comes late. Eventually. Yeah. But, um, I think like when they ask questions when when they repeat or remember things that you've told them, you know, that's kind of a sign letting me know that, like, you're listening and listening to you're interested.

00:39:20:13 - 00:39:30:02
Speaker 4
Yeah. And when they're not pushy, like, yes, move up my pace. Yes. And I'm okay if moving at your pace, if you want to go slower than me, if you want to go faster than me, then it's a no. Okay.

00:39:30:04 - 00:39:30:13
Speaker 3
Yeah.

00:39:30:20 - 00:39:36:16
Speaker 4
If you want to move slower to me, I'm totally fine if that's okay. Also, I think consistent.

00:39:37:05 - 00:39:37:09
Speaker 3
In.

00:39:37:09 - 00:39:38:17
Speaker 4
Regards to their communication.

00:39:38:17 - 00:39:40:01
Speaker 3
Yes, totally.

00:39:40:02 - 00:39:41:29
Speaker 4
Like don't be skipping days talking to me.

00:39:42:03 - 00:39:49:12
Speaker 3
Don't do that. Look, listen. You get one day to even try to skin and guess what? That that was your last day.

00:39:49:13 - 00:39:53:01
Speaker 4
A day has 24 hours. Are you trying to tell me to think about me once?

00:39:53:11 - 00:39:56:16
Speaker 3
24 hours. Really? Oh. Oh, hell nah.

00:39:57:07 - 00:39:59:15
Speaker 4
I speak to that. Elton. No, no.

00:40:00:17 - 00:40:04:25
Speaker 3
No, no, no, no. I couldn't do that either.

00:40:04:26 - 00:40:11:11
Speaker 4
So, yeah, I think that, I think that you can tell when someone is genuinely interested in you. Yeah. And they're not going to ask you for too much.

00:40:11:16 - 00:40:14:02
Speaker 3
No beginning. No, no.

00:40:14:02 - 00:40:17:13
Speaker 4
It's going to be late. It's going to be eerie. It's going to just feel right.

00:40:17:13 - 00:40:20:10
Speaker 3
Yeah, it's going to feel good. Yeah. You know.

00:40:20:11 - 00:40:20:28
Speaker 4
Fun.

00:40:21:09 - 00:40:24:00
Speaker 3
I know. It should be.

00:40:24:03 - 00:40:33:05
Speaker 4
So those are good things to look for when you're doing your online dating and stuff, you'll find a tinder tinder swindler.

00:40:33:07 - 00:40:50:17
Speaker 3
Okay, if I. One of those. Yes. Let me just drop off some notes for you guys. Have good places to go. So a restaurant yes. Yes. I mean, they're cute. Less restaurant museums. Oh, that's that. Probably my go to. What about the zoo? The zoo? Yes, the zoo. Yeah, an aquarium. You know what I mean?

00:40:50:17 - 00:40:52:23
Speaker 4
I don't think the movies is a good place to go anymore.

00:40:52:24 - 00:41:00:18
Speaker 3
I don't think so either. It's too dark. I don't think so either. And we don't want to do no drive thrus. I mean, some drive ins. You don't want to do this. Excellent.

00:41:00:21 - 00:41:01:04
Speaker 4
No drive.

00:41:01:20 - 00:41:05:06
Speaker 3
But yeah, so that or an amusement park that's.

00:41:05:21 - 00:41:06:27
Speaker 4
You know, that's the perfect.

00:41:06:28 - 00:41:09:21
Speaker 3
That's fun. That's cute. Yeah. Yeah, it's super cute.

00:41:09:21 - 00:41:10:00
Speaker 4
Yes.

00:41:10:01 - 00:41:14:18
Speaker 3
So there's a lot of people around. You are like a lounge. Yeah, like a cool lounge.

00:41:14:18 - 00:41:16:23
Speaker 4
I won't. I don't want to say bar. Yeah.

00:41:17:02 - 00:41:31:18
Speaker 3
A good lounge. Not a club, because you can you relax. You got to give some music. This little talk, you can get appetizers. Um, look, give me some buffalo wings, you know, but even like a what you would call it. What?

00:41:33:01 - 00:41:37:03
Speaker 1
Jess. Hey, you got it. That's okay. Well, then it's.

00:41:37:03 - 00:41:39:20
Speaker 3
Going to come back to me. So I was going to.

00:41:41:04 - 00:41:43:04
Speaker 1
Set back to me.

00:41:43:04 - 00:41:45:17
Speaker 4
Now, there are moments.

00:41:45:17 - 00:41:52:07
Speaker 1
Of Golden Moon flashes of light there. When I saw that every night.

00:41:54:06 - 00:41:55:05
Speaker 3
That's how that's that's.

00:41:55:05 - 00:41:56:28
Speaker 1
It's not doing that.

00:41:57:19 - 00:42:13:26
Speaker 3
Yeah, that's hard. Yes, but okay. Um, yeah. So an amusement park or even, like, a music festival sometimes those are fun. I've been to one in, like, years, but it to be.

00:42:13:26 - 00:42:16:12
Speaker 4
Kind of hard to go to a music festival. Your first date?

00:42:16:12 - 00:42:19:00
Speaker 3
I think so. Maybe I feel it's.

00:42:19:00 - 00:42:19:09
Speaker 4
Just too.

00:42:19:09 - 00:42:20:13
Speaker 3
Much. It's a lot of people.

00:42:20:13 - 00:42:21:15
Speaker 4
Sometimes a lot of people.

00:42:21:15 - 00:42:22:10
Speaker 3
Pinning on what it is.

00:42:22:23 - 00:42:24:14
Speaker 4
And then how are you going talk.

00:42:26:13 - 00:42:31:02
Speaker 1
That's true. Why I like dogs too.

00:42:32:20 - 00:42:37:19
Speaker 4
But yeah, I felt like movies eight years ago. I was like, Yeah, let's go.

00:42:37:25 - 00:42:38:19
Speaker 3
Grab a movie.

00:42:38:19 - 00:42:41:01
Speaker 4
Yeah, no, I don't want to be in the darkroom with you.

00:42:41:01 - 00:42:57:23
Speaker 3
I know, I know. Nope, nope, nope, no, no. Well, that and also, I just don't like to be in a room that I can't exit out of, you know? I remember that one time when that guy walked in and did that at the movie theater. Did what? I think you, like, shot a lot of people.

00:42:58:08 - 00:43:00:08
Speaker 4
That's why I don't know. I want to go to the movies.

00:43:00:09 - 00:43:01:06
Speaker 3
Here, because anybody can.

00:43:01:06 - 00:43:03:17
Speaker 4
Walk in there and see that. That's what makes me paranoid.

00:43:03:17 - 00:43:04:22
Speaker 3
Yeah, I know.

00:43:05:01 - 00:43:14:16
Speaker 4
I know. I'm very paranoid. I know. I know what I think is cool, but I don't think is normal. I think first dates should be like double dates.

00:43:15:03 - 00:43:16:05
Speaker 3
Oh, yeah.

00:43:16:13 - 00:43:26:29
Speaker 4
But I don't think that's really normal. Because I think people were like, oh, we should meet up just us. But I think I would feel more comfortable if I had, like, a friend there and then their partner or whatever.

00:43:26:29 - 00:43:30:04
Speaker 3
Okay, because then you can kind of bounce off. Yeah.

00:43:30:05 - 00:43:35:13
Speaker 4
Make sure I think crazy. Yeah. You can go back, you know, it's, it's like three of you against him. True.

00:43:35:29 - 00:43:36:08
Speaker 1
True.

00:43:36:17 - 00:43:41:11
Speaker 4
I don't feel like that's normalized the double date and stuff in the beginning, but I think that that would be.

00:43:41:21 - 00:43:45:02
Speaker 3
It would be. I think it would be. Yeah, I think it totally would be.

00:43:45:11 - 00:43:59:00
Speaker 4
Have you ever had someone, like, do something weird at a date like that? Just, I don't know, just a weird thing that they did like a weird first date action.

00:43:59:29 - 00:44:01:17
Speaker 1
I don't know what to call in.

00:44:02:15 - 00:44:08:02
Speaker 3
Well, huh. I remember I had this one guy that he drilled.

00:44:08:13 - 00:44:23:08
Speaker 1
I know he did it like he looks a little Hey, why is your mouth so juicy? What is going on? And so I think and it was horrible because.

00:44:23:08 - 00:44:24:18
Speaker 3
He was so cute and I was just like.

00:44:25:05 - 00:44:28:17
Speaker 1
You just draw. So, so what I did was.

00:44:28:25 - 00:44:31:18
Speaker 3
I played it off like I didn't see it. And he was.

00:44:32:13 - 00:44:34:10
Speaker 1
This and.

00:44:34:10 - 00:44:36:15
Speaker 4
I was trying to show you how he could get it just.

00:44:36:21 - 00:44:41:20
Speaker 1
So gross. Did you make do see me?

00:44:41:28 - 00:44:45:24
Speaker 3
Do you remember that sound like Pretty Ricky? Yes. Yeah. That album was off the hook. Then they had.

00:44:45:26 - 00:44:46:01
Speaker 4
That.

00:44:46:03 - 00:44:47:15
Speaker 3
Actually yeah.

00:44:47:17 - 00:44:48:23
Speaker 4
But anyways, yeah, that.

00:44:48:23 - 00:44:49:12
Speaker 1
Is just.

00:44:49:13 - 00:44:49:25
Speaker 4
So.

00:44:49:25 - 00:44:51:04
Speaker 3
I will never forget that.

00:44:53:11 - 00:44:53:20
Speaker 1
That was.

00:44:53:29 - 00:44:55:10
Speaker 4
It. Was that the last? That was it.

00:44:55:29 - 00:44:57:16
Speaker 1
Yeah, that was the only thing that.

00:44:57:16 - 00:44:58:11
Speaker 3
I could remember.

00:44:58:14 - 00:45:00:01
Speaker 4
But I made those. I like the last date.

00:45:00:17 - 00:45:06:23
Speaker 3
Oh, man. I probably yeah. Oh, my God. That was what people were talking when I was like a teenager.

00:45:06:24 - 00:45:07:28
Speaker 4
That's so funny, though.

00:45:08:06 - 00:45:09:22
Speaker 3
But yeah, that did happen. What about you?

00:45:10:02 - 00:45:11:10
Speaker 1
Um, has had.

00:45:11:10 - 00:45:25:23
Speaker 4
Weird stuff when I'm, let's come into my mind right now is went on a date was a first date, and he was asking me to take pictures of him for his Instagram. And I thought that that was odd. Like, he was like, take pictures of me.

00:45:25:24 - 00:45:27:14
Speaker 3
Okay. Absolutely. No.

00:45:27:22 - 00:45:30:26
Speaker 4
It's kind of weird. I was like, what? Like, okay, cool.

00:45:30:29 - 00:45:31:27
Speaker 3
But you.

00:45:31:27 - 00:45:33:08
Speaker 4
Yeah, it was weird. It was.

00:45:33:08 - 00:45:34:05
Speaker 3
Weird. That is weird.

00:45:35:07 - 00:45:37:12
Speaker 4
I've had someone, like, just take their pee out.

00:45:37:22 - 00:45:46:26
Speaker 1
Shut up. What did you do? I said put it back in. Oh, thanks. So that's what I said. Don't disrespect.

00:45:46:26 - 00:45:49:10
Speaker 4
Yourself. Disrespect yourself. Like, that's it. I don't want to see that.

00:45:49:10 - 00:45:51:09
Speaker 1
Why are you taking it out like that? What is.

00:45:51:09 - 00:45:51:17
Speaker 4
That?

00:45:52:04 - 00:45:54:01
Speaker 3
He just whipped it out. He whipped out.

00:45:54:12 - 00:45:55:10
Speaker 4
Like she had that twice.

00:45:55:25 - 00:45:56:27
Speaker 3
Are you serious?

00:45:57:00 - 00:45:58:05
Speaker 4
Yeah. Guys, don't do that.

00:45:58:05 - 00:45:59:00
Speaker 3
That's real.

00:45:59:04 - 00:46:00:25
Speaker 4
Gross. And also, don't send Dick pics.

00:46:01:08 - 00:46:02:00
Speaker 3
Oh, no, I.

00:46:02:00 - 00:46:03:02
Speaker 4
Don't want to see your dicky.

00:46:03:02 - 00:46:09:18
Speaker 1
Dicky, I have said from the very beginning no woman likes dick pics.

00:46:09:18 - 00:46:10:15
Speaker 3
I don't know what.

00:46:10:15 - 00:46:11:13
Speaker 1
He wants to see.

00:46:11:13 - 00:46:13:23
Speaker 4
That that is my dick in a box.

00:46:13:23 - 00:46:17:21
Speaker 1
You know, it's. I think it. That's bad. Yeah.

00:46:17:21 - 00:46:18:12
Speaker 4
I don't want to see it.

00:46:18:13 - 00:46:19:14
Speaker 3
No, that's not. It's not.

00:46:19:14 - 00:46:19:23
Speaker 4
Okay.

00:46:20:11 - 00:46:25:17
Speaker 3
You know, like, like all said, you open ever open your phone and it's just like.

00:46:27:01 - 00:46:35:26
Speaker 1
That's what it looks like. It's me up top, except in an honesty that.

00:46:35:27 - 00:46:44:25
Speaker 4
Yes. So yeah, no, I've had, I've had two situations where they just took it out and I was like, I was like, better, let me look.

00:46:44:25 - 00:46:46:05
Speaker 1
You don't have a freaking taser.

00:46:46:14 - 00:46:53:27
Speaker 4
That's yeah. Well, I remember the first time I was like, oh, my gosh, I don't want to see that. I said, don't disrespect you.

00:46:54:02 - 00:46:58:07
Speaker 1
Oh, so don't do nasty.

00:46:58:19 - 00:47:01:13
Speaker 3
You got to see anything of mine, just so you know. Oh, I.

00:47:01:13 - 00:47:13:09
Speaker 4
Had a I had one guy. I guess it's not that odd, but I kind of found it weird because it was a long date. And by the end of the night, he he he wanted a pee.

00:47:13:23 - 00:47:14:09
Speaker 3
Yeah.

00:47:14:11 - 00:47:14:29
Speaker 1
So he, like.

00:47:14:29 - 00:47:15:17
Speaker 4
Went.

00:47:15:24 - 00:47:16:11
Speaker 3
Okay.

00:47:16:14 - 00:47:18:08
Speaker 4
And he okay like an alley.

00:47:18:15 - 00:47:20:00
Speaker 3
All right. Type of thing.

00:47:20:13 - 00:47:21:17
Speaker 4
But I thought that was kind of odd.

00:47:21:26 - 00:47:26:04
Speaker 3
I mean, a little bit. Yeah, a little bit odd is a little strange. Kind of like yeah.

00:47:26:05 - 00:47:26:17
Speaker 4
Yeah.

00:47:27:00 - 00:47:28:04
Speaker 3
Well, only a little class.

00:47:28:06 - 00:47:29:20
Speaker 4
But I can't think of anything.

00:47:30:08 - 00:47:31:25
Speaker 3
Else insane. That's not so bad.

00:47:31:28 - 00:47:33:00
Speaker 4
That has happened. Yeah.

00:47:33:17 - 00:47:34:06
Speaker 3
Yeah, yeah.

00:47:36:15 - 00:47:37:14
Speaker 1
They're trying to think.

00:47:38:09 - 00:47:38:21
Speaker 3
Yeah.

00:47:39:03 - 00:47:40:05
Speaker 4
Have you ever been stood up?

00:47:40:23 - 00:47:43:23
Speaker 3
Absolutely not. Absolutely not.

00:47:43:23 - 00:47:46:15
Speaker 4
Why is it that her's is like, no. And I am like, got.

00:47:46:27 - 00:47:48:15
Speaker 1
You said up before?

00:47:48:26 - 00:47:51:25
Speaker 4
Well, he said he didn't remember the guy.

00:47:51:26 - 00:47:53:06
Speaker 3
Yes, yes.

00:47:53:07 - 00:47:59:17
Speaker 4
I felt like he stood me up, but he said he didn't. He and we still continue to talk, I said, but I felt stood up.

00:47:59:20 - 00:48:00:02
Speaker 3
Okay.

00:48:00:13 - 00:48:10:12
Speaker 4
He and I, looking back, I probably should. That was the wrong time I think, for us to meet up. Okay. So it's like I was stood up adjacent kind of.

00:48:10:14 - 00:48:13:18
Speaker 3
Yeah. Okay. All right. Yeah. So I haven't.

00:48:13:18 - 00:48:27:22
Speaker 4
But I felt that way. So basically, he he was working and I was in the area, so I asked him if he will be available just for a quick 15 minute because we had met each other. Yeah. And I kind of just wanted to see if the vibe was there.

00:48:27:23 - 00:48:28:21
Speaker 3
Yes, that's.

00:48:28:21 - 00:48:35:16
Speaker 4
It. That's it. And he was like, yeah, I'm, I can definitely be away from work for a little for a little bit. Okay.

00:48:35:20 - 00:48:37:26
Speaker 3
And I drove hella far.

00:48:38:21 - 00:48:42:26
Speaker 4
Hella far because I was going to be over there. So I didn't just drive for him.

00:48:42:26 - 00:48:43:09
Speaker 3
Right?

00:48:43:14 - 00:49:03:16
Speaker 4
And then I was just, I was just waiting there. And, and then I remember we confirmed in the morning and he had told me, Hey, I'm going to be a little bit late. And I said, That's fine. I can stop and pick up something quickly to eat. Okay. So, yeah, so I got there, I was waiting, and then he didn't text me back while I was waiting, so I think I gave it 15 minutes.

00:49:03:16 - 00:49:18:08
Speaker 4
And then I was like, Okay, I'm gone. And then as I was driving, he called me. He was like, Are you still there? I was like, No, I drove. Okay, I left. Yeah. And, and he was like, So or are you are you okay? I was like, I don't think I can talk right now. Yeah. I was very mad.

00:49:18:08 - 00:49:32:14
Speaker 4
And he said, Well, then we can talk later so I can explain. So then I was like, Yeah, that's fine, we can talk later, but right now I'm not in the mood right to talk right now. So. So, yeah, I would I don't think he, like, stood me up, stood me up, but it felt that way in the moment.

00:49:32:17 - 00:49:37:13
Speaker 3
Yeah. Okay. Yeah, I could see that. I could definitely see that. So he messed up.

00:49:37:18 - 00:49:42:03
Speaker 4
He did. He told us it was actually nice. I think the conversation we had afterwards.

00:49:42:04 - 00:49:42:17
Speaker 3
Okay.

00:49:43:00 - 00:49:59:11
Speaker 4
Was cool. Like we had a very mature conversation and he apologized and he explained that he didn't really want to say no, even though he knew it would have been kind of hard to meet me during that time. He didn't really want to say no because he didn't. He felt as though I might have taken it personally if he had said no.

00:50:00:19 - 00:50:03:00
Speaker 4
So you know.

00:50:03:07 - 00:50:03:29
Speaker 3
Fumbled the bag.

00:50:04:05 - 00:50:05:14
Speaker 4
I didn't that didn't work out anyways.

00:50:05:14 - 00:50:05:24
Speaker 3
Yeah.

00:50:06:03 - 00:50:06:12
Speaker 1
Yeah.

00:50:07:04 - 00:50:09:19
Speaker 4
But that moment, I think how he handled.

00:50:09:19 - 00:50:13:17
Speaker 3
It was it was okay. Okay, well, that's good. At least that's good at least.

00:50:13:17 - 00:50:17:09
Speaker 4
So do you like men, like, buying you flowers on a date?

00:50:17:22 - 00:50:26:28
Speaker 3
I think that's a very cute gesture. I think. I think it's super cute. That'll never get old. You know, you can't go wrong with cue gestures like that.

00:50:27:01 - 00:50:29:11
Speaker 4
I think that's cute. You know, very cute.

00:50:29:21 - 00:50:33:25
Speaker 3
Even if just one like one rose oh, you know, love to be like.

00:50:34:04 - 00:50:35:01
Speaker 1
Yeah.

00:50:35:22 - 00:50:40:15
Speaker 3
Now, if, if if it's a flower that I saw when I walked up to the restaurant, they had I.

00:50:40:15 - 00:50:41:04
Speaker 4
Get picked.

00:50:41:04 - 00:50:43:01
Speaker 3
On the, you know, I'll be like, oh.

00:50:43:15 - 00:50:46:08
Speaker 1
No, no. Did you just pick did you just.

00:50:46:08 - 00:50:46:24
Speaker 3
Pick that right.

00:50:46:24 - 00:50:48:10
Speaker 1
There? I'm like.

00:50:48:10 - 00:50:52:03
Speaker 3
Yes, yes, it but no, I mean, that's I think that's super cute.

00:50:52:10 - 00:51:02:17
Speaker 4
Do you think there should be an equivalent to women buying stuff for for men like how men will buy women flowers? Like, should we start buying guys flowers?

00:51:02:24 - 00:51:12:19
Speaker 3
I've done it before. Really? Mm. Yeah, yeah. Okay, I did, I did. That was this was a long, long time. Ago, but I remember I did it once.

00:51:12:28 - 00:51:13:11
Speaker 4
Okay?

00:51:13:17 - 00:51:19:00
Speaker 3
But because I think I. I did something that I shouldn't, then I forgot what it was so simple.

00:51:19:18 - 00:51:20:25
Speaker 4
She didn't really forget. Yeah.

00:51:20:27 - 00:51:21:29
Speaker 1
I want to see it.

00:51:23:18 - 00:51:29:20
Speaker 3
But I did that one time. Yeah. And I think I, like, left them on this car. What?

00:51:29:21 - 00:51:30:21
Speaker 4
Yeah, that is.

00:51:30:21 - 00:51:33:08
Speaker 3
Q Yes, like, when they came out the morning they were there, but anyways.

00:51:33:18 - 00:51:37:12
Speaker 4
So. Okay, so, so so I guess women can buy maybe a plant.

00:51:37:21 - 00:51:40:18
Speaker 3
Yeah. Yeah, definitely. Flowers like a plant.

00:51:40:18 - 00:51:42:08
Speaker 4
House plant. Yeah.

00:51:42:08 - 00:51:45:28
Speaker 3
Like succulents, type of cactus, you know? Absolutely.

00:51:46:00 - 00:51:46:23
Speaker 4
I like that.

00:51:47:00 - 00:51:50:10
Speaker 3
Some chocolates. Yeah. Yeah, I don't know. Whatever. He likes some chips.

00:51:50:24 - 00:51:53:00
Speaker 1
Yeah, I guess. Just some Cheetos.

00:51:54:26 - 00:51:56:16
Speaker 4
You know, I don't mind Cheetos.

00:51:57:13 - 00:51:59:01
Speaker 1
Do you? Like, like.

00:51:59:01 - 00:51:59:19
Speaker 4
Thank you.

00:51:59:19 - 00:52:00:05
Speaker 3
Thank you.

00:52:00:27 - 00:52:02:17
Speaker 1
Give me credit.

00:52:02:17 - 00:52:03:05
Speaker 3
On him later.

00:52:03:05 - 00:52:04:06
Speaker 4
Some ice cream.

00:52:04:08 - 00:52:04:20
Speaker 3
Yeah.

00:52:04:21 - 00:52:05:27
Speaker 4
Oh, that would. That would.

00:52:06:15 - 00:52:08:21
Speaker 3
That's cute. I would do it. I would do it. I would.

00:52:08:21 - 00:52:08:29
Speaker 1
Do it.

00:52:10:29 - 00:52:11:22
Speaker 1
You know.

00:52:11:23 - 00:52:13:02
Speaker 4
That something? That chocolate.

00:52:13:02 - 00:52:16:11
Speaker 3
Yeah, this girl here. But I love her, sweets.

00:52:16:11 - 00:52:18:18
Speaker 4
I'm, like, thinking about Celeste right now that we talking about.

00:52:18:18 - 00:52:20:18
Speaker 3
Oh, my God, we're going to be on our way.

00:52:21:18 - 00:52:22:18
Speaker 4
Yeah, I think we are on ice.

00:52:22:19 - 00:52:29:27
Speaker 3
Yeah, I think we're done. We are. So guess what we will be coming at again. Yeah, sooner than later.

00:52:29:27 - 00:52:30:14
Speaker 4
Sooner than.

00:52:30:14 - 00:52:37:08
Speaker 3
Later. We're going to let you know how our sausage experience went. Yeah. So we'll take some pictures of post those for you guys.

00:52:37:08 - 00:52:41:19
Speaker 4
And this was a pretty long episode, so I think we need to do I do this as two parts.

00:52:41:19 - 00:52:42:22
Speaker 3
We need to cut it.

00:52:42:23 - 00:52:43:21
Speaker 4
Yeah, I cut it.

00:52:43:22 - 00:52:45:01
Speaker 3
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:52:45:08 - 00:52:48:18
Speaker 4
And we hope that you like it. Be safe out there.

00:52:48:20 - 00:52:51:11
Speaker 3
Be smart, be smart. But be you.

00:52:51:14 - 00:52:54:27
Speaker 4
Okay, but don't make sure that doesn't get you in trouble.

00:52:55:10 - 00:52:57:03
Speaker 1
Yeah. And check your back, backseats.

00:52:57:12 - 00:53:01:26
Speaker 4
Yes. Check your back seats. Google people Google, maybe a bit Google.

00:53:01:26 - 00:53:02:12
Speaker 3
I'm aware.

00:53:02:15 - 00:53:03:03
Speaker 4
That Teyana.

00:53:03:03 - 00:53:04:28
Speaker 3
Taylor, that's Tiana. Yeah.

00:53:05:12 - 00:53:17:11
Speaker 4
That was a cute song, but yeah, guys, follow us at Queens of a Feather podcast. Go on Facebook Queens or Feather, YouTube Queens or Feather. And remember the challenge that we said, okay.

00:53:17:21 - 00:53:31:07
Speaker 3
Don't forget it. We challenge you. We challenge you to and to people. And if you do it and you tell us, well, we will send you some Cheetos yes.

00:53:31:07 - 00:53:33:00
Speaker 4
Yeah, absolutely. Why not?

00:53:33:01 - 00:53:35:14
Speaker 3
You know what? We're not that.

00:53:35:23 - 00:53:36:20
Speaker 4
We'll say he's a genius.

00:53:36:26 - 00:53:39:08
Speaker 3
You some Cheetos. Okay. All right. Let us know but yeah.

00:53:39:08 - 00:53:40:19
Speaker 4
Word of mouth. Work your mouth, people.

00:53:43:06 - 00:53:47:01
Speaker 1
Word of mouth. Work your mouth. Okay. Okay. Bye bye. Guys.